if you 23 then you move out of your parents house would you feel bad about it
By pricessfafa
@pricessfafa (138)
United States
June 17, 2008 11:55pm CST
Last week i move of my mom house cause she always cursing me out over some stupid stuff,it's me and my brother, she seem to like my brother more than me,she gve him more attention, and i think being the youngest and her only daughter she should've give me attention, if i go out then come home at 12am she' start cursing me over it,the other day she say something to me,i feel hurt and that's when i realize it's enough i need to move out,when i was about to move she told me not to move i told her it's better if we have a distance relationship,then i actually move out, now she's making a big deal out of it she's calling everyone to tell the that i left the house,i love her to death but she just don't see that, i'm just wondering why she's treating me that way, since i move i feel so sad about it. Can someone tell me if i take the right decision
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@latriciajones (846)
• United States
18 Jun 08
i think you made a good decision and in the long run your mother will see it too.
my mom was just like that i was living with her and i even paid her for living there, but she would say that i had to be in her house by 10pm or i wouldnt get in. that hurt me because she would let my younger brother come and go whenever he wanted to. after i realized that we were arguing too much i decided to leave and move out for the sake of our relationship, we are the best of friends now and we talk about everything. So dont get down because the it worth it for you and your mother to be closer.
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@pricessfafa (138)
• United States
19 Jun 08
thanks so much, i hope she can get over it, cause i want us to be close
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
29 Jun 08
I was only twenty years old when I moved out. The fact is, I needed my psace, and moving out o the house was the only way that I was going to gt that space. I think you made te right decision to moe, if tat's what you thought you eed to do.
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Hi dear,
You needed to do what made you happy and will bring you peace . It is not good to have stress in the house. Your mom misses you now and she never thought you would up and move . My parents are still missing me and I have moved away now for a good 2 years.
Just try to keep in touch once things blow over.
@squirt051305 (381)
• United States
18 Jun 08
I think before you had moved out you should of had a talk with her so the both of you can tell each other how you feel. Your of age so you are able to move but I don't think you should of gotten off on bad terms with your mother. How does your dad think about all of this?
@inuprincess2006 (36)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Hi all! I think that everyone should get out on their own as adults. When my father's verbal taunts pushed me too far in June of last year, I packed a couple suitcases and left. But even people who have a good relationship with their parents need to at least have their own place. Pricessfafa, if living at home was extremely upsetting for you, then you made the right decision. I wish you the best!
Namaste,
Becky
@pricessfafa (138)
• United States
18 Jun 08
i just couldn't take it anymore,but i still love its just like i think the distance would be better.
thanks for taking the time to help
@nicole_18 (51)
• Philippines
18 Jun 08
don't get mad to your mom,since you are the youngest and the only daughter i think she's just protecting you.our mom is the only people who will know what's best for us so don't take it as negative.i don't think also that your brother receiving much more attention than yours,maybe you are just so sensitive about it.talk to your mom and tell her what you feel.it's important to have a communication.if i were you go back to your house and talk to your mom.maybe she's worried right now since you moved.
you know what,i did that also when i was young but when my father passed away i blamed myself because i didn't showed him when he was still alive how much i love him.
@tschu8 (136)
• United States
18 Jun 08
I think that the right thing to do is to move out. You should not feel bad becaue you are an adult now and it is time to take on your own responsibilites. It is apart of growing and your mom should want this for you because it is the natural thing to do. I moved out when I was 18 and my mom cried when I left but she was there to help me and make sure that I had everything that I needed and has always been there for me and now we have probably even a better relationship. She has become not only my mother but also my friend.
@pricessfafa (138)
• United States
18 Jun 08
thanks so much you guys,i feel a whole lot better now, i love you mylot friends
@honeydew82174 (1720)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Maybe she is having a struggle with you leaving the nest if you are the youngest! You need to get out on your own and learn your own mistakes but it's hard for us mom's to watch are kids fall on there face. She has taken are of you all these years and if you are gone now what does she do? She is not trying to be a pain just a mother.
@tikaldema23 (96)
• Guatemala
18 Jun 08
I think you did make the right decision. If you really couldn't stand being with her anymore and all you ever did was fight, then definitely someone had to do something. It just isn't healthy to live in an environment where you don't feel happy, plus everyone needs more privacy when they grow up. I think that she does love you and when she realizes that you are happy and it was for the best then she'll stop bugging you about it.
@pricessfafa (138)
• United States
18 Jun 08
now she's so shock, she didn't know i would actually move out.
thanks
@expertechguy (23)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Honestly, I dont know your situation but you should have moved out a long time ago. Im 18 and my mom is hinting around to me to find an apartment with my girlfriend. I wouldn't feel bad about moving out. I've wondered how my mom would feel if I moved out. She probably wanted to out a long time ago.
