What do you think?
By dreamertink
@dfollin (24232)
United States
June 27, 2008 10:38am CST
My son and his girlfriend that is the mother of his child and they are broke up.As a lot of you already know I babysit her for a price less then a normal sitter would charge.Then I watch her sometimes and that I call grandma time. My son works Monday thru Wednesday,Saturday and Sunday from 7:00 AM till 7:00 or 8:00 PM.The baby's mother says she works about 7:30 AM till 4:00 PM and sometimes till 6:00PM 5 days a week.But because she does not have a car,she does not come and get the baby till usually 6:30,once and a while she has got here earlier.A lot of times later.I was told that on Thursday's she was going to leave the baby at her grandmother's on in the morning so my son can pick her up and go over to visit at my mom's which is nearby.My other son lives there also,which this girl hates.Then sometimes that night she will spend the night with me.My son will bring her over between 8:00 and 8:30 pm.She usually goes to sleep between 9:00 and 9:30 PM.Then she wakes up usually between 7:00 and 7:15 am.My son comes and picks her up between 8:15 and 8:30.But,this is not always and most of the time she is sleeping.Then he brings her back that night,so not everyone has to get up so early.Sometimes her mother will pick her up from me on Saturday and sometimes on Sunday.But,her mother got upset with me because my sonbrings her at night instead of the morning.I explained why.She didn't care.This week I got up to watch her at 6:30 to watch her as part of my job on Monday and Tuesday.She had an emergency and did not show up to pick up her up on Tuesday night,which was understandable.So,I was supposed to sleep in on Wednesday morning and didn't because the baby woke up at 6:30.Then on Thurday morning at 6:10 she is banging on my door for me to watch her for the hour till my son comes and picks her up.So,finally Iam going to at least get to sleep in on Friday morning at 8:30 she calls me to fuss at me for watching the baby for a half an hour on his day off.He went with his brother to a friends house and after they left she called her and told her that there were there without the baby for an hour.Which was not true.She say's to me also that he only has her a couple days a week and that he should spend even the time she is sleeping with her and that on her days off she spends every minute with her.Then how come she told me that she would pick her up from me Saturday,but she is going out for the day and can the baby stay here? But,yet it was wrong for me to watch her for a half an hour yesterday.She says that on the days he has her I have her instead (which is not true) and she is tired of it.One time I told her that I did not like not getting to sleep in any morning and she told me "Well,I don't". So she made sure I did not sleep in any morning this week.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
28 Jun 08
Well i think you are sorta in a sticky situation really..I would just tell her nicely that if she has a problem with me baby sitting while your son supposs to have her that she needs to take it up with your son,becaause i was not going to refuse to keep the baby ...She has no right to tell you not to keep the baby when your son has her...Even though they do use you a lot for baby sitting it is good that you are bonding with your grandbaby...Its hard to be in the middle like you are,since its you son and his g/f is the mother of your grandbaby..
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@dfollin (24232)
• United States
28 Jun 08
I did I told her to tell him,not me and she said that she did and he isn't listening.I told him that she called and why and also did it agsin to make sure I don't get any morning this week to sleep in.She is picking the baby up from me tommorow and I will ask her then how come it was OK for me to keep the baby while she spent the whole day out,evening and all night but not ok for her to be with me for a half an hour one day or for her to stay with me at night on the two night's that he has to get up early and go to work?
@dfollin (24232)
• United States
28 Jun 08
I know she is trying to punish my son.The problem is she doesn't have the same work schedule every week.And I can't call there because her co workers and boss cover for her.A few weeks ago I got upset with her because she did not show up when she was supposed to and I had no sleep in days that week either.I told her that I did not appreciate not having a day to sleep in and she told me that she never got a day to sleep in.I told her that I've been there and done that.That she has a baby.My choice is to wake up early 5 days a week.So,she came and got her and fired me,said her grandmother was going to watch her after we had a discussion the night before that her grandmother can't watch her too.She already wathches that girls other child.A couple of days later I she found out that she wouldn't watch her and called me up.There is no one else reliable to watch her and Iam afraid of what might happen if someone else does.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
28 Jun 08
What your sons g/f is trying to do is to punish your son and she is trying to use you to do it...I would make it plain to her that i was NOT going to get in the middle of this,and that If i cannot keep the baby for him then i would not be able to keep the baby for her for her to take a day off either...I would tell her that it was not fair to you for her to tell you anything,and that you refuse to get involved,and stand your ground....It should not matter to her what your sondoes when he has the baby as long as the baby is being taken care of..
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@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
27 Jun 08
She has quite a bit of nerve, doesn't she? You've raised your children and now she needs to raise her. Its great that you babysit for them but you don't have to do that. This is their responsibility. Don't let them take advantage of you. It seems that's exactly what they are doing. The fact that she doesn't get to sleep in is her problem. She is the one that had a baby. Like I said, you've done your time and taken care of your own children. They can do the same.
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@dfollin (24232)
• United States
27 Jun 08
That's what I told her that I had already been there,done that.She really ticks me off with this stuff that on her days off she can do whatever,but we my son is off according to her he is to spend every minute with her.Iam to have no seperate Grandma time and no one else in our side the family is to have time with her.My son is to have no time to himeself,he is to only work and take care of the baby.
