Do nice guys really finish last?

Good post. though i am a man ,i'm also interested in this topic because i want to know what type women like most. from a view of a man ,i think good looking is not a disadvantage. but usually the handsome men are not brave enough, Because of their faces, they were treated carefully as a girl,i mean in the normal sense.not all the time. but if there are two man who are both capable, kind, i think most women will choose the nice-looking guys.

Good Post! But how you are going to guage or judge about a guy, whether he is in the middle, neither disinterested nor too interested. You may require to apply certain yardstick to know about the suitability of guy. It is said - "Excess (either negative side or positive side) is always bad" and to me you are rightly applying this dictum in selecting a guy of your choice. Best of Luck to you!

I would rather have an equal guy. Not too nice and not cocky. He has to love me for who I am and has to have respect for me at all times. I want someone to be there for me in good times and bad times. Someone honest and won't cheat on me. Someone who'll love those people I love and respect them as well.. In return I will do the same.

Is this discussion just for ladies? I am a guy and sometimes I am nice and sometimes I am a total jerk. This is how guys are apparently. Nice is nice but lacks aggressiveness and I find that I can have girl friends (friends who are girls) by being nice but not girlfriends who will do things not so nice with you. I like friends who are girls and generally I am nice to them but sometimes it happens that being nice is attractive to them and that becomes a problem. Am I making sense?

I would have to agree with you. I don't want someone who would lay it on too thick, but I don't want a man who's totally detached either. I like the in between. My man is good for me. He does his own thing a lot of the time but we still do things together and he still does things for me. We are always expressing our love for each other and our relationship is very healthy, as it should be.

I can't say that I hate guys for being nice but I have to admit, I can't really notice those guys who are nice even when they really like me. It is not bad to be nice but it doesn't hurt to be a little aggressive sometimes, especially when you really want a thing so much, because there's a tendency that more aggressive guys get to nicer places... plus, if you're aggressively nice, you'd have plus points to us girls than those guys who are really aggressive and not a gentleman at all.

No, I don't think that nice guys always finish last. I also read that article and I have a few objections to it too. I don't really like guys who act as if they are too busy to be bothered to call me at least once a day. I don't like too cocky guys either. I find them irritating and shallow. I like guys who have a lot of sense of humor though.

I think that some women just like the bad boy image that some guys project, sarah. I cannot believe that any woman in her right mind would want a man who is not respectful and caring. I don't believe that nice guys finish last any more than I believe that nice gals finish last. The nice ones just don't receive all of the attention that the bad ones do.

I agree with that article. Sometimes I'd rather go or date boys who are not that sensitive . Somehow I love being challenged, if I know that someone's going crazy for me and if he's not that cocky enough then I won't even dare to talk to him. I like it when I have to think a million times when a guy really likes me or not than a guy a who lays his cards on me immediately.

Nope....at my age the last thing I want is some guy that's a challenge. I also like my age group as you know what you are getting....they are pretty much stuck in their little habits so there aren't alot of surprises. I do like nice guys not some cocky guy that has to be controversial all the time. A few years I had a guy I was emailing that constantly wanted to know what my size was...and everything thing I wrote was a challenge....nadda....I finally figured out that he must be in a wheel chair because he wanted to know how tall I was all the time....I guess he got sick of always looking up to people..but I told him it wasn't his handicap that kept him from having a relationship....it was his attitude!

It been so long since i've been out with one i wouldn't know,there so many of them out there that are just such creeps.It sad to say that.

I don't want a guy who treats me like cr@p! That's not romantic or fun. I could do better! And I have done better.

Thats very true. I've always been what people would consider a nice guy, and I've only been in three relationships my entire life. I'm also still a virgin, but when I tell a girl this they're usually surprised and will like me more for it. It's funny though, because when I was younger girls wouldn't find me attractive at all and they wouldn't approach me usually either. But now I'm older and the nice guy part of me seems more accepted.

I think they probably do but I don't think its right. Too many woman complian about their men but when they finally find one who treats them well they blow them off. I don't think it's right but I do think it's true

No, I don't believe such concept. It is trying to generalize that being nice is unworthy. It is untrue. Besides, how do we (women) know exactly whether he is nice or not? What is your opinion of being nice, anyway? Every person has different assumption in term of being nice. I ever read another article that is saying differently.

I think that with all things, you have to find a good balance. Nice is a wonderful quality, but when paired with low self-esteem it can make a guy seem clingy, needy, and desperate. When a man is eager to please you, that is very sweet. However, when he takes that desire to the point of forsaking everything he wants and needs just to make you happy, it becomes less desirable. I think most women just want a man who is confident but considerate. Also, a lot of younger women like the chase of a cocky man. When you are never sure where you stand with someone, it can be very exciting. As you get older though, you realize that what you really want and need is someone who can appreciate you and that you can trust to always let you know how they are feeling.