Question for the ladies !

@elitess (5071)
Ipswich, England
June 17, 2008 11:59am CST
This question has been stuck in my head for a few hours so i finally decided to post it here. Ladies, if your husband (or future husband for those of you who are not married yet) would sexually molest your daughter and you would found out about it, what would you do ?
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9 responses
• Canada
17 Jun 08
If i was with a man who were to sexually molest anyone, or physically or verbally asult them for that matter, I would leave the relationship, call the police, and turn the man over to the authorities.
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@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
17 Jun 08
Good, that is a good response to this situation, thank you for commenting !
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@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
17 Jun 08
Are you seriously asking this? I don't think you need a bunch of us telling you what you should do. The plain out answer is that is sick and twisted and he should be punished for what he did. I can honestly say that I would probably kill him no matter how much I love the person that is wrong. We as parents are there to protect our children. And if you can't see that you are a horrible person. Why would a mother put her child through something like that. And for asking what a person would do I think you already know all of our answers. That is just sick.
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@Ravenladyj (22919)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Whoa!!! why are you so upset over the question? I think its a very logical and damn good question actually....You'd be surprised at how many ppl WOULDNT DO ANYTHING...i KNOW PPL LIKE THAT... and you are ASSUMING that the poster is in this situation but the REALITY IS NOWHERE in the original post was that EVER mentioned You need to calm down nicole..I'm sorry but you just blew up and got nasty with the OP for no reason at all IMO
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@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
17 Jun 08
I am not in this situation, and i would never do this ( i am a man), but the truth is only some persons would turn him over, some would just ask him to stop, and if he promises that he will, they would not proceed further, some cases have happened here in my country, so that is the reason why i started the discussion in the first place - it was later found out that the person that turned him over was the daughter when she reached an older age.
• Canada
17 Jun 08
Who in their right mind would hurt a child see a child being hurt and let it gone. They need to get the beat down just as well as the person doing it. That is just sick and twisted. Children are so innocent and pure and to corrupt a child like that a person needs some serious help. In fact they should just be shot on the spot. You find it logical and and a damn good question. That is your opinion not mine. I don't like the question and I really don't have to justify myself on it. To have a question like that even in your mind and having to ask people what a person would do in a situation like that is beyond me. You have your opinions and I have mine. I was just voicing my opinion I really didn't get nasty at all. It was a little mean yes but not that mean. By the way what does OP and IWO mean.
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• United States
19 Jun 08
When my daughter started acting a bit strange,having trouble in the bathroom and such I really didn't think much of it at 1st.She was four years old,I woke up one morning and she had pooped in my hair.That morning I sat her down and asked her just what was it she was trying to tell me.After asking many questions about the few people that were in her life,and or what made her start putting her poop everywhere.She finally told me what her father did to her. I told her she was safe and it would never happen again.I told him we were through and sent him on his way.He denied it but he never tried to fight to see her so that only proves his guilt more.She couldn't have known the things she told me that morning if she hadn't experienced it. I made out police reports,and tried to get something done.It isn't easy when the child is just four years old,at first when she had to tell her story to an officer she told the same story,but by the fifth time she had had enough and started making up silly stories.We were told she wouldn't do well in court and that was it he was free. I feel fortunate that I am not one of those mothers stuck in a position of having to let their children have visits with a man that has done this to them .However it does happen. I moved to help my daughter feel safe,and I took her to counseling.For two years she would scream when taking a poop I would go in and kneel beside her and hug while she went. I am happy to say she came through it all O.K. I have my difficulties with her today but I don't attribute a whole lot of it to this having happened when she was four. Jas
@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
19 Jun 08
It is good that you found out sooner than later and that you managed to get her away from him even though he couldn't be convicted. Let's hope she won't have any side effects from this in her life when she grows up. Anyway you have done all that you could of and i think you are a good example to follow in a situation like this. (Now i wished i could award another best response ) Thanks for commenting here
@ZephyrSun (7382)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Will this be used against me if I ever have to go through this? LOL. I would seriously cut his parts off and then let the police have him. I don't know how women stay with men that do this. I personally could not be with a man that even hit/spanked my children. I believe that women should be held just as accountable as the men when the woman is aware of what is going on and does nothing about it.
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@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
18 Jun 08
No, this can't be used against you LoL since your real name it's not present. I agree with all that you said, thanks for the comment !
@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
17 Jun 08
I hope that I would act rationally and turn him over to the authorities for justice to be served. This way I would be able to be around for my daughter. If I didn't act rationally, I'd castrate him and then kill him for daring to touch my child.
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@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
17 Jun 08
Yes, i guess that is the real question - would you be rational enough to act in a way that lets justice be served, and you to be around for your daughter, or would you manage him yourself. Thanks for the comment .
@littleone3 (2065)
17 Jun 08
If this did happen to me i would report him to the police and made sure that he never came near me or my daughter again. I would want to kill him.
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@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
17 Jun 08
Behind bars and a restraining order should do the job just fine - wanting to kill him is only natural. Thanks for the response !
@wahm805 (76)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Oh my god! I would call the police on him and report him so fast and that would be the end of the relationship. Calling the police would be the tamest thing I would be able to do as I would probably try to kill him! I am not sure how women can continue relationships with spouses who have been proven to be abusive in anyway to their children.
@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
17 Jun 08
Yes, that is a good thing to do, yet a hard thing just to call the police without trying to kill him, or bit him up - anyway you have to remember that you are a woman and he is a man, so he will probably win in a fight. I think those are part of the type of women that don't get out of the relationships where the husbands beat them up, because they believe it will end someday, or that that is normal.
@megaplaza (1441)
• Nigeria
17 Jun 08
Thats an obvious sign that the guy is sick, and need psychological help. Also you need to move out of the home or end the marriage temporary until he seeks medical help and got healed.
@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
17 Jun 08
I agree that the guy is seek and needs psychological help - but i don't know if he should ever be left to get near the molested daughter - in fact i believe a restraining order would be just perfect in this case (along with some long years of prison time to make him think of what he did).
@spalladino (17921)
• United States
17 Jun 08
If I were in a situation like this I would take my daughter to the police station and file a report without saying a word to the child molester. This would give the police the best possible chance of obtaining any evidence they would need to convict him because, ultimately, that is what I would want...him sitting behind bars for a long, long time.
@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
17 Jun 08
I think this would be the right thing to do, so that he pays for what he did for a long time, without making you suffer even more in case you did something irrational - the only question that pops in my mind is "Would you be able to keep quiet and not say anything to him until he gets arrested ?" Thanks for the comment, take care !