Having a baby
By trell8402
@trell8402 (274)
United States
June 17, 2008 2:05pm CST
I'm about to begin cycle 3 of Clomid, a fertility drug, and still no baby. My progesterone is even going up, which means I'm not ovulating. I've just about given up hope on a baby, and my poor husband is trying to give me hope and be supportive, but I've just about had enough. My heart breaks knowing I'm not able to have a child, and my husband said he'll be happy even if we don't ever have children. I don't really know what to do anymore. I know it says it takes up to 6 cycles on Clomid to get pregnant, but I went from 50mg/month to 100mg/month, and now they're going to increase it to 150mg/month. I'm really about to give up hope, and if I hope that if I have a baby, I will have one. And if I don't, I don't. Has anyone else been through this or have any sensible advice?
3 responses
@newtondak (3946)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I have not experienced what you are going through - I'm sure it is heartbreaking, and more so with each time that there's no pregnancy to show for your effort.
I do not wish to minimize your heartache in not having your own biological child, but might you consider adoption or perhaps foster care?
@trell8402 (274)
• United States
17 Jun 08
We have thought about adoption, but I guess to me there's something about having your own (biological) child. Yes, I can love an adopted child just as much as my own, and if we don't eventually have children, we will probably adopt.
@newtondak (3946)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I completely understand. We have family members who used an anonymous sperm donor to conceive, so their children are actually hers biologically. We have a niece, however, who had endometriosis (sp?) with severe scarring and the doctor has said that she'll never be able to conceive. Her husband resisted adoption for many years, but has recently reconsidered. They are, for the present, serving as foster parents.
@trell8402 (274)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Well, in my case, the doctor didn't see any endometriosis. And my husband had a semen analysis, and it came out good. So maybe the fertility treatments will work, but if it doesn't, I would love to adopt. I've been scanning adoption resources, but I haven't really been searching because we're still hoping for our own.
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I took 6 cycles of Clomid and was unsuccesful at achieving a pregnancy. After that, I went via artificial insemination for three months before finally conceiving. My doctor told me that the chances of conception with Clomid peak at 3 months and then drop. It's not recommended to take for more than 6 months. I know the stress and anxiety you are going through. Hopefully this cycle will be the one and if not, there are other alternatives available. Speak with your doctor or a fertility specialist who can recommend additional recourses. Good luck!
@trell8402 (274)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Maybe this will be the lucky cycle **fingers crossed**. I'm hoping we don't have to go as far as artificial insemination, not just because of the cost but mainly because of the time. We're still young, but I don't want to wait too late to have children either. Thanks a million for the info!!
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Personally I have not been though something like this. I have heard however that you just need to relax your mind. Forget about "making" a new baby and just focus on intamicy with your partner. I have heard that if you do that and relax your body your more likely to get pregnant then if you are focusing on the topic too much. Good luck. I hope everything works out for you and you can have a new bundle of joy. 
@trell8402 (274)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Thanks. Maybe I am stressing and thinking about it too much. I have heard that does have an effect on reproducing, so I'll try that. Thanks.
