What is a real friend?

June 28, 2008 7:58am CST
Everyone says they have friends. How many of those friends can you count on in a true crisis,emercency,to help with babysitting when you are busted broke but need to go to work? Put your friends in a circle and start eliminating. I would like to start a discusion on true friends and your experience. Have a blessed day
4 responses
@mentalward (14695)
• United States
28 Jun 08
I have one true friend. We've been there for each other for over 30 years. I once had to be rushed to the hospital with a ruptured fallopian tube due to an ectopic pregnancy, and I was self-employed at the time and working on a student's Master's thesis. While still in the emergency room, I asked my mother to please call my friend and ask her if she could help me work on the thesis until I got out of the hospital. My friend came over at 7:00 a.m. the next morning and worked on that thesis until 1:00 a.m. the next morning! She put her own family on hold to help me out. I have also been there for her. She needed a babysitter so she could go to work. She had a 2 week-old baby. I took care of her baby like he was my own. I never asked her for money, either. That's just what friends do. (She did pay me... she said she just wouldn't feel right about me doing it for free, and she had a good income.) Since I worked from my home, it was easy to take care of her baby so she could get to her job. We've done a lot of little things for each other over the years. It is such a good feeling to know that there is someone whom you can count on, no matter what. That's a good friend.
@mentalward (14695)
• United States
28 Jun 08
Oh, I almost forgot! I've answered two of your discussions and never said "Welcome"! So, welcome to myLot! I hope you are as happy here as the rest of us. We're a great big extended family here. Enjoy!
28 Jun 08
I am soooo happy to here you have a REAL friend. So many people don't. She sounds like a rare jewel.I am sorry to here about your hospital stay. Thank you for the welcome too!! I will try my hardest to make this work. Thank you for responding to my post. I will hopefully talk to you soon.
@suria5231 (147)
• Malaysia
28 Jun 08
Friends are easy enough to find. This is always true when you are in positions of power, advantage , financial capability and influence. But true friends are indeed very rare and if you have one such friend he/she is a true gem that you should treasure always. This true friend will be there for you no matter what the circumstances. And in this modern days of so many commitments and distractions it is hard to find someone who will have the time for you. But this friend will be willing to sacrifice for you and devote the time necessary to help you back on your feet when you are down and out. If you want to know who your true friends are, you can identify them easily when you face a crisis. The true friends will be there near you while those who are fair weather friends will be no where to be found. I have realised that many times before and am now more guarded when I begin the process of cultivating new friendships.
30 Jun 08
You are so right in your comments. I have been down and needed a friend to help and they ran. If there is money involved or extreme time and labor they tend to have a million and one excuses for not being able to help. Sacrifice is not a common activity among friends. Especially if it is going to be more than 1 time.
• Singapore
28 Jun 08
I do have some close friends in life. But what makes me disappointed in them is when I have encountered some troubles in life, they weren't there beside me. Nor do they celebrate and be happy for me when I succeed.
30 Jun 08
I am sorry to hear that. That's why the question Who are your true friends? I real friend will be there through happy and sad or bad times regardless. Keep looking for real friends they are out there and everyone needs at least one.
28 Jun 08
Hello mjdoodlebug, I do have a lots of friens, but I know that here are two very best frends I got. When I was not working and stoney broke, they were always there for me, they even buy me clothes and treat me to lots of things, so we whenever they need help with anything I'm right there for them.Love them dearly. Tamarafireheart.
30 Jun 08
That's really great to hear. So many dont have true friends when in need. You really no who your friends are when you ask for help and even though it may be a tall order they will be there for you to help. Keep returning the favors and you will have them forever