House guest is ready to go home...
By foxyfire33
@foxyfire33 (10005)
United States
June 20, 2008 8:12pm CST
This is kind of an update to my two earlier discussions about stepson's friend coming to stay with us for a month and not behaving very well.
I guess after I spouted off last night about everything stepson realized what we've been seeing along. He had a talk with his friend and then called his friend's father. He told the father exactly what the kid has been doing while here and told him that if he keeps it up we all want him to go home now. (he has only been here a week)
The father was really understanding and said he'd come up first thing tomorrow morning (Saturday) if we want him to. Right now we're giving the kid a chance because stepson had really wanted him here for his birthday next week. He hasn't really left the bedroom since the phone call....he's really unhappy here too and blames it on us not being understanding of his preferences and what he is used to. Well, sorry but this is who we are and we can't change our whole lifestyle to please him....he's not comfortable with little kids, he doesn't like anything being dirty (our driveway is dirt), he's used to his own tv and computer (we only have one of each).
It just got to be too much, even after last night he still messed with the tv twice today without asking permission...once right in the middle of a show the little boys were watching and the second time he misplaced the remote and couldn't remember where he put it (and FIL was very unhappy about that). That was pretty much the last straw and stepson called the kid's father right after that...we were all getting yelled at by a tired, drunk FIL for the actions of his friend.
So we'll see what happens tonight and tomorrow!
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5 responses
@shooie (4984)
• United States
21 Jun 08
It is funny how kids are now days. When I wa growing up if I stayed at a friends house an extended time I would do as the family did not as I was use to. Maybe if the kid ends up being sent home he will learn from it sad thing is maybe he won't.
But the bright thing is your son is aware and can see it now. huggles and good luck
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Thanks shooie! I know I always tried to follow the rules of whatever home I was staying at too. He seems pretty much oblivious to the fact that he is the problem not us. Even when we give him very simple instructions about what we need done, he'll still do it is way. Like dirty dishes, all we ask is that they get rinsed off and put in the dishwasher. He had been just leaving them where ever, now he actually washes them completely and puts them away...except he doesn't dry them so in a way it makes a bigger mess. We've told him several times to just put it in the dishwasher (which gets run daily) but he won't because he says dishwashers are dirty and full of bacteria from dirty dishes sitting in them all the time.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
21 Jun 08
wow! I am sure if he will not change, no one will ever like him o be a guest...He has to know what are his limitations being a guest and be open-minded as well as behave person!
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 Jun 08
No, he didn't really change, we just had to get tougher on him...and sometimes ignore his comments. One day he cut himself a large brownie and then threw it away...because he dropped it on the just clean counter top and claimed it had germs on it. Another day he told my 5 year old to change out of his play shirt and tell me to wash it because it had two little stains on it. He got yelled at about the brownie but I ignored what he said about the shirt.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
26 Jun 08
How are things going? It is hard to put up with someone that has that attitude.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Oops, I forgot I started this one! He's still here, not quite as inconsierate but mostly because everyone is keeping him in line constantly...take your shoes off now!, close the refrigerator! shut the door!...every single time he has to be told and saying it nicely gets us no where. As of yesterday the plan was to see if his dad can come up this weekend to get him, but that's not a definite because his dad is saying he's not sure when he'll have the time to drive back up (it's a 5-6 hour drive one way).
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
21 Jun 08
Bless you and good luck, you really need it..
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@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I was raised to be considerate when visiting someones home. My boys are also being raised that way. People always tell me how helpful and nice they are when they go spend time at their home. They may be aggravating little hellions here but they know that i will KILL them if they go off and embarrass me by having bad manners! This child's parents need to realize that they are not doing him any favors by not teaching him how to interact in a civilized and considerate manner toward other people!
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 Jun 08
We really don't know what these parents have taught this 'child'...he's 15 1/2 and stepsons girlfriend had to teach him how to blow his nose. He just sniffled and complained and when she told him to just blow his nose he said he didn't know how because he was always told to just sniffle it back in to avoid spreading germs all over. He also holds in gas because he says letting it out could be harmful
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