"how old were you when you had your first boyfriend?"your daughter asked.

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Well honestly I am very vocal to my daughter and I treat my children like we are just friends.But I make sure that there's still a line or boundary between being a friend to them and being their mom.I told them my stories when I was young and when I had my first crush..It's a bedtime story for them...though I know a lot of fairytales to tell but they already knew the fairytale stories by heart.So one time my eldest daughter ask me.."mom how old are you when you had your first boyfriend?"..honestly I want to avoid that question bec. she is already 12 years old and so peeps but I had my first boyfriend when I was in my first year high school and about 12 years old,but its not the serious type.So how would you like me to answer that question?I don't want my daughter to be my shadow or to have a boyfriend at 12y/o.I am scared.I know how its like to be inlove at a young age and how it will affect the relationship with friends and it will either be a good result for your grades at school bec. having a boyfriend could be an inspiration or it could affect your grades as well for not concentrating in your studies bec. of heartaches.My daughter is beautiful and adorable.I see some of traits in her but I don't want her to be just like me.I want her to still be like a child..but a wise and intelligent child that knows what to do and whats bad.Before she entered high school she had a crush to a high school lad and became a problem to her dad.(well her dad and I separated already)My x called me and asked me to talk to my daughter.We talked and gave her some advices but it was really hard.You will remember how your mother talks to you when you were young.It's like a "Lion King" film.The song "Circle of Life".Now its my turn to become a mom to my daughter.Before I was just a daughter,a young lass who doesn't know anything yet about crushes and love and fought with my mom how I feel for the guy as knowing what's life at my young age and who thought that I already a lot about love.Now the dilemma is here.I have a growing up girl and has a lot suitors and will ask me this magic question "how old were you when you had your first boyfriend?" A very "TOUGH QUESTION" but as the old people say "mothers knows best". I didn't tell my child at what age but I told her there's a lot of things to enjoy first while she is still young...having a boyfriend is one but just what my mom told me...i told my daughter that she needs to concentrate in her studies,get good grades,make her parents proud for being active and school...boys are just there...they are just around..she can have her time...the right time when to have her "first boyfriend"..she needs to know herself first and love herself before she can love other person..another guy as boyfriend that is.I hope I was able to explain it very well to her that.I know how foolish and clumsy I was when I was young,though I learned a lot during my growing up years..until now Im still learning about life.Its not simple..but its how you control your life and its you who make decisions.But I hope with my being supportive and honest to my daughter she will not go the wrong way,if she does I hope she'll be wise enough to know what she has done wrong and will be able to get the right answers to her curiousities.A "scared mom" huh?! ;p Well this is just my opinion.It's harder now if you are dealing with a lady (your daughter) you have to be very careful on how to react and answer to her queries.Bec. mostly be it a son or a daughter they look up to you and tries to shadow you.So be very careful.Show them good values and good examples.Ciao.