Incompetent pediatricians!

United States
June 21, 2008 8:22pm CST
Taking my son to the pediatrician has become quite an unpleasant event for me. They always tell me that my son is so short and his weight is so low. He has now fallen into the 4th percentile for his age. They try to question if i'm feeding him properly. Now just let me say this my son will eat everything under the sun. He is 15 months about 2.5 ft tall and weighs 22lbs. Now his father and I are only 5ft and 5ft 2 in. So I tell these people how tall do you expect for him to be... It drives me insane when they just bypass the obvious and start making assumptions. He is also a very active child for his age. He started walking at 9 months and can easily climb the steps or table now for that matter. He even rides a power wheel for goodness sakes and can almost out run me. I just need to vent these issues, but I'm really wondering has anyone been in this situation? How can I deal with this pediatrician?
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4 responses
@anawar (2406)
• United States
22 Jun 08
celia4evr_ I had two bad experiences with different pediatricians. Looking back, I never should have stayed with either one of them. One pediatrician made me feel like a horrible mother. He picked on me for the way I raised my daughter. By comparing those two to my first pediatrician, I know what kind of doctor to look for. When my first daughter started growing, she was very tiny. The pediatrician I saw then, was concerned about her slow growth and considered running tests for "failure to thrive." As disturbing as that sounds, this doctor never made me feel inadequate or incompetent. He supported me and helped me with his caring and non-judgmental attitude. My daughter is almost thirty now. She's petite, but by no means deficient. She's a beautiful girl. You sound like a wonderful mother who loves her son and takes excellent care of him. If it's possible, get another doctor. Choose a doctor who has a heart full of compassion and understanding and not just a brain. Your doctor sounds like he has 1/2 brain and he only comprehends what he reads in the doctor books.
• United States
23 Jun 08
You make a very good point stating that some of them just know what they read in the books. I'm glad to hear you had a healthy child. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond anawar!
@Hatley (164180)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jun 08
celia4evr I think you need to get a new pediatrican who listens to you and takes into consideration that your son comes from small parents. He sounds very normal in what he is doing walking at nine months he is ahead of the flock.yes my pediatrian used to say the same thing to me but my son ate like a little pig so he grew up to be a healthy toddler, teenager, and grown man. get a new pediatrician.
• United States
23 Jun 08
Thank you so much Hatley I think I am really going to consider transitioning to another pediatrician.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
22 Jun 08
Now my dear when you are given that baby a bath did you use to stretch his limbs so that are able to grow. Every mother who has children in Jamaica stretch their child. Well I don't know if you can still do it but try and see if you can stretch his hands and feet gentle when bathing him ok. See if this will improve his growth.
• United States
23 Jun 08
Now i've never heard of that one kerriannc. I just feel we are going to be the way god intended for us to be. Society plays a major role in making people who are less than tall feel inadequate. I don't feel there is anything wrong with him at all. But I do respect your cultural beliefs and I am thankful you took the time out to respond.
• United States
25 Jun 08
I believe that you are your childs only advocate. Most pediatricians see them for five minutes. Measure this and that, and then send you on your way. I have sat in a doctors office telling them something was wrong with my baby, and they didn't take me seriously until they found blood in her stool. Sometimes you have to be pushy, and sometimes they need to back off. You know your child better than anyone else. If you know that he is fine and progressing just as he should, then you have nothing to worry about. The pediatrician on the other hand might. If I were you I would find someone else. you may not always see eye to eye, but you at least need to find someone who listens to you and respects your knowledge as a parent.