have you ever been "the other person"?

China
June 20, 2008 9:24pm CST
i was a quiet girl. now still.once i would like to change myself on this point.i tried to talk with other more.but eventually found that i really don't like this feeling.it's difficult for me to be a talkative girl.then i gave up.
5 responses
• United States
21 Jun 08
I'm quiet too. Not really shy like I used to be. I'll speak my mind when I feel it's necessary. And I've always been the other person. It's just something that I can't seem to shake off unfortunately. I'm a leader in my own way and others have followed me. But I don't like leading because that leads to groupies, lol. I just like doing my own thing.
@anujain75 (1059)
• India
21 Jun 08
Why you want to talkative.Why you want to change yourself.I think we always attracts towards other personality.Before marriage I was very calm and quite girl.After marriage I become talkative due to my husband.But now I donot like my this personality. Actually our mind is always moves in opposite direction.What ever we are our mind is not satisfied.If once we change our personsality then we again wants to remain in previous personality. So best thing is stay with as you are.Mind cannot be satisfy with us.It always motivate us in opposite direction.The nature we aquried is gifted by God or anything you belief.
@grace24 (1050)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
wow..yeah we had the same problem before..im used to be a quiet when im in my gradeschool because i dont want to talk and my classmates are bullying me. When im on my 1st year highschool i started to change that attitude because its hard to be alone and nobody talks to you..i pretend to be another person but it is hard to do..its hard to force yourself to change..but now ive changed a lot because my friends help me...you dont need to be another person just show them what you can do..show the real you..you dont need to be bother..you can do it..let it coe in a natural way,you dont need to force yourself...
@fairyanny (363)
• China
21 Jun 08
Maybe you just need to know much about your friends' interests,and then you can just have a topic when you are together. What is more,you just open your mind and think others wonn't hurt you,I think that will easy your bad feeling. Wish you have a good day. By the way,I just wonder how could I be the kind of girl like you...I am so noisy
• United States
21 Jun 08
I've always been the "the other person." I'm quiet too. I used to be freakishly quiet in high school. I had no friends and dreaded every single day of school. I opened up a little in college because everyone was so nice there. The high school kids were too established with their friends that I wasn't worth their time. It's possible to become more talkative. My mom used to be shy and now she can talk with almost anyone. I'm still working on it. I don't get the opportunity to talk to anyone so I have no way to practice. I hope you get to be comfortable enough to be as talkative as you want. I understand how you feel.