Have you been around someone whom blows their breath or signs when you are near?

@cream97 (29163)
United States
June 20, 2008 7:58pm CST
My mother-in-law and my sister-in-law will do this.. When I come near them or pass by them, they will blow their breath or sign.. It is like they are saying, Oh Boy, here she comes.... This makes me feel bad. As I am not an annoying person. I don't bother them... So why are they being so mean?
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@dragon54u (31638)
• United States
21 Jun 08
You need to stop letting them control you. You only feel that way because you permit yourself to let them make you feel bad. You know you're a good person and if they have a problem with you, that's their problem not yours. Ignore their sighs and signs, be cheerful when you're around them. Think of their good points. If they have none, imagine some. Don't let them control how you feel.
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@cream97 (29163)
• United States
21 Jun 08
Yes, true, when my sil would do this to me, I would pass by her like I did not hear her.. I thought she was just blowing her breath because she was pregnant, and bored... I realized down the line, that she had done it to be mean.. But I paid no attention to her hardly.. But with my mil, I would let it bug me,, I guess because I wanted her acceptance, as being married to her son.. It bothered me more, when she did it.. I shouldn't have, but it did..
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@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
24 Jun 08
It is difficult. I would just ignore them, if you pay attention and is bother by it, they will only do other things to bug you. It takes awhile but they shall stop if you show them nothing is going to ruin your day. good luck
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
7 Jul 08
But, how would they feel, if I was to ruin their day with my attitude? Like my sil will always say, never do evil for evil.. But she does evil things..
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
8 Jul 08
It is a hard situation since they are your inlaws. Have you clearly asked them why do they do that to you? Maybe they need to be told to "STOP IT and START" RESPECTING YOU.
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
8 Jul 08
No, I have never asked them. If I was to ask they would do nothing but lie to me.. I have quizzed my mil many times of all of the mean things that she has done to me and she denied them all. It find this to be very confusing. It is like they are playing some kind of game with me.
• India
23 Jun 08
Hi Cream What ever may be the meaning of their sign or blowing breath I should not like that. I can not withstand people continuously behaving like that. I think that may be their basic character and they do not know the manners and they do not know how to behave. Even if they don't like some body they should not behave like this. We are all living in a civilized society. One thing you could do is to avoid them, then after some time they themselves become tired of their activities and stop them.
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
23 Jun 08
Yes, you are right.. I dislike many people, but you don't see me behave like that around others.. If I really dislike someone, I will just not deal with this person..
• United States
23 Jun 08
yea,i've met a few people like that. i usually hang around even longer just to annoy them after hearing the huff.that's what they get for being mean. some people don't need a reason.it's just the way they are. not a good thing,but you really can't change them.people like that usually don't have too many friends.
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
23 Jun 08
Yes, they don't have too many friends, and I am not one of them..
@mialei23 (2386)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
I encounter a few people like that before, well the easiest way to do is just ignore them. I don't know maybe this is a sign that people are being good in front of you and at your back they are saying bad things from you. Sometime, it's good to be frank in front of people saying those things they want than saying good things to you which is opposite.I don't like people who tend to be good but doesn't want you. Why don't they tell me what is the matter so we can fix things out, right? Just ignore them, but if you find some time ask them if there's a problem with your relationship, so things will patch up soon.
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I remember asking my mil, if something was wrong one time, she told me no.. As we were standing in the kitchen.. She lied, I could see it on her face.. She had a problem with me, and I could tell that it was eating her up..
@elisa812 (3032)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I don't think anyone I know really does that when I'm around, but I'm sure there have been people who have wanted to and just didn't! That's awful that your inlaws are making you feel that way though! It sounds like they're being really rude. I'm sorry you're having to deal with that. It sounds like they have kind of an attitude problem!
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
21 Jun 08
Thank you! It is rude and mean.. It is something wrong with them..
• United States
21 Jun 08
Some people are just mean natured others may just be misunderstood. I sigh alot and when stressed I blow out my breath. I think I sigh out of bordom not really meanness. Just a thought any way.
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
21 Jun 08
Yes, what you are doing makes a whole lot of sense.. But when my in laws do it, they will do it when I am passing by them, all the time.. It began to be a habit with them, that is why I thought that they were doing it out of ugliness.. They were just annoyed with me.. So, if they feel this way, that is why, I no longer want them to call or come over to my house.. Why be bothered with me, if you don't even like me?
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I'd tell them if they don't stop huffing and puffing they might blow the house down. Let them blow their hot air, and don't let them see it bothers you. They'll either stop or go on with their childish ways, either way it's nothing you really need to worry about.
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
21 Jun 08
Yes, it is very childish, to do things of this nature,... I wonder if they know that.. I mean how many mature people do you see blowing their breath like this?
@light27 (33)
• United States
22 Jun 08
do you think it could be racisim cream?
@yogeshdhusa (2237)
• India
22 Jun 08
Hi cream, i feel that you should do this to them, let them understand how annoying they are. I think they come to your place so you have to do. Do this indirectly , call your friend and tell her in advace that i want my inlaw to regret coming to my house. I feel i should come to your house and tell them that how disgusting people they are. i am sorry but i was unable to control my feeling. hope you will handle this.
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
21 Jun 08
Hi there cream, I have not experienced that but if I were you with everything they are doing to you, maybe it's time for you to also do that to the and let's see how they will react, you can't just allow them to treat you like that or do not allow them in your house!