What's the best age for getting married?

@manu619 (450)
India
June 16, 2008 8:07am CST
Hi guys and gals... Hopes you all are doing great... Lemme ask you people... What's the best age for getting married? For me i think a person should get married around the age of 20-30.So that when you're 60 you won't have to work so hard to send your kids to college or university. LOL.You can retire earlier. What do you think?
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11 responses
• United States
16 Jun 08
DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!! I wish someone said that to me the first two marriages! ;) Really, I believe no one should get married until they are out of their 20's, in your 20's you are trying on different lives you could live- you really have no idea who you are going to be in your 30's, and even then I believe there really should be a class in high school about marriage and partnerships.
• United States
16 Jun 08
That's just not fair. While it is better to be more settled in your life, that doesn't mean no one can ever get married early and be happy. Not everyone "tries on different lives" and while it is true that everyone changes throughout their lives, there's no doctrine that says it's impossible to be self-aware and know who you are in the first place. I got marred at 21 and I had nothing but people mocking me, criticizing me and telling me I shouldn't be getting married at my age. Sorry, but just because someone else's life didn't work out the way they wanted or because they were dumb kids until they turned 30. Sorry, but no, I'm myself, I know myself, my life is not yours and I know what I want. I'm not going to waste 10 years of my life for someone else's mistake.
• United States
16 Jun 08
Trust me- your not waisting your life- your taking your time to get to know yourself and potential life mate. The divorce rate is so high for a reason- I wish you luck, and I really do wish I was not cynical about marriage.
@ajaygupta (168)
• India
16 Jun 08
YE, physically 20-25 is an ideal age to get married. But what i feel is the right time to get married is when u r well settled i whatever profession u r and u r sure enough that u will be able to take care of ur family in a comfortable way without any sort of restrain and second thoughts coming up. In my opinion the most important thing to have a lovely married life is nice and sufficient income, as there is no love and attraction in this world that can suppress and go on than the basic neccesities of life. Just think u have an income where u can not fulfill the wishes of ur wife and kids [if have] not that they want to have a helipad with a chopper on ur roof but simply some dress or ornaments and then before thinking twice either asuure them to get it soon or just a straight no. May be my statement is one face of the coin but it is a face aint it ?..........
• India
16 Jun 08
and may be socially u r overaged to marry but then when u r able to meet all the needs and wishes of ur family u will cherish it life long along with ur partner by ur side. may be u won't have kid of ur own but then there are other ways too to have a kid today by the help of science. there are a lot of points that can be raised on ur topic of discussion but then the debate would go enless..................
@miryam (6505)
• Italy
16 Jun 08
the best?? you can devorced............ i'm devorcede, in my marriage nothing was good i'm sorry myryam
• United States
16 Jun 08
Not everyone wants or will have kids, so that's not a factor for some people. There is no "right age" to get married. You get married when you feel close and committed enough to one person that you want to marry them. You shouldn't try to push getting married.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
16 Jun 08
Not everyone wants or will have kids, so that's not a factor for some people yea thats so very true...but for some reason some ppl assume this sort of thing which in this day and age is so illogical
@vera5d (4005)
• United States
16 Jun 08
I don't really think there is a right or wrong age - you have to be mature enough to understand the commitment involved though if children or other things are important than maybe you should get married before 35? I think though it all depends on the people. 25-35 is a good range for most though.
@naseeha (1382)
• India
16 Jun 08
Yes for a girl it should be before she is 25 and for a male it should be before 35. Because it is good for health reasons and also yes you can retire earlier. Here in india girls are married off before they are 30 at the most.
@naseeha (1382)
• India
16 Jun 08
This is my own personal opinion and i hope nobody blasts me for that.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
16 Jun 08
I think a person should get married when they've found that special someone and are ready to tie the knot...For some that may happen in their 20s and 30s and for others that may happen well into their 70s and 80s....AGE doesnt matter....what the heart and soul feels is all thats important IMO
@sahyd2don (2942)
• India
16 Jun 08
i think you are right.but it will be better if they get married before 25. we will be on the safer side.
@jiangsl (377)
• China
16 Jun 08
yeah,I also think one man should marry around the age of 25-35,and one woman should marry around 20-30.These are good age for people to marry.
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
you're right but the most important there, are you ready to your responbility as a husband/wife to your partner.
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
16 Jun 08
Hi, I feel that there is no 'best' age (don't blast me for this, just my opinion). When the right person appears, well, why not? What if he or she doesn't appear even after you have past your 30th year? Would you just get married because that's the best time to? However, I'd like to say that it's best not to marry when you are still 15 or 16. After all, who's going to take care of your kids when you still need to finish your college? It'd be ideal when you are ready financially, emotional and of course the right girl / guy appears! Good Luck!