How would you handle this?
By grammasnook
@grammasnook (1871)
United States
June 22, 2008 12:33pm CST
My father in law is making me insane. He blows everything out of porportion about the kids living upstairs. He likes to complain about everything they do, which includes how many bags of groceries that they bring into the house. He complains if they have the air conditioner on. He does not pay the bills so therefore I try to tell him don't worry about it. He complains if they leave the house at 11pm to run to the store, but this isn't my biggest concern. He also forgets alot of things, he repeats stories 10 minutes later. I honestly believe he is coming down with dimensia. He let one of my daughters friend's use some tools to fix his car. The young man asked where shall he put them when he is done he told him just put them on the cart. which was done, but then I get the phone call I want him out he just can't stay up there I had to put the tools away. He is coming over today and I will be talking to him in detail about all of this, he needs the income to survive the kids respect him but how much should they put up with? it is not okay for him to dictate what they can and can not do. I will be telling him my concern and I believe I may have to go and get temperary guardianship if he does not do whats best for him and get tested. I will give everyone an update tonight. Tell me how would you handle it?
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@Grandmaof2 (7578)
• Canada
23 Jun 08
Go forward with your plans. I feel for you. I know how it is to worry about family. I carefully read your post and as far as I'm concerned there's nothing more to say because you're doing all you can and I agree with your plans here. You have my blessing and Good Luck.
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@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
10 Feb 12
I think you already know what is the right thing to do. I think you made the right decision. It is right to talk to him about that matter. He must also never mind the thing that he is not responsible. It make me feel irritate if i'm living with someone with that kind of attitude but you must talk to him in a nice way because he is still your father in law..Happy Mylotting..
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Question for you, are you and your husband living with your father in law? If that's the case then he might feel like he's in charge because it is his house however, it's not right that he should dictate everything they do. If it's your house and your father in law is living with you then he needs a good talking to... either way he needs a good talking to about his complaining for it's not right for him to do what he's doing. Grant you, the kids do need to take him into consideration but still he's not in charge, you and your husband are and he needs to realize that.
As for him repeating things, it's normal for older people to do that however yes it is a sign of dementia and or alzheimers and should be checked out by a doctor. My grandmother repeated stories all the time and now my mom does the same thing. It is iritating but I think they're just grabbing at straws on things to talk about.
Since this has been 5 days ago since you've started this discussion, please give us an update! We're all concerned for you and your family and hope this gets resolved pretty quickly.
