how is your realtionship with your siblings?

India
June 30, 2008 1:18am CST
we are four of us, two elders a brother and a sister , myself and a younger sister. all of us are married. I am very far from my hometown and parents , two of my siblings stay near my parents, myself and younger sister are away. we all are well educated. we have a lawyer, engineer, Phd holder(doctorate)in my family, so on a whole we all are very well settled. so after marriage my life is revolving around kids, husband and family. I miss all those days we had. I can only talk to them on phone, it has been more than a year since i saw my parents. I miss them a lot. ultimately it is their love that matters irrespective of how far I stay from them, a email, SMS es makes my life a bit colorful. we sisters still keep in touch by chatting, it is brothers who move away from us after marriage. I make sure to wish them on their birthdays and anniversaries. we need to express our love. I want my kids to have aunts and uncles. In this age of nuclear families where only husband and wife matters, there is no room for extended families. so what do you suggest to enhance our realtionship so that we remain as a family.
4 responses
roniroxas
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
i have two more siblings. one older than me and one younger, so that makes me a middle born. i am close to my younger sister and we both are not that close to the older one. the younger one lives abroad and now at present is here with me for she is pregnant, (7 months to be exact) and she is more confident if she will give birth here than abroad. her husband will come over on september for that is her due month. i miss her so much and now that we are living in the same house we talked a lot and we enjoy doing things together. i go with her everytime she needs to see her doctor. me having four children is not an expert but she is more confident to go with me. now we are planning to go window shop on what things to buy and soon be buying it one at a time. the older onw just text us but not everyday. i hope to see her around when the baby comes out. just like that she treats us just like an aquaintance and not like a sister. i really dont know why. we love her, we even buy clothes for her or something for her. maybe that is really her personality. she dont even have permanent friends.
JordanMarie
@JordanMarie (16)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I was there to see both of her kids born... She was there for me when I had my two Boy's.... Her oldest and my youngest are only one month and 19 days apart.... we use to be so close but now she is gone off to live . Her own life with her kid's and the man she has been with for 6 years now.... He hates me I hate him .....They have there up and downs and they fight .....I say nothing cause if I did it would only hurt her more....I love her and her kids and I would do any thing to help her if he would let me.with out hurting her and the kids....So when I do get to talk to her time flies bye so fast that we have to go before we are really ready too... I pray that she stays happy in life and every thing goes well for her... I will and do miss her very much.... M.J
rmuxagirl
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
3 Jul 08
My brother and I get a long pretty well right now. But when you get us living under the same roof for a long amount of time we will be at each other's throats. I love my brother a great deal and I don't like being at his throat, but we are so close in age and too much alike that that is all we do is fight.
zamalaka04
@zamalaka04 (7)
• United States
30 Jun 08
You know thats a tough one! With the crazyness of everyday life its gets hard to stay in touch. I lived away from my family for 3 years being military its something that is bound to happen. As much as I loved coming home to see my family I think having space was a great thing (in my case) because in the past year we have been back in the state we were born and only 100 miles from family its been harder on us and our kids! After I moved home my sister and brother both moved out of state! So I just have my younger sister here with me. Its sad, and I do miss all of the times when we could just be kids and ride bikes and play together. To keep in touch I make sure to have one day a week that I call all 3 of my siblings. Even if its just to say Hello, and I always let my childern talk to them also so that when in the future we do all get together my children know who they are seeing! I know this probably didnt help much, but hope if gave inspiration! proudmommyof2
JordanMarie
@JordanMarie (16)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I know how you fell! about being a way from them but some time's it is best that we live apart from our loved one's ... I found out that we get along better... We don't have time to find something bad in each other.... I have not lived around any of my brother's or sister ,Mother,Father in a very long time...I think about 18 years now..... Yes I miss them like crazy But I have to keep my distaints from them.... Or I would fall victim to there every need..."bail them out of jail"ect.. I live on a fixed income...But them as siblings feel that because we are sister and bothers..That I have to help them but they can't for some reason help me when there help is needed .... so... yes i understand where you are coming from... But if you won't to get closer to them and see them more.. There is always web cam.... Or you could set back a little money every week or every two weeks to take a vacation to go and spend a week with them.....