Marrying your First Love
By Jshean20
@Jshean20 (14349)
Canada
June 26, 2008 7:33pm CST
Marrying your first love sounds sweet and everything but is it always a good idea? I think sometimes a first love might be more of a lust thing than love, maybe because it's your first love you don't really know what love can feel like? I'm not telling people to not marry their first love because I think it would be really romantic, I'm just thinking that it isn't always a good idea. What have your experiences been? How do you feel about the topic?
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13 responses
@GraceWull (35)
• China
27 Jun 08
first, congratulatons to you! It is hard to find a true love. And many people spend their whole lives to find their ture love. And you do it. It is precious that your husband is your first love. Wish prince and princess lead a happy life since now.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
27 Jun 08
I believe people should experiment and explore other options before settling down, otherwise they may regret not having had that freedom and other experiences.
I did not marry my first love, and I'd be very sorry if I had.
@1stlover (1)
• United States
18 Jul 09
I have been with my first love for a year now and our families expect us to get married soon since weve been living together for six months. Its a culure thing. Anyway, he's my first relationship and I'm his too. We both want to get married to each other but we also both agree it doesnt have to be now. He thinks he's not financially ready and I have goals. We would both would love to have children together but we want them to come in this world when we feel were ready to support them all the way. People have advised me not to marry my first love because anyone should have explore more before making the lifetime committment of love. I deeply love this man, he's so much better than I am in so many important ways and that's I feel I cant live without him. Im scared though that I might break his heart because Im the more intellectual one but he's the stronger one. Or he could break my heart too but that's too hard to believe. Im 22 and he's 24 and people have said the statistics shown that if you marry under 25 youre most likely to divorce. I dont want to get hurt and I dont want to hurt anyone. I dont ever want break a family I make. Please advise.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
27 Jun 08
I guess this time, we need to explore life more, discover ourselves more by knowing not just one person...If too young, great possibility that this feeling is easily shaken by any trials although, we can name some of our friends who are successful really of their first love..But, only few, most end up realizing that they have changed after this and that!
@koharukusumi (1539)
• Malaysia
27 Jun 08
Dear Jshean, I think that marrying your first love will have benefit in the fact that both individual will know a lot about each other. This is vital in ensuring the couple is compatible as the more you know about your partner, the better. When there are too many secrets between lovers than they will feel betrayed when they find out things they never knew about their partner. That's my opinion :D
@bobaraheem (39)
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27 Jun 08
I personally think that maarying your first love is not a write dicision,because once you have taken the wrong step .You are going to regret yourself for the whole rest of your life.Thanks for listening me
@BINETTIRAFFAELE (68)
• Italy
27 Jun 08
the first love
has a precise! is a unique experience in life beautiful or ugly, it's still important
difficult to forget
Hello!
@pixelpixie (473)
• Canada
27 Jun 08
I agree with you wholeheartedly. Marrying my first love would have ended up being a really horrible decision. He was a horrible boyfriend, and I never would have learned and experienced the things I have with the other men I've dated, and I wouldn't have ended up with the wonderful guy I have now!
I've heard and know some people who DID marry their first loves, and it's worked wonderfully for years and years... so I suppose it all depends on the couples!
Whatever makes you the happiest 
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
there's nothing wrong in marrying your first love. that's ideal for me. as long as you both are ready and loving each other, why not go for the blessed relationship right.
my brother and his wife are first loves of each other. they meet during their high school years and they got married when they finish college. they have two kids now. hehehe.. lovely kids.
@monaliu (344)
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27 Jun 08
Marry my first lover also is my beautiful dream.
But I feel very sad about what's I have done.
he would like keep silence,but I love to chat.
sometimes I really want to leave him,but I love him so much that I even can't lose contact one day of him.
I feel very very tired right now.
I also want to know whether marry him is a good idea?
@angel1001 (113)
• China
27 Jun 08
Marrying my first love?It is my dream.But I konw it cannot come ture.I lost my firt love one year ago.I still think the first love of everyone is the most beautifull thing in the world.But I don't think marrying your first love is a good choice.Although it looks like very romantic,both of you are not mature enough.It is only my oppinoin.
@meganparsons_4 (97)
• United States
27 Jun 08
I married my first and I was his. We have two children and a not so hot marriage. He has cheated on me numorus times and I have still been faithful. I feel since he was my first that is why I have a hard time seeing myself without him. After having two children I don't know if I could ever leave. I am scared since I haven't left though he will continue to cheat.
@nut_nut (251)
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27 Jun 08
i think exploring is a good idea when you are young. the person i though i loved first ended up cheating on me so yes just be wise. do you think its true what people say..you will know when you have found true love?. as i have now..its totally different to the first time totally different. i get so much out of my relationship, i dont mean money i mean the things that count. were getting married next year and im moving to america in with her and her kids, "our kids". im in the perfect relationship, i didnt think it could ever feel this good...shows what i could have ended up with though.
