The air was thick and full of drama at work lastnight

@nixxi76 (3192)
Canada
June 23, 2008 4:01pm CST
I work nightshifts at a nursing home which is sectioned off into three wings. Usually there are four of us working along with a nurse. I had to work my usual three in a row this weekend and ended up working Friday and Saturday nights on the East side of the building. Sunday night (the girl I was partnered up with for Friday and Saturday night), both of us assumed we were going to be finishing up our last night on East again, just because that's how it usually works. This other girl that started her nightshifts lastnight (Sunday) after report, started walking towards the end we were to work on. She began writing her name on the assignment sheets and I mentioned to her that this other girl and I who have been working on this side were going to stay on this side because it was our last nights. She seemed to get all defensive and said,"nope I"m working on this side" I re-explained to her why we wanted to work on that side. She continues and says.. "well that's too bad!" I then asked her what her problem was and she said I have senority here so I"m working on this side and I"m tired tonight" I ended up heading towards the West side of the building because at this point I was ready to lose it on her and I just thought that she wasn't worth me losing my job. As I began walking away, she started cursing and swearing at me. I found the nurse in charge and told her about what happened and how I was treated with disrespect and the nurse told me to go tell her to come work on West side of the building and I refused to because if I did that, she would flip out on me again and I would end up losing my job, then I welcomed the nurse to give it a try. So the nurse in charge walked over there told this girl to get on the other side as this was for the safety of the residents. This girl, the rest of us who was working on West could hear her yelling at the nurse. Things got personal between them and then that girl got written up. That girl's cousin is getting married and the nurse in charge is in the bridal party, so this girl was telling the nurse that she was going to tell her cousin how mean she was to her. The nurse in charge says back to her, that has nothing to do with what's going on here so cool it, or I"ll send you home. The girl got written up by the nurse and also I sent a letter to the Director of Nursing who is in charge. I"m just appauled by this. This girl was suppose to be a friend who I've been pretty close to and was there for her for many reasons. When others would tell me that she was a wingnut I would stick up for her and just be there for her when she needed a friend throughout her lousy relationship which mind you I think is the reason she's so miserable because before she was with this guy, she would have never spoke to me that way. Her mother passed away about a month ago and I think that has a lot to do with it as well but still.. if she's still greiving it and not ready to come back to work, then take stress leave.. it's paid for. All in all, I don't think her behavior was professional at the workplace. Have you ever had a problem and dealt with it face to face with another employee?
3 people like this
5 responses
@laglen (19779)
• United States
23 Jun 08
I worked in restaurants for a very long time. Chefs are the most temperamental beasts you will ever know! I think you did the right thing. If she wasn't ready she shouldn't have come back to work!
@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
24 Jun 08
I've heard that Chefs can be that way laglen. Sure they get paid better than the waitresses but they never make anything when it comes to the tips. I've also heard that if the chefs don't like a waitress, the chefs will get the waitress's in trouble by taking their time with cooking food so the customers get angry at the servers. Very sneeky lol Thanks for your comment
1 person likes this
• United States
23 Jun 08
Wow. I've never had a problem with any colleagues or anything because most of my life all I've worked as has been as a babysitter. But yeah if she is still grieving then she needs to take some time off so that she can rest and not get so worked up over small things like that. I do think that for something that small she should have reacted like that.
2 people like this
@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
23 Jun 08
Yeah I"m not sure what her problem is but I've written a letter to the D.O.N and if no disaplin is done then I'm going straight to the union. I don't need to be treated like that or does anyone else! Thanks for your comment
1 person likes this
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
23 Jun 08
I was a charge nurse in a long-term care facility for many years, and yes there were times when employees were unprofessional however your charge nurse was a lot more lenient than i would have been, the first loud word out of her mouth to me and she would have been sent home and told to come back the next day and speak to the D.O.N.. I would not have done this out of spite or meanness but simply because if she was that out of control of her emotions and temper i wouldn't want her around my patients for their safety.
2 people like this
@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
23 Jun 08
I wished you were the nurse in charge last night cjgrooms. I still think she was way out of line speaking and treating other employees this way with disrespect. At the time I was just thinking... who the hell does she think she is? Even the nurse in charge said.. I don't give a crap about senority.. she can't walk in here disrespecting people the way she was. I've written a letter to the D.O.N and hopefully she'll have a backbone this time and do something about this girl. Last night she just came back from a two week vacation and she layed on the couch at work and slept all night. The girl that I was working with Friday and Saturday night had to work with her because after that outburst, I couldn't do it, I would've gotten fired because I was ready to throddle her one. Just the way her attitude was and her snotty look like she owned the place.. grrrr sorry I"m going off again on this Thanks for your response!
1 person likes this
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
27 Jun 08
yup I did when working in a k-mart in New Jersey I worked at the stand where they sold drinks and pretzels and SAndwiches and other things and I was to go up and announce we had specails about 2 hours before quitting time to ge trid of them for the would spoil over night. Well this manager would see me comeing to the mike and she would grab it and start spouting off about what ever and I neeer did get those things all sold out. I was so mad I walked back to my station a cussing up a storm and this cashier heard me and had seen the whole thing and her eyes got very big when I hit my fist in my hand and said thats the manager grrrrrrrrrr. I moved shortly after that so we didnt come to blows but if I had stayed we would have lol
1 person likes this
@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
28 Jun 08
I see exactly what your manager was doing and that was underminding you. I really hate when that happens. Especually when the person agrees about something with you othen goes behind your back and does different. Thanks for your comment
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
29 Jun 08
yup thats what she was doing and because she didnt like my shouthern accent! your welcome
• Canada
24 Jun 08
I tend to deal with all of my problems face to face. I am not mean about it, or defensive, or offensive. I just call it like I see it, make my point, and move on.
1 person likes this
@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
24 Jun 08
I don't like confrontation, never have, never will. I just don't know what her problem was and last night she gets her boyfriend to phone us. I told my hubby not to answer the phone but he does it anyway. I'm going to take your advice and move on that's forsure by just cutting off ties with that crazy b*tch! Thanks for the advice and I like your strong will.