Do you have a cure for stress?

@shamsta19 (3224)
United States
June 16, 2008 12:23pm CST
I 've really been going through it lately. I've been stressed out over sever recent events in my life and need some ideas on how to stay stress free. Girl problems, money problems, Living arrangement problems. What do you do for stress relief?
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@everafter (378)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
shamsta19, everyone goes through that point in our lives. The only cure for your stress is your mind. Make sure you need to relax and think of the things you should ought to do. I suggest, if you were in my place: 1. Id go to a place so serene and quiet like a trip to the beach where nobody is around (there is a place here in the philippines) and no disturbing sound. 2. list on a paper what has been stressing you a lot lately. 3. one by one think of the things you think you should do so that you will be stress free when you go home. As for me, it came to a point when I got sick and depression is killing me. I went to this nice and quiet place and spent three days with two of the best friend just sitting on the beach side and reading books or just lying around. it helped me clear my mind and focus on important things. :D
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• Philippines
17 Jun 08
Thanks. I hope you are okay now! :D
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@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
16 Jun 08
Where I live is close to the ocean. I actually lived a block away from the beach. Recently I have moved, and while I am planning on moving back to the beach, as of right now it is not within walking distance like it used to be. THIS WAS MY HAVEN WHEN I WAS STRESSED!!! I'd go down to the beach and sit out there for awhile and it would calm me. I TOTALLY agree with this response, thank you!
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@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
18 Jun 08
I am trying to be.
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@besslee (24)
• China
16 Jun 08
Hi, As my response for another discussion,I always talk to my friends or do something with my friends,like shopping,seeing a moive,doing some sports and so on, to stay stree free.I think friends are the best way.They sometimes can help me solve the problem, but sometimes they don't even need to do anyting else and just listen to me. Friends are always on your side.
@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
16 Jun 08
This is very true. The thing is though I am from NY I live in SC all my friends are scattered throughout the US and surrounding territories. I promise you not one lives in SC. I wish I could hang out with my friends like that I do believe that would be an excellent stress reliever.
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@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
16 Jun 08
NY -- New York SC -- South Carolina for all our overseas friends who may not know
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• China
17 Jun 08
Then make friends in SC.We all need friends.
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@bbsr13 (4196)
• India
16 Jun 08
Hello,shamasta!we all have some sort of problem or other.don't take it seriously.to get rid of stress you should vent your feelings and emotions to people close to you.the more you bottle up,the more you will find it difficult to find hope.avoid polarising your thoughts.have good diets and enough fluids.when you are tensed,certain hormones work over time and to balance that,have proper diets.eat enough carbo-rich foods as eating carbohydrates boosts your level of triptophan and serotonin- the two feel good brain chemicals.another important nutrient you need to fight stress is vitamin B6,found in meat liver,whole grains,and vegetables like potatoes.you may even consume honey.honey is the right cure for stress.diets sweetened with honey may be beneficial in decreasing anxiety.besides try to meditate for at least 30 minutes. practice this formula and get rid of stress.thanx.
@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
16 Jun 08
Honey is a natural healing agent. Didnt know about the carbs though. I wonder if I could snack away stress? If I could get my hands on some Ackee and Saltfish down here I'd really lose some stress. Thank you for your post I know what Im cooking for dinner tonite!
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@risris24 (712)
• United States
18 Jun 08
I hear you on that and you are not alone, I have been having musch of the same problems, actually the exact same, and in the beginning I moped around like whoa is me but now I came to terms with certain issues and just realize that if you are in a negative situation just try to think of some things like improvements you can make on your end that would make life easier for you, especially since when it comes to people (your girl problems) you cannot change someone else. I'm not saying change for her, but like me, if you want things to work out, and there are some things that are not good right now, look at it from a different perspective and see if there is anything that you can do to improve the situation, without changing who you are or what you believe in. As for the living arrangements, I live with my sister and it is so tense sometimes and over the smallest and most insignificant things that I find when it is like that, I either go in my room and close the door and put on a good movie and try to forget about it or I remove myself from my situation and go by a friends place or hang out with people who I know I will have a good time with an djust try to forget. Because tomorrow is a new day and maybe if you sleep on it, you will come up with a better solution. As for finances, I think most of us are in the same boat and all I can say is if you are in a secure job even if the money isn't so great stick with it because right now job security is key. You can always look for something else to do as an added income, but with todays rising prices of everything, how much income is really enough for average working people like us?
@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
19 Jun 08
I do ok financially but I had a hard few months and a breakup just been down. Things are looking better. I find alone time is a good stress reliever for me. Just fishing for more ideas. I'm living with mom while I'm between moves. It's looking like I'll be here through the summer. It's stressful, and crowded. I really like having my own place. Oh man the freedom is great!!! Thing is apartments don't really open up around here until after the tourist season ends. So I am sort of stuck until the end of summer less I get lucky and I am looking!!!!
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@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Sorry was rambling. Thank you for your response. Believe me I will try to look forward to a new day.
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• India
16 Jun 08
stress can be managed by ones own firm determination first of all reasons should be seen of stress. avoid negative thinking .tryto use yoga and the help of meditation. stress is another part of life so it should be handled properly.
@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
16 Jun 08
I have tried and still do meditation. Do you ever find yourself so stressed even that doesn't work? Sometimes I cannot focus my mind to meditate and thats when I know I'm too stressed out. I do believe in the power of the mind and meditating though and I am willing to try.
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• United States
19 Jun 08
I'm therapy for that right now.. after next thursay i'll give you some tips on how to relieve stress how about that... My therapist is going to teach me some stress excercises thursday
@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
20 Jun 08
Hey share them with me. I'm open to anything.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
2 Aug 08
Go have good friends-do exercise and never take ssues too personally when in relationships!
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@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
3 Aug 08
Never take issues to personally in relationships? This may actually be some very good advice. It might save me from getting into a lot of arguments.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
18 Jul 08
Nothing gets me more relaxed then the smell of lavender, petting my kitties (especially if they are purring) and (oddly enough) sleeping. Nothing is more soothing to me than a warm comfortable bed. Even better if my boyfriend is allready lying in it so I can curl up beside him.
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@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
20 Jul 08
That's indeed hard, if she causes you stress she is the last one you should cuddle up with to get the stress away. I hope someone posts here with a stress reliefing method that works for you. My boyfriend sometimes plays violent pc games to get his stress out, no idea if that would work for you as we all seem to have to find our own ways. Also a friend of mine uses certain tablets that are based on natural ingredients and will relieve stress too. They are called 'valeriaan tablets' in Dutch. If you would be interested I can look up the translation somewhere as I have no idea what it's called in English, I never talked about them in English before .
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@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
21 Jul 08
I love the video games. Not necessarily violent ones but I'm loving those rpg's right now. I get absorbed for days months on end with final fantasy games.
@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
20 Jul 08
Sounds wonderful just don't sound like me. I would climb in bed with my girl but sometimes she is the cause of stress. I still love cuddling up to hewr in bed though.
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• United States
19 Jun 08
One thing I can tell you, stress is a silent killer. Feeling overwhelmed with so many problems, feeling isolated from friends and family can lead to feeling stressed out all the time. The main thing to remember in stress management is to keep breathing. When I say keep breathing, I don't mean taking "normal" breaths, but breathing from the diaphram. Try lying on the floor or on the bed, and put a fairly heavy book on your stomach and concentrate on making the book go up and down just by breathing. You'd be surprised just how badly we all breathe. By posting here on myLot, you can vent frustrations, ask for advice or just use the other members as sounding boards. At any rate, there's not "cure" per se for stress, but it can be managed. Hope this helps some.
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@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Oh trust me I know this breathing technique. Sometimes I have to catch myself when I am really stressed and just breath. Helps to get me back on base you know?
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@Zmugzy (773)
18 Jul 08
Man... if you live by the ocean you got it made! I wish I could take a stroll along the beach in the early morning. I think it's one of the most relaxing things you can do. Getting close to nature, looking at the stars... these things can alleviate the the symptoms of stress for a while at least.
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@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
18 Jul 08
I still do this when I can. I moved a little further away from the beach so it's a little harder now but I am moving in a few months and will be right back on the coast again.
• United States
17 Jul 08
I get lots of sleep. If I am stressed, a good nights sleep always puts things back into a bit of order and things don't look near as bad as they did.
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• United States
17 Jul 08
Hummm, bet if you tried it, your stress levels would drop significantly.
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@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
17 Jul 08
I'm not much of a sleeper. I get four hours a night and I am good to go usually. Plus I am a night owl anyway so I am out most nights or at least up.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
2 Aug 08
I listen to music and or I play games. Sometimes reading will help relieve stress too. And all of these are harmless "escapes". On occasion there is meditation, there is also sitting quietly outside at night. Its nice just to sit, look at the stars and just take it all in. One other thing I'd look into is nutrition. Maybe take in more tomatoes, potatoes, bananas, garlic, and other serotonin producers for the body.
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@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
18 Jul 08
I cannot believe that I just saw this and you slammed southerners! I am a southerner to my bones you know and last I checked my intellect was ok. Although I will acknowledge that there is a difference that requires some adjustment. So are you still stressed? Like you I don't sleep much. I have a few outlets for stress thought. I write. This is my big one. The act of creation is great. I read. Usually I have at least a couple of books going on at once. I clean. Weird one I know but the "mindless" activity helps me clear my mind. I talk with friends. Like you my friends are spread out across the country, very few are in my immediate physcial area. So I get on the IM or on my phone and talk. I am lucky I have friends in nearly every time zone world wide so I can talk at nearly anytime day or night. I listen to music with my eyes closed. Just "veg". Depending upon what has got me wrapped around the axel will somewhat drive my music selection but I have music for every taste and every moment of my life from classical and opera to hip hop. I dream "out loud". Mine is usually about building my business so I work on my business plan and how to build it, what I need to do and the vision I have. I write down ideas, thoughts, etc.
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@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Oh my god please don't take that personal. That fact you can distinguish doesn't put you into the class I'm talking about and it is not just in the South. I am just fed up with South Carolina. With that being said lets get to the topic at hand. We have many of the same hobbies I see. Even down to the mindless activity. I need to start calling those friends as I so often neglect to do so. And I have many people who are probably mad they haven't heard from me in a while. I have identified the sources of my stress and unfortunately the answer to my problem seems to be monetary. No money can't buy happiness but it pays a lot of bills. Thanks for your responses.
@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
18 Jul 08
I didn't at all. I hope you know I was pulling your chain a bit. Believe me being a southerner doesn't make be blind to the faults. A friend recently sent me one of the funniest videos ever to the tune of Dueling Banjos ... its funny because it isn't made up. Well of course it is made up but of real people doing real things - scary funny. UTube somewhere, I will find it for you if you like. You are right money, or the lack thereof, can certainly brings on stress. I know that after my divorce many years ago I thought I would lose my mind. My ex left me destitute and then proceeded to steal from me, including my identity. By the time he was done I was nearly a quarter of a million in debt. The retirement funds gone, investments gone, credit gone, equity in my home gone; I really thought life was over. Some days I still do because I am still rebuilding and it is hard. But, money is only a tool and not a measuring stick. We place so much of our personal self-worth into how much we have that we forget that it can all be gone in a instant.
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