you are no more important-you are no more wanted!!!!

Hello Aspara, I dont believe that the older generation is any less important, after all, look at all they can teach, the history they have witnessed and the wisdom they can impart. We can all learn alot from these older people if we would take the time to listen to them. To say that they are unwanted or unimportant takes all of the purpose out of their lives. I hope and pray that someone will listen to me when I get old! Cheers, Tianna

Hmmmmmm really scary thats why Always pray to Allah that call us near U when we are on our feet Take care

This fear tends to loom larger as every year passes by .The only way to beat the getting neglected part is caring and pouring your love to your spouse and children to the maximum to the level of them getting burnt by their conscience at the thought of neglecting us. The short cut is having a lot of money till your last days to get a royal treatment.But I hate that.

Dearest Apsara This is sad but true. Think it in a different way. Have you ever thought that your parents are unwanted? Have you ever regard them as less important or a commodity? Have you ever thought that they are old and useless? I am sure you haven't ever even in your wildest dreams. So, why do you expect this? Your children have imbibed your virtues and I am sure they will always have high regard for you. And if things get wrong, why do you spoil your lovely time now? There would have several ways to live life. Several other windows will open. I think, we should all secure our future with judicious investments so that in old age we do not have to depend on others, who ever it might be. Money is not important over relationships but it does help you to chase your dream. So stop thinking this now. You are fine. How come you are thinking these things when you tell me to be positive all the time?

Apsara! Please do not feel scared.......!! You are right that old parents are treated as unwanted and unwelcomed commodity at many homes. People are so heartless and self-centred that they do not bother to pay attention towards older persons in their homes. They forget that one day, they too will reach the same stage. Believe me, I always spend time with older people, be it my in-laws, my own father or Uncle. I just sit by them and listen to their stories, I think, it gives them great relief that someone is there to listen to them. Older people are so keen and desparate that they want that someone should sit by their side and atleast listen to them. I hope when we grow older, God will keep as in healthy condition, so that we could look after ourselves, without anyone's assistance and hopefully, we will keep ample funds with us, so that we may not lend into any financial crisis. Good Post!!

Hi apsara jii, I think you are always important for the world an family as long as you are working and earning for yourself. infact oyu are most important for you and your life partner. In fact younger generation didnot show importance in you because they know your services are always available fro them even if they didnot ask you definately do it for them, thats why they does't care and give importance. it is the basic principle of life any thing which is easily availabe in need will never get an importance, though that is very much important in life. so lets accept itor to get importance form youngest you have to treat them as they treat you but it is difficult and impossible for human like you in this life. so be happy do not expect any thing from others in life.

for me, i dont think so... i would like to raise my child in a notion that he should give importance to us his parents when we are old. Showing him the way we care for our parents too. That eventhough they are old and frail still, we let them know that they are important and not as unwanted commodity. That, valuing our parents great role when we are a kid and the way they raise us and to be what we are now... how they take good care of us. that is why we would like to show it back to them. therefore, i would like to instill in my childs mind that old people are not garbage. he should understand and show that still they are existing and longing for the love and care...

it is really painful. so we must know it. we should ate care of the older people and also make them understand that they are still wanted and loved.

Hi there apsara, I don't consider them as less important and if I'll be 60 or up I will never also consider myself as less important..This is life anyway!And as long as we have done enough and contributed enough for our family and we serve them to our best during our time, then we need to be given time to stop working and just relax!Cheers!

I beginning to feel afraid for myself. You have a reason. For my fair share, i will do my best to make my parents to be important. We don't know if they or me will go first (die)..but i have to savor the day that i am with them so there is no regrets.

I am also afraid of that fact, but since I took care of my parents needs and respect their recent condition my anxiety has been lessen. I am waiting for the time that I will be granted a kids of my own and when that time comes I will make sure that they will see good example from us too. I love my parents and no matter how old they become or no matter how hard their characteristics had changed, the respect , love and kindness is never been hard to give. My salute to the elderly...

It is hard to grow old and be in a place where you're not wanted, I know, I face the fact every day when I wake up. Don't get me wrong I am thankful my son let stay at his home after I was injured and couldn't work like I did. But My daught-in-law and grandchilden really don't want me here. I disrupt their lives. I don't qualify for disability yet, and still unable to work so I guess I'll be here for awhile longer. But Yes It Is Painful!

It's sad to see old people treated such by their children. What do you think had happened? I always believe that the children follow what they observe their parents doing. Could it be that these old people treated their parents similarly, hence their kids felt that this is the norm? If you were brought up in an environment where you see your parents respect and care for their old parents, wouldn't you think and act similarly? I don't know -I could be wrong.

Yes,everybody is afraid of the old age.But when the ripe leaves are falling down the new sprouts are laughing at them,but the old will say dont laugh whaever is happened to us, will also going to happen for u too.So when we all are going to become old then why to get afraid of old age?We are as old as we feel and as old as we are ! Our soul is never old !

i had seen older people who live with their children..but still the respect and love is still present and wanted as well..and i dont dreaded the moment when i reach that stage...since i know for sure our children will take care of us..but maybe for others its the way around..

This is life and everyone has to experience the period from youth to elder. Technically, young people are popular as they are full of energy and strength and fit for the work and life. And the old people are unwanted. However, old people are full of life experiences and patience, which can earn their respects from the young people. As long as the old people well prepare their whole life before they are getting older, they can handle the life well till they die.

The only way to overcome this old and unwanted syndrome is to get going and do something to make your life worthwhile. I once knew a 70 year old insurance salesman who was the most enthusiastic salesman I ever knew. I know a businessman who started painting and became famous in Trinidad as an artist after he retired. I used to hang out with a 67 year old woman who loved men half her age and got quite a few. I know, I was a prospect. Right now I'm 57, I'm learning art, I'm writing, blogging, keeping a job in shipping and still running after women. What about you ?

Hi, I don't know UR talking about which country. In India we are taking utmost care about elders.They are more respectable in society. We are giving respect & priority to their advise because of their rich experience. No doubt there are some people not bother about their elders . But these type of people are very negligible. In our country there are some priority for senior citizens like discount in railway ticket,more income tax rebate like so many privileges are there.

It's very true, apsara ... I'm 50, and I feel myself becoming more and more invisible as the years go by. People used to smile and say hello - now the young ones just brush past as if I don't exist. I've noticed when I go for my walk each day, the people my age and older will always smile and say hello, but the other week there was a group of high school students coming towards me, and I actually had to move and press myself up against a fence or they would have kept coming and ran straight into me! It's a bit scary. Funny how we still feel the same inside, though.

I share that fear with you.A persons worth these days solely depends on his utility.I think people are getting more and more insensitive towards their parents and older people in general.So i've promised myself my mom won't be one of those unfortunate who lives all by herself and has to take care of herself even though she has kids,she brought up,around.But i'm scared to think it may happen to me so i also have plans to keep myself financially sound in case anything goes wrong and everyone i know backs off.Its sad that our lives have reached such a stage where we cannot expect even small things like love and support from people around us because the world is getting more selfish each day.