Slightly Off Kilter..

Face up mate. Don't take the "go away" on board, ignore it till you get the message across. I can see it turning out all jolly. You may have "severed all ties" but you haven't broken the deeper connection. Nothing will break it. All will be well.

Send them and email. Then you can say everything you want to say and not be interrupted and they will have to hear you out. Might work if you can not track them down. I think you must have learned a lesson here. Don't trust everything you hear.

Hi Tessah if they are inncocent and you approach they are likely to tell you to get lost without you saying all you feel you need to say in a way of apology so if it were me in this situation I would write it all out as at first they may still be angry and not take much notice of the words but they can then go back a reread and realise how sincere your apology is. They may or may recontact but if they don't you have done what is right and they are now aware that they realise they were innocent. I am sure they will recontact so you can talk things through but only after your words of apology have been absorbed and understood. Good luck with this one. Ellie :D

Oh, that is a toughie, and I hate that feeling that comes with knowing that you have got something wrong. Well I am not sure how I would go about it, I think that I would write it first and try it that way and see if I get anything back. Failing that I would maybe try to contact them by phone. If you phone first they have the option of putting the phone down and refusing to answer, I am not sure that I would turn up on their doorstep though I would feel too ashamed to do that. But then again, it is not your fault really, I mean I know we are supposed to trust friends etc but if someone tells something that is really believable then it is hard to figure that they could be lying. Well I really hope that you can sort it out with your friend xx

Wow! I don't envy you right now tessah! But, I will try to give you some direction based on what I would do. Shoot! What would I do? Ok...I think writing something out is the easier path but, not necessarily the right one. I think it is sort of a cop out. And, it leaves you biting your nails or all nervous wondering if the person you are apologizing to even read it and what their initial reaction to it was. At least if you confront the person face-to-face, you will see their reaction and know for sure. So, I guess you should try to have a face-to-face conversation with them. I would like to say that you should call first and arrange a time when you are both available to talk but, then you risk that person not agreeing to meeting with you. So, ambush? Ugh! I hate that thought but, it seems the only way you will be assured a chance. Go to their home. Knock on their door. Have an offering of peace in your hands like flowers or something...whatever is appropriate for their gender. And just ask them to hear you out so that you can explain what happened. And, apologize like it is your job. Humble yourself before them and just make it abundantly clear that you were a fool for being duped into believing the false information. Then, if that doesn't work, send a letter and/or an email. You just need to be prepared for any kind of response. But, go into it humbled and sorry. Good luck!

Maybe just start off right away with, "I now realize that I owe you an apology, I'm so terribly sorry". That may get you enough air time to explain somewhat. You're not in control of how negatively or positively he/she could react, so carry on with, "I realize what an idiot I was in believing gossip from ???? someone." "I'll understand if you will not forgive me for distrusting you and you are justified in feeling that way. At the very least, I just wanted you to know that I am really sorry, whether we can resume a friendship or not. I felt you deserved that." "But if you are willing to consider forgiving me, I will do my best to make it up to you. It will never happen again. I hope we can start over and be freinds again one day." Do those suggestions help any?

I would go to that person and face him in person. Appologize and admit that you were wrong to listen to the other person. Put it right out there. Don't expect forgiveness....you may or may not get it. You do owe this person an appology and you should deliver it in person. If you are lucky, you main gain that person's friendship back. If not, at least you will have done the right thing and that person will at least feel somewhat better in knowing that you know you were wrong even if they aren't able to continue on with the friendship. Hopefully you have learned from this. I learned a while ago to just stay out of disagreements between friends that have nothing really to do with me. There are always two sides and then there is the right side.

In situations like this I write it out. Send the letter with a single white rose, which is the color of friendship and sit and wait and try not bite the fingernails. If the rose comes back without the head, I get the point and move sadly on. Good luck.

Hi Tessah, I would just go up to her and apolagize and explain exactly what happened and let whatever happens happen. More then likely, she wont care and might still be mad at you. I guess the most I can say here is that I hope you've learned to ask questions first the next time something like this happens. You never know who you can trust. I hope it all goes smoothly for you! Huggs, Tianna