Tuesday and what I'm felling
June 17, 2008 2:19pm CST
People you tell them how you feel and they won't listen. I have been telling the people in my house that thing are going to change and they won't listen. I have told them I am not going to be the only around here that is doing the cleaning and cooking for everyone. And they got to start helping. I'm not everyone's maid. There are three other people in this house that can help. They haven't fixed my water pipes yet. So I still don't have any hot water.I got cold water running to the bathroom, so I can take cold showers, but no hot water.
• United States
17 Jun 08
The best way to fix this for me has been to delegate duties. And if they are not done, I take things away. For instance, I have two teenage boys who would rather spend the entire day on the computer playing games, as opposed to getting their chores done. So, when something isn't done, and I have to do it for them, they lose an entire day of internet connection or I lock their computers with a password so that they cannot use it. If there is another chore not done for the day, I take away something else, such as game boys or play time outside. It has gotten to the point that my boys will be sitting at the kitchen table, staring at a wall because they have not done their chores. After a day of that, trust me, things get done around here. Not sure if this helps, but know that you are not the only one in this situation. The best way to help it, is to lay down the law, and then follow it to the letter.
17 Jun 08
well, i think you have to be more firm with the 3 other people that are living with you... they can't just let you do everything and be so irresponsible... just go on strike and leave the house in a really total mess if they are not wiling to help you until they get the message... that's what i will do... good luck and have a nice day...
• Orangeville, Ontario
17 Jun 08
I don't know what your living arrangements are but I certainly wouldn't put up with the cold showers? Don't the others need hot water as well? My husband couldn't fix that problem so I would be on the phone to find someone that could. I know what you mean, though, about being tired of being everyone's maid. I have two daughters aged 11 and 15 and they don't seem to help at all around here. I can't believe how fast dirty dishes accumulate in my kitchen. And they're not mine! People walk all over us because we let them! We have to learn to stand up for ourselves. Unfortunately my husband says that since I am not out in the workforce, my job is looking after the home (and him). But he is not adverse to getting the girls to help out and he does do his share around the house... sometimes. I have a chronic illness (pain and fatigue) so I need help. People keep telling me I should go on strike but I don't have the guts to do it.
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jun 08
strawpurple if you keep doing for everyone they are going to let you. three other people are going to have to start helping and you are going to make it so that they have to. go on a 'strike. fix your own meals but no one elses. wash your dishes'but on one elses. and call a plumber and get those pipes fixed since the others do not seem to care. let them pay for the plumber. declare a strawpurple day just for you and let them do all the work.
18 Jun 08
i think the best way for your problem is that, do the task that you can perform all alone. Leave the other task if you feel that you're tired and can't help with it. Don't count how much you do in your home cause it makes you feel sick and may compromise you're health. There are three other people in your house, keep that in mind. Those persons have feelings also and have conscience. Live it to themselves. Perform things that you can do. Live your day in a happy, lively environment...