Are you afraid of being alone?
June 18, 2008 9:51am CST
I had a roomate a few years back who hated being alone. She needed someone with her when she watched TV. If no one was there, she would call someone on the phone. She didnt like to drive to the store alone. Everything she did involved either me, or our other roomate. I am the opposite. I can entertain myself perfectly fine so I was usually in my bedroom or reading in the kitchen. She would accuse me of being "anti-social" and that upset me because its not like I was avoiding her.. I just dont need someone around at all times. I am the kind of person who LOVES to be alone. I dont mean to say I dont enjoy others company but I cherish my alone time. I can read quietly. I can write in my journal. I can tidy up the house. I can have some tea and look out the window at the animals running around. I dont even mind just sitting quietly, doing nothing. I really enjoy my own company. If you dont like being around yourself, how do you expect others to enjoy being around you? What about you? Are you a person who dosent like to be alone? Or are you like me; the kind of person who could spend days alone and not get lonely?
17 people like this
18 Jun 08
i'm not afraid to be alone. i'm already used to do things on my own. i love also going to mall strolling and watching movie alone. i do enjoy my space alone. im really used to lots of people around me. but there are times i want a quiet world. that's why when im alone here in our house, i do all stuff that i enjoy doing alone. like eating, surfing the net, watching a series movie, cleaning the house, cooking and many more. there are people who cannot really live on their own. they are dependent to others.
18 Jun 08
Well it is not bad to be alone sometimes. It is actually a self unwind thing. It is one ways of knowing yourself more if you tend to be alone sometime and have some peace of mind. I do sometimes love to be alone and go malling. But i believe that "NO man is an island" and we can't live if we dontahev any companion at all. I can't live without friends and without someone to talk too.
• United States
19 Jun 08
I think that alone time is one of the best times. I love my family and cherish all of my time with them but when my husband is working and my kids are at school I have the place to myself and it is peaceful. I can get things done that needs to be done. I can read. I can just sit and relax or watch the movie that I want to watch. If I feel like shopping, I have nobody to rush me and I just enjoy it. Yes I do sometimes like to go out shopping with a friend or my husband but when you are alone you are free to just take your time and do as you please. Everybody needs their alone time and I think that someone that feels the need to always have someone with this suffers from some sort of insecurities.
• United States
19 Jun 08
Hi Tee, I'm not afraid to be alone. I actually like having some alone time. I'm around people most of the time, which I love, but there are times when I feel I just need to be by myself to do some things. I don't believe there is anything wrong with liking to be alone. That, to me, does not make you anti-social at all. I know some people who actually don't like going to social gatherings or at least be there for a long time.
• United States
20 Jun 08
I'm with you Springlady, I spend a lot of my time trying to get away from people so I can be alone. Besides, we Christians are never alone are we? That's one of the best gifts I received when I became saved, the feeling of not ever being alone again.
3 Sep 08
I lost my job seven months ago and have to be alone for 13 hours each day until my husband comes home. I don't like being alone for this many hours because I can't find enough things to do. I have a small co-op so there is not much cleaning to do. I read everyday but not for very long. I am seeking employment but the job market is tough right now. I have to say that I am a person that likes to be around people.
24 Aug 08
I usually like my alone time I get. My daughter, who is 25 years old, and I share a basement suite together and so I am very seldom alone, only when she goes out. So I like my alone time so that I can get some things done without anyone here. I also like to do my mylotting when I am alone so that I can concentrate on what I am saying instead of trying to answer her when she talks to me. My youngest brother used to hate being alone. He lived with my mom and dad till he was about 24 and then moved in with his girlfriend and then broke up a couple years later and then moved into his own house. He hated being alone so much he rented his house out and moved in with my sister and her two boys and slept on the couch so that he was never alone for too long. He then moved back into his own house for about 6 months and didn't like being alone again so he moved into my mom's upstairs suite. He has lived there now for about 4 years and my mom just sold her house so he now has to move into his own house again and be alone again. He is worried about it. He is now 39 years old and still afraid of living alone.
10 Aug 08
hi tee! i'm also the kind of person who enjoys times of being alone. but i also know how to enjoy times with friends. there are times to spend with friends and there are times to spend with only myself. unlike your former roommate, i can enjoy watching tv alone, i can go to the grocery alone, i can go shopping alone. sometimes, i actually prefer to be alone in watching tv and in shopping. i also enjoy reading and there are times that i get so engrossed with what i'm reading that i would choose it over going out with friends. i also have hobbies that i do alone like writing to my pen friends, working on my scrapbook, cross-stitching, etc. when i was in college and i was living in a boarding house, i learned to do stuffs on my own. i can't rely on someone to be with me always, even when i'm just going to the grocery to buy some stuffs. i used to go to the market alone, buying fruits, veggies and all that. i didn't need someone to accompany me. although i didn't mind friends going with me. i guess we're just the type of persons who can do things on our own and don't need to depend on someone to carry out things.
14 Jul 08
I have to have my alone time! This is usually after midnight after my husband has gone to bed, and I spend it here at Mylot or just cruising the internet in general. Having a large family makes 'me time' hard to get, so the quiet of the early morning is the perfect time for me, though it does mean I sometimes stay up all night and then get up late morning or at lunch time. Luckily, my partner is a student studying from home, so he does the morning routine with our brood. I find I write better when I am alone too. My ideas are better focused and I don't have to worry about interuptions. Having other people around has its advantages, but as I am not an overly social person, I do prefer my quiet time.
3 Jul 08
I also like to be alone. I can eat alone, sleep alone, go to the mall alone, hear mass alone or I can be alone all my life. But we need someone to join us, to talk with, friends, family and even strangers. I can be alone and I can also be in a company.
• United States
30 Jun 08
Yes, I am just like your old roomate, before i became a mom and dint have the internet. i would sit around and try to do things on my own but it was horrible. i dont see how people can just sit in the quiteness. i love to read and sow hen my little girl is alseep i read in the quite but thats because i know in a few shes ganna be waking up. if i am alone like really alone. i have to be on the phone,in a book,or on here or ill go crazy LMAO. im not really so bad as to have to have somoene in the same room with me while i wathc tv. but atleast in the same house..
• United States
30 Jun 08
I am not scared to be alone but it would be nice if you have someone to be with always.Not all the time it happens so we must also train ourselves not to depend with others.We must learn to stand with our own without any presence of the others.I always left alone in the house during weekdays.My daughter goes to school except this summer and my hubby goes to work.At first i feel bored but later on i got use to it and i just find a way not to feel bored.We could concentrate doing something alone also.
24 Jun 08
Hi II, Like you, I love to be alone 98% of the time, I have my animals, 2 wonderful goats and my lovely Lucy the dog and amazing Banjo the cat. I spend a lot of time on-line and I rarely get lonely. The TV going helps a bit I think. I tend to be a tad reclusive beause I truly prefer to be alone than to be social generally. When I was married and living in a semi-detached house, a young couple moved in next door. We would all go to work but when we were home, they always had visitors - always, every night and throughout the weekend. People would come on Saturday night and stay over till Sunday. I thought it really strange that these people never spent time as a couple, on their own. They were in their late teens or early twenties so I figured they were newly married or just moving in together. I have a friend who comes over everyday to look in on me. It's nice to be looked out for and if he doesn't tun up for a while I sometimes go looking for him but I wish sometimes I could have a day off...
23 Jun 08
I am not afraid of being alone. As a matter of fact, I need some time for myself every day, when I can do something I like, thinking, reading, writing journal and doing exercises. I know there are some people who cannot bear being alone. They do everything with their friends. They rely too much on other people. I don't like these people because when they cannot be with their usual friends, whey will just get whoever they can. But if you take them as your friends, you are wrong. They only need you when other people are not available. They need you only as spare tyres.