Some people whom I'm not close with take me in as very aloof...

Hello gunslinger, I'm not exactly sure about the impression that I usually give. Most of them give different feedbacks and I don't care that much. I just do whatever I want to, live my life according to my standards and try to be happy. There is nothing wrong with you being aloof, but then, since you seem to want to change it (which I think is good), the first thing that you have to realize or do is simple: Be SINCERE. Be YOURSELF, and learn to appreciate others. It is also important that you accept your own faults and weaknesses, it is only then that you'd realize that they aren't that bad after all; that these traits, once recognized could even be your asset. Don't let others' opinions scare you. You don't even have to please them, but you should also be aware that it is important not to cause anyone's pain. Be considerate and others will do the same thing to you. Life is tough, but it can also be fun too. Just live it the way you want to. Never let fear of rejection scare you. Let out your real self, people are just as kind as you. They won't bite too. Have a great day!