3 or 8 minutes dating,what are your views about it?

United States
June 28, 2008 12:54am CST
I watched on the news last night and they were showing " speed dating", a person may register at $30 and enjoy the night for 3 or 8 minutes dating! I can just imagine if someone can memorize all the details as well as names of the person they are talking with...LOL! I may not have the skill to talk that fast for several people!One author said that, to find a lifetime partner is a crucial thing to do, you have to know the inner qualities of a person as well as integrity and these aren't possible for 3 0r 8 minutes! For me, maybe if they will meet someone whom they share same interests then they can extend and set arrangement for their private meetings and dating! What is your stand about it? Is there anyone here have tried this type of dating?
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
30 Jun 08
Hmmm 3-8 mins datuing can be only done for fun or too make ant weired records. and i am sure i cant do it, even not for flirting. LOL i think i will need a proper time to settle down and know each other before proceeding. in 3-8 minutes date ur mind must be occupied previous date and thinking of next date,:LOL its not my type dear byee
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• United States
30 Jun 08
Thanks for sharing cupid, It's a lot of stress for me if I will be joining it..LOL
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
1 Jul 08
u mean joing 3-8 min date oR longer one, once in a day LOL just kidding, sure it would be stress stay safe
• United States
2 Jul 08
The shorter time with many people whom I will meet and talk too! LOL!
• United States
30 Jun 08
First I must ask, are you a fellow Capricorn? If so, glad to meet you. If not, it is still great to meet you. I have never tried this speed dating but if you find love, then why not?I could see having a speed date , really connecting and then arranging for another date that is a regular length.I believe that you can find your soulmate anywhere anytime.
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• United States
30 Jun 08
Hi there sarahruthbeth, Glad to meet you too! I am a girl and happily married here...I am just amazed with this type of dating and made me wonder to gather your thoughts about it! Thanks for sharing!
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• United States
1 Jul 08
I am not married and I never want to be. But for some that are looking, this speed dating may just work.
• United States
2 Jul 08
Hi again sarah, I agree with you, there is no harm in trying! thanks!
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@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
30 Jul 08
Hello checapricorn, Do you believe in it and do you think if you have a chance, you will try this once? *winks* I heard about it quite a long time ago when I was 'busy avoiding a date' *laughs* You need to register and then the agency will pick few candidates whose details suit yours. Then you will go from table to table and for each table, you just talk and talk for a few minutes, trying to get to know your date as much as you can. Once done, you will move to the next table. If both of you show some interests to each other, you can decide to have a second date to get to know him/her better. Finally, after one or two dates set by the agency, you will go on your own way - you have a full freedom to decide whether he/she is really, really the one that you have been looking for years *laughs* I don't believe in quick dating. I've known a guy for 10 years and still, at the end of our relationship, I felt like I didn't really know him.
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• United States
30 Jul 08
Hi gr8life, Honestly, when I was young and single, I might give a try with few friends! LOL! Just for fun! LOL! But, I also guess it will not work this way...Who knows? LOL! I have not found any testimonies!
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@ruby222 (4848)
24 Jul 08
I cant for thre life of me think how the speed dating thingy works!!imagine sitting before someone that you feel you maybe could get along with,and then the next thing the bell rings and you have to move on!!Well it would make me feel a bit cross here!!I seem to think you maybe would fair better from going on a blind date.at least if you meet somewhere safe,and there are people all around you then you could at least get to know one an other,and see if you have anything in common!
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• United States
24 Jul 08
I agree ruby! I have not heard also a testimony that a couple were successful after meeting there!
@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
I never heard of this place you are talking about but I can say I don't think it would work for me, no, I know it wouldn't work for me. I think that is crazy 3 to 8 minutes. You can not possibly get to know a person in that short of a time. But I guess in that time you would know if there is an attraction or not, but not know the inner person. I would never join such a place because it just isn't worth the money for one thing, and for another, I don't hink it would work for me. I am attracted to a person from the inside, not the outside.
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• United States
11 Jul 08
I am with you chris..It's hard to be running the time when we are talking with someone and might end up knowing nothing about the person due to time stress! LOL!
@saundyl (9686)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
I wouldn't even call that a date! Its more like a brief get to know you making an acquaintance oh yes that person IS looking to date type of meeting. I wouldn't do it myself. I have seen it on movies and it always looks so terribly dumb!
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• United States
2 Jul 08
Hi saundyl, I agree..I am excited to hear about real life testimonies though if anyone was successful!
• United States
2 Jul 08
I'm 19 and I've never dated but I would love to try this. It really sounds like fun to tell you the truth. 'Cause what if you get someone really annoying or really into themselves and you just want to leave them. You only have to be there with them for like eight minutes and then go on to the next person. I think I would love to try this. I'll probably have a lot of fun doing something like this.
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• United States
2 Jul 08
Hi ayumitakashi, well, for single I am sure this will be a lot of fun and excitement..LOL! Good Luck!
@SHAMRACK (8521)
• India
1 Jul 08
Dear friend, The speedy life has effected almost everywhere even in dating too. May be there could be other bad effects which is in most of new things. Anyhow I hope it depends upon the time managment more effectievely. But I do not think that there could be any success unless it comes as attraction or love at first sight. May be 3 or 8 minutes could hardly say few words which cannot even judge or know each other well unless that words are very much carefully used. I hope this could be another emegernce of new advancement in social changes.
• United States
2 Jul 08
Hi there SHAMRACK, I agree with you, with this technology, I do know what will be the next thing that is quite impossible but people made it possible to happen.LOL!
• China
1 Jul 08
A very interesting topic!It marks advance of the society.From my point of view,people can have a try if they have been devoted almost to their works and are worried about not able to find the lifetime partner. I have my boyfriend already.So it is impossible for me to take part in the speed dating shows.Not only for this,I,at first,am not good at communication during so short period.Facing strangers,even several people I never met before,I would become a bit nervous and turn red.Of course,how can expect I could remember the questions I want to ask to others. To a simple person like me,it is doomed that I would fail to find my satisfied lifetime partner in such activity. Ok,I prefer to meet the ones either of my friends'friend or I know his background at least. All in all,I am fashionable and not welcome risky experience.
• United States
1 Jul 08
Hi Crystalxdr, I also admire the so called type of dating but I can't imagine I will be successful if I am single and joining it! LOL! I for sure will be having difficulty in recalling names and details of the persons I am talking with!
• United States
30 Jun 08
I dont think thats a good idea checapricorn about dating 3 or 8 mins...lol!To get to know the person you love you should date with him/her for unconditional time...
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• United States
30 Jun 08
Hi baleleng, I Agree with you, it's hard to know the person with this time allotment..LOL! Thanks for dropping!
@Pose123 (21661)
• Canada
29 Jun 08
Hi checapricorn, Well, it is a way of meeting, and if the couple want, they can make arrangements to meet again. May not be a bad idea if one is cautious. Blessings.
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• United States
2 Jul 08
Hi Pose, thanks for dropping and sharing your positive outlook about it!
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
29 Jun 08
I have heard of this although I have never partaken of anything like that. I don't know about anyone elses thoughtson this. But I just don't think it's possible to meet someone this way that you can have a meaningful relationship with. You just don't have time to get to know them. However it is a way to get to know more people and getting out there testing the waters so to speak. At least you get to meet people in a safe way. I just couldn't see me doing it.
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• United States
29 Jun 08
Hi moondancer, in a way, you got a point...people will be able to meet any new friends and who knows it will start from there!LOL!
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Jun 08
I saw this speed dating thing in the movie "hitch"... and i think that is a new way of finding people who have the same interest as you... or a future partner... if i am single... and this sort of thing is available in my area... i think i will try it out for fun... but i don't think i will find someone there for me...
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• United States
1 Jul 08
Hi aseretdd, maybe great for fun and experience! LOL!
28 Jun 08
yeah i think its the most fastest meeting or dates in the history of the world,but i want to state that its not necessary that the couple you are watching is meeting for the first time they must have such kinda setting that they just wanted to meet and satisfy there loved ones by sexually methods or anyother.But as always people say one a glance is more then enough for a life time memory or life time love.
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• United States
1 Jul 08
Hi there bobaraheem, thanks for sharing! So, we are talking here about the magic of love! You have your point!
@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Jun 08
i have seen this and wondered how well it worked.I myself would not be able in three to eight minutes to know the other person even a little bit and know if I wanted to date this person. I just do not work that fast. I have never tried this type of dating and really dont even want to. anyway I am now nuch too old for the dating game any more. I have been there and done that, and had a lovely marriage for thirty four years. thats enough.
• United States
1 Jul 08
Wow, that's very inspiring Hatley! thanks for sharing. If I am single, I also can't imagine myself trying this type of dating! I will be mess up! But, sounds fun really!
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
28 Jun 08
I wouldn't expect to find my soul mate doing that. lol I think these kind of things are more like a one night stand type thing. What can you learn about a person in 3 - 8 minutes? NOT MUCH! I'd be extremely careful doing this. ~Icy~
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• United States
1 Jul 08
Hi there icyorchid, thanks for sharing! I have not heard any successful testimony also about this type of dating! If I am single, i do know if I can handle this..LOL!
@ruby222 (4848)
28 Jun 08
Well ive never tried it Che and im not too sure how on earth it works..its obviosly based on instant attraction...but i still dont see how in three or even eight minutes you can really get the `fell` of someone....but it must work for some folks as it seems to be a popular thing to do nowadays...I Couldnt imagine myself doing it..but then lol im a bit past all of that now!!
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• United States
1 Jul 08
Hi ruby, thanks for sharing, I also can't iamgine doing good with this type of dating..LOL!
• India
28 Jun 08
It may not be perfect dating, when the person meet the some one how they will get the things within short period, this dating system need to change some easy ways.
• United States
28 Jun 08
Hi twistershot, I agree with you! They need to edit some of the mechanics!
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
28 Jun 08
It seems speed dating is becoming more popular. I have never tried it as I have a partner. If I was single, I think it would be fun to go along to. However I think if you had that attraction to someone you would have to go on a longer date to see if there was a connection there. I am hopeless with names though, like you I would be very lucky if I remember any of they guys names.
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• United States
28 Jun 08
Hello kiran, I agree, when I will be introduced to many people, I don't have any assurance to remember them all! LOL!
@gemini_rose (16192)
28 Jun 08
No I have never tried speed dating and to be honest I never would. It is not my idea of fun, if I ever end up single again and I wanted to find someone, which I would not, but if I did, I would just go out and meet people that way. I am not sure that I would do the dating thing online, although in a way it is a nice way to talk and meet people from all over but there are also a lot of risks with it. But the only judgement that I would be able to make in three or eight minutes is whether I fancied them or not!
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• United States
28 Jun 08
Hi gemini, a lot of chances for this short dating that a person is not talking to the real one, great chances of pretention! Just my opinion! I would also not try this if I am single, it will just stress me out dealing with short conversations and messing up with names after! LOL!