I have decided I will no longer respond to them!

@subha12 (18450)
India
June 20, 2008 3:06am CST
I am watching a certain thing in mylot. there are few new user in mylot who are very active. they have added many friend in list. Now they start almost tons of discussion each day as they have the idea that starting discussion will earn them more( I do not know whether its true). Now every time i visit discussion started by my friend. I browse their discussion and respond them. now they do not bother to respond any of my discussion. I have decided why am I to respond them? Are you going to respond them again or will not?
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@Cley_CJ (105)
• Malaysia
20 Jun 08
I'm new here, but I don't go and post 50 new discussions, which I think is actually insane. But where do they get so many things to discuss? Most of the things they post most probably have been discussed before, I think. Some people would do anything for money. For me, I just like to response to topics rather than posting a new one. I think, those people you mention are inviting their own downfall, unless they stop. It's like the story of the shepherd boy who cried wolf. In the end, everybody will ignore them. But, would they even care?
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@dodoguy (1292)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
Hi Cley_CJ, I saw one fellow who started posting heaps of new discussions a while back - every discussion was always a question as a heading, followed by a repeat of the same question in the post, followed by "and why?". Looked like he'd dreamed up a nice easy formula for generating heaps of discussions. But it quickly became obvious - to me anyway. And there really wasn't any incentive to waste time answering all those hypothetical questions (always appended with "and why?") when there wasn't any genuine interest on the originator's part. He stopped doing it after a couple of weeks. Must have decided it wasn't worth the effort. I agree with you - it's a lot easier o look for interesting discussions to contribute to, than to dream up some topic to try to attract responses.
@makingpots (11920)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I understand your feeling on this, subha. I stop responding to high volume discussion starters when they don't show an interest in responding with other people here. To me it is just like how I go about life. I do not chose people to be friends with when they seem so completely focussed on themselves and their own personal gain. Why would I want those friends here.
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@kaytee717 (188)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I just signed up and am happy I came across this discussion. So basically there are people that are working like computers on here? I like the site and am excited about having friends on here, responding to there postings and then responding to mine. Thanks for the advice....any other types for new users ?
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
For me I do not care who started the discussion as long as it attracts me and will generate any knowledge from my brain, I will not care either from a friend or from a new user. Am here in mylot because I love doing this. Imparting ideas to every interest I have and doesn't care if it earns me so much. As long as am enjoying and having fun in reading from the response of my comment and am greatful for that. Earnings is good but for me its not an issue.
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@gtdonna (1740)
21 Jun 08
You have made a good point. I reply to both my friends and other peopel discussion and do not really mind if they don't reply to any i have started. I have found tons of interesting discussions that I cna relate to and so I reply. For those I can't, I just pass them over.
@tintinn (277)
21 Jun 08
Yeah, I agree with janiceancajas. That is exactly what I think.
• China
22 Jun 08
i agree with you.i'm new here.don't know some mylot rule.maybe i started discussion more.if i know it make other's feel unconfortable.then i don't do this.ok,i will response other's discussion more.started my discussion less.why some people just response their friends.and just give rating for their friend.for what.i can't understand.it's for friendship or money? i think i will response the discussion as long as it attracts me and i can learn something from it.no matter who started.
@chennai_b02 (1735)
• India
21 Sep 08
Sorry - Sorry..
According to my point of view, when we select the discussions to give our response we used to select the discussions as per our wish and it should be easy, and also the subject matter should be known to you, and you will be have good idea about that subject matter/topic of the discussion. In this case, I will not espect them to give the responses for my discussions, this may be something give and take.. Even though mylot is the website for give and take, at this point, you should espect that, if you respond their discussions, and intern you should not espect them to respond your discussions also.. may be your discussion will not be easy for them to respond, or they may not have much knowledge about your topic of the discussions.. and also when they select the discussions, your discussions will not get it appear on those pages.. these are all some of the reasons for which they will not respond your discussions.. I feel like that only, if the people will not respond my discussions.. If you see everything in positive, you may be happy in life. All the very best.. Be cool (Note: Please dont mistake me if anything wrong in my responses.. This is only my point of view..)
@subha12 (18450)
• India
22 Sep 08
i am not at all expecting any give and take here. also why should I from whom i have nevere met also face to face. But it hurts when only just a few answer your discussion. then what is the point in adding as friend? i am not telling all odd 700 will answer mine. but when its something like they never do so, i am bound to feel bad. May be I am worthless mylotter, whose discussions are so bad that can be answered, but I think I am not unjustified in telling some are just in TAKE ONLY relationship here.. I am telling this as many of them even PM-ed with links of their discussions to answer.
• India
22 Sep 08
Thanks for your comments for my response.
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@risris24 (712)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I know for me it isn't a personal thing. It doesn't matter to me if I answer one of my friends discussions an dthey don't answer fo rmine. I feel it is all just a matter of interest and preference. I look for discussons that have catchy titles but also something I can relate to so I can provide my best possible response. Just because you are someones friend you shouldnt answer if possibly the subject doesn't pertain to you. You also can't answer every discussion as there are sooooooooooo many, we all just try to do our best. If there are any discusson that you have zero responses for, I will be glad to respond as long as I am able to say something pertaining to it.
• United States
20 Jun 08
I agree you cant take it personal
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@bestie (1455)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
everytime I sign in to mylot,I always look into my friends discussions and respond to their discussion which only interests me.But I really do try my best to respond to some of their posts coz I know they are as well responding on my discussions,so I have to return back the favor.I don't make a lot of discussions everyday,I'm more on responding to several discussions rather than posts a lot of discussions.I only make one post a day or sometimes I don't,it will take several days for me to post new discussion.Anyway,wether or not some of my friends respond on my post I will still try to respond to their discussions if it interests me.
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@dodoguy (1292)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
Hi bestie, I agree with you. When I log into myLot, I look first at "Discussions My Friends Started", and then at "Discussions From My Interests", and then "Discussions With No Responses". If there's nothing interesting after looking in all those places, then it's obviously a quiet day on myLot, and I'll tend to go do something else instead.
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
It depends if I have time to respond to their discussions.I'm a full-time student and my priority right now is school.
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@angel1001 (113)
• China
21 Jun 08
I am a new user here,Your point of view is very useful for me.I think we should not start so many discussion which has not real point!we should not do some thing unuseful just for earning money!and I have decided that I am not to respond to every discussion!
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• Indonesia
21 Jun 08
hi subha, I have been questioning about this just the same. I mean, what's the point of having us as friend if the person doesn't bother about spending even just little time to respond the friend's discussion. but surely there were times when I just sat back and read the person's discussion, I didn't even feel any connection to respond to the person's discussion. so I would take this temporary decision: I would respond when I just want to respond. I haven't known about keeping the person in my friend list or not, but that's my temporary action so far.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
21 Jun 08
Well, in fact I suspect some of the "friends" they add are their own created multiple acconts, so I don't respond to them. It's really shallow to try to break the system in this way as mylot is more about enjoyment & fun than the money alone
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@fwangaa (3058)
• China
21 Jun 08
yes I just respond to them,and i don't know about the discussion that to write.
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@shooie (4985)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I don't respond to all the discussions that my "friends" on my list start nor do they hit mine. If they have a discussion I am interested in I will answer or respond to just like if there is one that I start if they are interested in they will hit. Key thing is friends you take the good and bad in a friendship.
• United States
21 Jun 08
I understand how you fell subha that sometimes we feel sad if nobody reply in our discussions.Well maybe they are busy in their outside world,you know?Bcoz mylot is not really our priority in life.This is just for fun and have lil excitement if we see our earnings is growing,but for me as long as im having fun here im okay.
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@dodoguy (1292)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
Hi subha12, For a cute little baby in pink, you're sure stroppy! But you are right, of course. It can be quite annoying to have a friend on myLot who seems to be focused on pumping out heaps of new discussions, with little thought about what's actually going into them. There's not much to motivate other people to respond to discussions like that - unless other people are just as desperate to respond to discussions to make money on myLot. That's not me, though. IMO there's better ways to spend one's time.
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• Indonesia
21 Jun 08
I think it's good that the new members are being active here in mylot. I think people choose on which discussion to response based on their knowledge and interest in the discussions itself, not by who posted it. I don't answer all discussions by my friends and so do they. I got notifications of course but I choose what I response to so I could give better responses.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
21 Jun 08
I repsond to those discussions I find interesting. For some reason, I only get alerts from a few of my friends and don't know how to get alerts from more. But I'm fine with that. My friend pyewacked is prolific and usually my E-mail box is full of mail alerting me to her discussions. Thankfully, the majority of them are very interesting!
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@myklj999 (38730)
• Olney, Illinois
21 Jun 08
I have seen a few of these people that start 10-15 or more discussions a day and then don't respond to anyone that answers on them; I don't go to their discussions anymore. Most of the discussions I go to are people on my friends list who also come to mine. I know most of them will answer me back.
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@chej18 (915)
• United States
20 Jun 08
Hi subha, I am trying to give response everyday for my friends discussions.As i went to thier profile i trued atleast 5 or more response to thier discussions if i got more time.And atleast i make one or two discussions in my own a day.I dont have much time to make alot.And i want to enjoy reading all the discussions that interests me and gave my opinion if i can gave one.I can learned a lot here too. Greetings from Che!
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@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
20 Jun 08
Well i always respond to my friend discussions if not immediately than a few days later - i take care to always check on all of my friends progress (including yours as you have seen) in hope that they will also respond to mine. Take care !