You got to have a Spare???

@missybal (4491)
United States
June 25, 2008 7:28pm CST
I have always said I only want one child and that is for many reasons. One of the biggest is that with the world today I don't feel that financially my husband and I could afford to have more than one and be able to do all we want to do for them. I thought I heard all the excuses in the book about why it isn't right for you to only have one child...but this is the most shocking... You have to have more than one because what if one dies???? Yeah apparently you got to have a spare in case one of your children die tragically. Honestly I would think that if I had 20 children and one dies I wouldn't be comforted by the thought I have 19 backups... So go on and tell me the reasons I should have more than one child... Or tell me if you have more than one child do you feel better knowing you got a spare???
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Between two marriages I have five stepkids. If one of them were to die I guarantee you I would not be that relieved thinking that I still have four more :( If one is what you think is the best for you and your hubby, then one is what you should have:)
@missybal (4491)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Thank you for your response. Honestly I grew up so poor and my parents worked and I even worked with my mom sometimes that I didn't have much of a childhood so I want to give that to my child, and it's a lot easier to give one child the world than more. I'm sure you love all your stepchildren and intend to give them all you can... most important is the fact that love doesn't cost a thing, but food, clothing, doctors, and college does.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I managed somehow to get four boys raised and grown. Now I have one girl and it is unbelieveable how much costs of everything has gone up. It can be hard to even give one everything that you wish for your children. Being poor as a child is a good lesson for later life, although it sure didn't seem like it at the time LOL
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@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
26 Jun 08
That is THE single most absurd reason I have ever heard, and I've heard plenty. I had someone say something like that to me once. My response was 'I have already lost a child to miscarriage, and having another does not make me stop grieving for the one I lost.' My child is irreplaceable, and like you said, having 19 or even 100 backups wouldn't lessen the pain of losing a child. I have one child, and I will not have any more. People who think that is wrong are ignorant and need to mind their own business. I am tired of defending my decision. It is the right one for me and my family, not for everyone else.
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@missybal (4491)
• United States
26 Jun 08
So sorry for your lost, my best friend lost two before she finally had her little boy. I know she thinks about it all the time and it will never be forgotton. One is all it takes to be a mother. I wish you all the joy in the world.