How much do you put up with b4 your say enough and throw in the towel

@lvnstn (35)
United States
June 16, 2008 9:29am CST
My friend has been married for 3 yr now and her and huby been thru alot. i mean alot in my book. hubby used to be sweet and great then he got mean and angry and somtimes htey both were physical towards each other., they have had hard times agreeing on ther kids upbrining, and these days hubby has calmed down and the physical is gone. hubby has had affair with her best friend and she took him back. things seem beter now but im not seeing the warmth between them that i think should be there. im around alot she like my sister and so aside from being in the relationship i am around alot and see alot. she just doesnt seem happy or more so she is happy and light hearted and he is always so serious even when she trys to be funny and uplifting he has serious responce. when she askes him why he cant just enjoy life a bit he says " i cant i have to be serious or nithing get s done around here" what is that isnt life what you make it. opinions pls
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@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
16 Jun 08
well, it kind of has to be her decision when she's had enough. for me personally i would have been out the door when he cheated. maybe even when the physical stuff started except since she was giving it to him too. i think she needs to consider if she really wants to live the rest of her life like that. my husband gets in moods sometimes and i tell him to knock it off because i don't like anyone bringing me down. we have kids together and i love them, but i'm doing them no good if they aren't seeing how a loving relationship should be. and i can't be a good mommy if i'm sad or unhappy all the time. talk to your friend and see what she feels.