How to deal with relatives who are opporutnistic?
June 18, 2008 12:17pm CST
Well, some of my husband's relatives are opportunist. They are really good to you when they would think they can get something from you but when you are down to nothing, they will leave you alone. They would not even dare to ask if they could do something to help. Totally you are nothing to them but here comes when you are at the top? they all come to you and are very nice.. I feel sick for this kind of people. It's so irritating. I'm short of my patience sometimes. Do you have the same experience? How did you deal with the problem? Hope to hear from your ideas.
23 Jun 08
We can't avoid that there are people like that and it is really irritating. Sometimes we cannot tell it to them frankly because in spite of being like that they are still our relatives but time will come that we have to set our limits and we can also talk to them in a nice way.
18 Jun 08
In laws are like that especially if the man used to give them everything before he starts to settle down. I am straightforward so when I see the ones that are like those you describe I tell them my mind. Earlier I was all that to them and for the couple of months things start to go downhill for me his mother starts to say things that was not appropriate. Now that my sister and aunt comes from aboard and give me somethings to make me start over again. She is all now cubby and nice I put her in her place yesterday. To me it is best to be honest and move on than to have a storage in my body that will give me heart attack in my later days.
18 Jun 08
yes right!!! I agree with you. These people should know how to act the right way. I don't want to be hard on them or be selfish but they should have the limit of what is suppose to be their role in our life. Not just be kind when we have something and go away when we have nothing. I am sick of that... Thanks for the reply.