About moving out?

June 19, 2008 9:33pm CST
Well im 17 im thinking about moving out and into an apartment with two other friends. And i dont know how to tell my mom. There are alot of reasons like im the only kid she has and she doesnt have alot of friends. And she works all the time. And i feel bad cuz i know its my fault in a way that she works so much. And we have had alot of arguments the last couple of years. And i dont want her to feel like im doing this to get back at her or something. I just dont like when she tells me that im not responsible enough and dont know how to manage my money. And i kinda want to do it to prove that i am responsible. I believe i can afford rent and car payment and insurance because I have a job i just dont know how to tell her. Can you guys help me?
2 responses
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
20 Jun 08
You are just 17 and you want to move out? well, it will be hard for your mom to take it but if you really want to do that then you should find a good reason for her to trust you. I know she is not trusting you at all... I dont want to say this but this is what I believe in. If she used not to trust you then it will never be over, she still keep saying that you will not be this and be that. If you want her to trust you, then you have to prove her and make her believe in you. For example, if you have a credit card with a bank and you pay on time then the bank trusts you. So, they will increase credit line for you within 3 month. The reason I pull this example up cuz if you do something that your mom asked you to do and you complete what she asked for then she will be trusting you... however, if you dont do what she said and you did more over then it just pull her off the road. Why dont you try to make her feel comfortable for you to move out. you are just 17, you are too young to do that... there are a lot of responsibilities out there that you could mention. I am not saying that you can't do it but can't you wait until you are 18 or 19. I also have 2 children my own, so I hope they make me trust them... well, good luck to you and please make a right decision before you tell your mom to move out.
27 Jun 08
Well ill be 18 in january and i dont plan on moving out til August so its only like 4 months before i turn 18. And i try to do things so she can trust me. But i dont think that she will ever teuly trust me. I mean i wish she could but i dont what more I can do to get her trust back. But thank you for the response.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
20 Jun 08
It's not going to be easy no matter how you do it but can you legally move out at 17? Are your future room mates responsible or are you going to have your electricity turned off every other month and face eviction in six months? Have you worked out the details of who pays for what when it comes to things like utilities, food and household items? Will you be able to afford insurance and gas? If you have a solid financial plan with responsible room mates then sit down with her and tell her the details of what it is you want to do and how you're going to afford it.
27 Jun 08
Thank you for your response and yes i can move out at the age of seventeen. Yes i believe my roommates are very responsible they both have jobs. Yes we have all have agreed to split everything 3 ways with utilities and rent. Food we are just gonna buy or selfs And yes from what I can see I and have though thru and looked at ill have enough money for all my other bills for my car and gas