no tv, no computer, no electronics!!!!????

Kids that play - My children are acually getting along
United States
June 26, 2008 10:44am CST
What was I thinking? It is summer break and we decide now is the time to tell all 4 kids they can't watch TV, or listen to the radio, or play playstation or computer? I must be crazy. You can't enforce that. They will whine all summer long. They will be at each others throats. I have 4 kids ages 6 to 15. We made a decision a few weeks ago that they would not have electronic privledges. It started out as a week long grounding for all 4. It has turned in to a summer long blessing. My kids, like many siblings around the world, have some problems. 1) they don't get out of the house much 2) they don't play with each other 3) they fight all the time 4) they are constantly bored. So why did we take away electronics? Would the games and TV and all that keep them occupied? You would think so, but what I found is just the opposite. Yeah the first week was rough to say the least. But after they saw that we were not backing down a miracle happened...They found other things to do. (you can almost hear the Hallalujah Chorus plaing in the background) Not only that, but they WANTED to go outside. Not only that but now the get UPSET if they have to come in. Not only that but they are playing with EACH OTHER!!! AND GETTING ALONG!!!!! What have I done? I have ruined my kids. Before they wouldn't even talk to each other and now they are asking each other if they would like to play a board game, or put a puzzle together, or go outside and play water gun fight or ride bikes together. Here I thought it would be world war III and instead it has brought peace to our house. What are your thoughts on this??
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@SwtJenlove (1090)
• United States
17 Jul 08
I try that with mine and they look at me like im crazy! until daddy gets home or speaks up then they are like robots LOL
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• United States
17 Jul 08
We tried "telling" them no TV. Then they would get on the TV because they "Forgot". Se we unplugged the TV and the computers. So if they tried to turn it on out of habit it would not. THEN they would have had to remember. So if they turn it on after that they couldn't say they forgot. It's all good.
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@RDugas (247)
• United States
16 Jul 08
NO PLAYSTATION? HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND? Good job! I've been limiting my kids to computer games, and Playstation time all summer and making them go play outside, color, or read a book. It's been so hot here lately we havent been going outside all that much. I am thinking about buying them some learning games for thier Nintedo Ds though so that the game playing is actually doing them some good. My kids tend to fight more when they are playing the games then when they arent.
• United States
17 Jul 08
That is why we started this to begin with. They would always fight about who gets to watch what or who was on the computer. It was none stop. Now they actually play together. Now they still get in fights from time to time, but over all they get along alot better. Yes we are having a hot summer as well so we let them play in the water more.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Just what were you thinking by taking all the best things from your kids. That might be sen as child abuse. haha. No really I think that you have done a great thing for yourself and for your kids. It must really feel good to have your kids communicating with each other. You have to be one tough cookie to be able to stay with this decision. I salute you for being such a good mom.
• United States
26 Jun 08
Thank you for your kind words, HOWEVER, I am a father. My wife does stay home with the kids and she is a "Tough Cookie" and she is a wonderful mom.
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Sorry about that. Most discussions on here about kids are from moms. Any congratulations to both of you.
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• United States
26 Jun 08
No problem. I completely understand.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
17 Jul 08
We did not have to worry about it. Our boys wanted to play outside and we had a hell of a time trying to get them to come inside. In fact, when they did get the computer, they used it at night, so then we had another problem, they want to play hockey, soccer, and baseball, go to their friends' houses, play cards and monopoly and when they come home, and have supper, decide that they are going to have a lan party either here at home or at their friends's so they were up to two am in the morning and on top of that they had to go to work or to school. So I guess now you had better get a Monopoly Game, but watch it when one of you laughs evily and says, I won, and grabs all of the play money!
• United States
17 Jul 08
I think that it is great when I hear people say their kids enjoy being outside. Un fortunatly that is the exception not the rule. The kids seem to be so much more imaginative than they were before. It is rather funny.
@schulzie (4061)
• United States
27 Jun 08
That is great that you decided that. Look at all of your kids getting along with each other and having fun. And think of all the electricity you are saving by having them play outside and stay off the television, etc. I bet you are saving money on your electric bill. Keep up the good work. I also have 4 kids ranging from 3 to 17 so I know what you are going through. Hang in there!
• United States
27 Jun 08
Last night the kids decided they did not want to go outside. They instead sat down in the living room and played Bingo. They don't even ask about the TV anymore. It is quite possible if I got rid of the tv they probably would not notice for a while. :) thanks for the comment
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
26 Jun 08
What do I think of this idea? In my opinion, this is one of the best things parents can do for their children! You obviously received positive results, but even if you hadn't I'd still think it was an awesome idea. (I love the sarcasm in your description as well, by the way. Your discussion was fun to read.) Why I think it's such a good idea is because nowadays kids are so used to using all of these electronic devices and such that they've practically fried their poor little brains! They've also allowed things such as the computer to take the place of good, wholesome fun that can be created by things you mentioned such as playing with siblings and enjoying the outdoors. When I was younger, I played with my one brother and four sisters all the time. We played outside with the neighbors on a regular basis as well. I was the same as your children; I would've thrown a fit if I would've been forced to go back inside. That would've been the punish. Nowadays, the punishment is making kids go outside away from their "toys." I think in doing what you did, you were doing your kids a huge favor by teaching them a valuable lesson. Other than the obvious advantages to your actions, your children were always able to get plenty of fresh air, which helps them sleep better at night. Good ol' oxygen does wonders for the body! (LOL) On top of that, they're using less electricity (less $$$ for bills on your end). When all is said and done, there's absolutely nothing harmful in what you did for (notice I didn't say "to") your kids. Good for you! You're to be commended for your wonderful efforts in helping your children see things from a completely different perspective. I think this was a great summer "project" for you and your family. I'm sure you were surprised as well as delighted by the results. Keep up the great work!
• United States
26 Jun 08
Oh yes and the great grand children will come up to me and kick me in the shin. :)
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• United States
26 Jun 08
Yes, this has been very delightful. And the best part about it, is that more than likely they will grow up and remember the summer that they didn't have electronic and they'll tell their kids "When I was a kids like you, there was a whole summer that Grandpa and Grandma wouldn't let us turn on anything electronic." I believe this will be a summer of fond memories.
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I agree completely. I think this will become a family tradition that will be passed down through the generations. What a great thing!
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
28 Jun 08
I guess this is a classic case of necessity is the mother of invention, but maybe in reverse. It's true that if they are forced to, people will find other stuff to do. Where I live in rural eastern Canada, the electricity goes out easily due to weather, good or bad, warm or cold, as the devices humans use to regulate their environment tax the power grid. One day the power went out and I pulled out candles and playing cards. I sat down on the floor with my boys, ages 15, 16, and 18 at the time. We played Go Fish for about an hour until the lights came back on. Amazing how it will not only create "new" things to do, but lack of electricity and gadgets will also create more family togetherness.
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• United States
29 Jun 08
That has been our experience as well. And we still have power :) The kids have been great here lately and have not even asked for all the "extras"
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@buldwgz (1489)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Sounds like you made a very smart move that turned out even better than anyone could hope for. I would do the same except that I would be punishing myself I think...LOL. I enjoy playing games with my kids on our xbox to much to stop it.
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• United States
27 Jun 08
I admit I enjoy playing the games on the computer and TV with my kids. What I found out though is that I did not enjoy it near as much as I thought. I found out that I enjoyed my kids more when I played away from the electronics. For instance. i have a 6 year old son. He used to always say, "Dad can you play start wars legos on playstation with me?" I would sit down with him and not say one word to him. Now he says "Hey dad can you wrestle with me" We get down on the floor and wrestle and then when he is all worn out he will cuddle up to me and talk. WOW!! some people would pay big money for that from their children. All I did was turn off the TV.
• United States
26 Jun 08
Enforce that! Good for you! Put them OUT in the fresh air to PLAY! They'll sneak a little at friends' houses abyway? But getting kids out for kickball, to play in a pool or ride bikes/roller blade is great! Stay at it. Don't get pushed around by whining! Let them whime outtside at a baskletball or tennis court all they want. They will still PLAY! Make sure they have some paints and paper, etc..cards/UNO! Board games can be fun! Us moms are behind you! LOL!
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• United States
26 Jun 08
It has been a wonderful journey from grumpy kids to siblings that (for the most part) are beginning to respect each other and themselves. My wife and are have been very pleased with the outcome. Thanks for your remarks
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I think that is great. Now your children see that there are other things to occupy their time and minds besides electronics. It is wonderful that they are appreciating each other more
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• United States
26 Jun 08
It does make you wonder what the world would be like if all of the sudden the electronic were taken away. I believe adults would have a more difficult time than the children.
@luki_aj (18)
27 Jun 08
if i'am no computer, no internet no feeling in life
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• United States
27 Jun 08
Was having a hard time understanding you, but let me make sure I do. You said "If I have no computer, no internet would would not feel alive." Obviously I have not cut down on ALL of my computer usage. I just limit it. For the kids we cut them all the way off to allow them to see that there is life away from the tv. thanks for your comment.
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• United States
26 Jun 08
I think this is a awesome idea. When I was growing up we didn't even have a TV...I know, I know sounds impossible but it is the truth. We were encouraged to do other things. Through school I played every sport and was involved in other activities. I also always had a clean room and our house was clean because you would get bored so you would help out. Now that I am a mother of 2 and only 23 years old I would like to enforce the same with my children.
• United States
26 Jun 08
I believe that kids should see those "EXTRAS" as rewards. My kids automatically think that they are personal "Rights". Now they realize that their lives do not have to revolve around Hannah Montana or Play Station. There is life after electronics. i find it funny that the more "advances" that are made in entertainment, the more often I hear kids say that their bored.
26 Jun 08
Wow, that is awesome! I would love to do that! I don't think that I could ever get my husband to agree. He's kind of a tv addict also. He works long hours and just wants to come home and relax in front of the tv most nights. Some nights there is just way to much electronic input and I have to go hide upstairs with a book!
• United States
26 Jun 08
Jazz, I will be honest. I did not like the idea either. I work all day and that is all I wanted to do. What I found out is that I love not having the TV on. I feel more relaxed and seem to have more energy. I believe that the TV would drain me. Not that it was some kind of mind probe that made me a zombie, but think about what is on. News - 90% is bad news. TV shows - Murder, hatred. Sports - THOSE ARE GREAT as long as your team wins. But how do you feel if they don't? See if he would give it a try for just a week. Sometimes what i do is if there is something I really want to watch I record it and wait until the kids go to bed. Also you don't have to quit altogether. Instead make a special event to be able to watch tv not a natural occurance. (I can see it already. I am going to start getting hate mail from kids around the world. lol)
26 Jun 08
I think it was a great idea. Just make sure that you le them use them sometimes. The world today is built on electronics. So when they're older they will NEED to use them. Make sure they get enough to be up to date with them. But not too much...
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• United States
26 Jun 08
True, but a season being away from them is not bad. Basically it is just for 4 weeks. Which to a child is an eternity. The benefits of turning them off by far out weigh the damage of them getting a little rusty on how to turn on the play station. :) thanks for your reply.
@tinkerick (1257)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Way to go! Kudos to you! May have to follow your example. We have 3 kids ages 7 to 13. They are constantly on some electronic device - TV, DS, Video Game, Computer. However, the girls do have friends who call them up and get them out of the house. This summer they've gone swimming several times already (to the point where we've decided to get them season passes). And when the kids behind us get on their trampoline - it acts like a magnet. My kids are out there within minutes. So are half the other kids in the block. And they do go outside willingly to play with the dog. And I'm giving both the girls scooters for their birthday so hopefully that will get them out more too.
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• United States
26 Jun 08
The only advice I have for you is this. If you do try it don't do it for just a week. They have to realize that they don't have any options. The first week is a little rough, but then everything changes. Think about it. TV is really not all that great here lately. Oh and another benefit that I was not expecting, it has made it to where I don't feel like I need to watch TV all the time so now I actually spend more time with my wife. Imagine that, take away electronics as a way to better your marriage. :)