when you die, which do you prefer, to be cremated or to be buried?

@dierdre (2213)
Philippines
June 21, 2008 5:29pm CST
i dont mind being buried or cremated, but im a little bit partial to be buried, coz cremation reminds me of hell-- you know, the fiery flames and stuff, who knows, that just might be my destination so might as well preserve my body from being burned! LOL but seriously, i prefer to be buried but if the time comes that i die and whoever lives with me at that time cant afford to pay for the burial expenses, i'd gladly accept a cremation. hopefully, he or she chooses the most stylish urn available in the stores! so how about you, which do you prefer, to be buried or cremated, and why? or this topic makes you feel uncomfortable coz its about death?
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@spalladino (17923)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I'm in a difficult position because I am my husband's second wife. He lost his first wife to cancer several years ago and she is currently buried in a military cemetary 1,000 miles away where we used to live because he's a Vet. His wish is to be buried with her because he expects to go before I do since he's older than I am and has a lot of health problems. He's supposed to check to see if I can also be squeezed in that plot but I doubt that's possible because it's a military cemetary and I really can't see them digging both him and his late wife up so they can deepen the hole. He also mentioned buying two plots next to his family down here and being buried with me next to him but I know him and he would feel guilty leaving his late wife all alone up north. So, as far as I'm concerned, I want to be cremated and put in a nice urn. If it's possible to bury my urn with my husband, fine, but if not, then my children can take possession of it and keep it on a shelf or in a box or...whatever they decide to do with it.
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@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
oh so if he cant be buried in the military cemetery, he wants to be buried next to you? that's nice. well, its all up to him anyway. but if the military cemetery is not possible, its ok that he wants to be buried next to you, after all, youre also his wife, it doesnt matter if you're the 1st or 2nd, unless he made a pact on his 1st wife that he will join her there when his time comes. btw, an urn is nice too. and less expensive as compared to having a burial.
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• United States
22 Jun 08
Wow!!!
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@Insung001 (740)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
No I don't find this topic uncomfortable at all. Morbid as it may sound, but we'll all go there, so there's nothing wrong talking about it. Anyway, for me, I would prefer to be buried. Why? because that is my Christian belief. Now I hope saying the word christian would not attract or create another religion argument here again. (I'm just sick and tired of people who always want to argue about religion). That is just my belief. If I am to explain further, I might attract yet one of those persons here who loves to argue about beliefs, so I hope you don't mind if I say just that.
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• United States
21 Jun 08
I really don't like neither.. i wanna be put in a mausoleum
@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
nice one, but here in our country, only rich families can afford them, they have several of their relatives inside it already.. but hey, i would like to be placed inside there too. but sadly, my family is not rich, so its not gonna happen. LOL
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• United States
22 Jun 08
I want to be buried next to my father and my husband....if that's possible.
• United States
22 Jun 08
No but really that what i wanna be put in
@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
21 Jun 08
Hi dierdre. I wish to be cremated after the donation of all my organs. I already tell with my daughter that it is what I want and she knows that. So when I pass away she knows what to do with my body because in this time is only my body not me.
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@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
how nice of you to donate your organs when you die, i think i wanna do that as well, i'll give all the "usable organs" to anyone who needs it! im the perfect donor, no vices at all, no tattoes, and im in perfect health. i'd give away my very "expressive-looking" brown eyes too. LOL
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• Canada
21 Jun 08
My husband and I both discussed this, and when we die we both wish to be cremated, and put in the memory wall at Sunset Villa, a little Danish place not far from where I live.
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@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
that's nice. its good that you and your hubby agreed to the same method.
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@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
25 Jun 08
I'd rather be buried, coz i would like it for my love ones to visit my grave side and decorate it nicely with flowers and what ever else they would like to put on it. I'd want my stone to be pink so it would stand out against the rest. and I'd love for people to pass and read what a nice person i was.
@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
oh ok, yeah it would also be cool to have the insciption tomb and the saying that's gonna be written on it..
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• United States
22 Jun 08
I'm opting for neither. If my body can help others with Cerebral Palsy that's where its going, otherwise I'm donating it to the FBI for forensic education.
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@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
29 Jun 08
thats so nice of you to donate your body for research. thanks for responding.
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Before, cremation is not known or preferred by most people. But since, things are changing and people are being practical, cremation is getting the same choice by some of the people like burrying. Not to mention it's less expensive compared to burrying. I guess for me, either way will work. But I prefer burrying, because I feel that I get more peace by that. I don't know.. Whichever way, will be fine. =)
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• Japan
22 Jun 08
certainly to be buried! being cremeted is like sending urself/ur love one to hell! :)
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• United States
21 Jun 08
I will be cremated, if at all possible. The idea of having my insides taken and filled with chemicals, my blood drained, etc. is just too creepy. Then again, the idea being buried in a coffin that's enclosed by a concrete box is pretty horrible, too.
@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
21 Jun 08
Hi there, I have thought about this before. I must admit that I go back and forth between the two and I have not really made up my mind yet. I would kind of be partial to being buried, but then I would not like the thought of a mistake being made and then being buried alive. That is why I have started thinking about cremation. Hopefully I have a lot of time left to think about this all! cheers,
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@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
im pretty sure you still have alot of time to think about this.. but dont worry about being buried alive coz if you are still alive, you'd jerk the moment they start to cut your body to take the internal organs out. LOL!
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@dodoguy (1294)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
Hi dierdre, I'd prefer NEITHER cremation or burial. I think I'd much rather be pickled and put on display in a big screw-top jar. With lots of tasty herbs and spices! That way, I could still keep an eye on what's going on around the place. And then I'd also have a good excuse for being a real sour-puss.
@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
LOL nice one dodoguy! but i doubt if your family will actually allow you to do that... even if its one of your last wishes... or maybe they will? hehe! to be sure, better ask them now while your still alive and kicking..
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
24 Jun 08
I prsonalily do not believe in cremation,so i want to be buried...I do know that alot of people are cremated because it is less expensive ,and some for other reasons,but for mE i prefer burial...
@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
i see, well, burial is the traditional method but more expensive though. LOL
@jdyrj777 (6549)
• United States
24 Jun 08
I want cermation. I just think the whole preperation and viewing of the body is so morbid. People say "well it's just to come and pay their respects". I say pay me my respect while im alive and i know it. Any way i plan on paying for it myself so cermation is the way for me.
@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
me too, when i die i dont want to have a burial anymore i think its just too morbid for my lifeless body out there for everyone to see. i want ot be disposed of ASAP!
@jdyrj777 (6549)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Cermation is not as expensive nor doesnt take up as much space.
@adoremay (2069)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
To be put into a coffin buried with soil. I want the traditional ways to stay.
@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
oh ok, its more common for people to follow the traditional method.
@baileycows (3669)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I want to be cremated. I have always thought that cemetaries were a waste of space they should have reserved them for land. I do like the thought of green cemetaries though. I might would do that.
@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
yeah cemeteries are now overpopulated in my opinion.
@benmc5 (3)
• Australia
30 Jun 08
i would prefer being buried to being cremated but either one would be fine i guess
• United States
29 Jun 08
LOL...I feel the same...cremation does remind me of hell, as well. But, the fact of being stuffed in a box doesn't sound that great either. But, in the end, you won't know and it won't matter. So, I am leaving that up to whoever is around when its time for me to go. Sometimes its easier on the loved ones to have you "sitting on their mantle"...and sometimes they rather have you in the cemetery than making them thing you're watching them from beyond while sitting in their home.
@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
LOL yeah its kinda true.. lets leave the decisions to them based on what they like and of course, ther financial status.. we dont care about what happens to our corpse anyway..
@michelyn (717)
• United States
23 Jun 08
Currently, I prefer to be cremated. Being buried ties the soul to a specific location and then people have to return to a specific location to visit your body. It also costs quite a bit of money to be buried and there have been many conspiracies surrounding the burial industries. Natural disasters can disrupt the final resting place too. There are many modern uses for the ashes of the dearly departed now, so as things stand, I would opt to be cremated at this time.
@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
yeas, it is more practical in all aspects as compared to the traditional burial.
• India
23 Jun 08
well for mankind's good...........i will donate my body to the medical schools in which students learn to do surgeries..........
@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
oh good for you, your body will be of use to others.