Can they change?........Really?

I would also be suspecioious. But people can change. Dont openly ask them to prove it or you may hurt their feelings and cause them to revert back to the way they were. Best advice, just wait and see how it all turns out and hope the really did change.

you are talking about my older sister. after miserable years she woke up one Christmas without most of her family. she only had 1 son. so she decided to start being nice. which is so difficult for her she had a breakdown of crying and storming out of the room. it was such hard work for her. but she still isn't really nice when she thinks she is. she enjoys too much making fun of people in their face and verbally punching you constantly . she thinks she thinks she's clever and witty and she is hurtful. she is better than she was, but still difficult. a neighbor who met her for the first time found her appalling.

I personally would never trust them again. I would probably behave more accepting, but I wouldn't actually believe them. I just don't trust people like that. My in-laws do that to my husband all the time. They treat him like crap, he stops talking to them, then they start acting all sugary then they slap him in the face again. And he falls for it every single time.

well in that case i wont trust them that easy..not yet..they have to do efforts for me to give out trust..trust is being earned and not just because you happen to be nice all of a sudden i should trust you...i'm more of being civil to them rather than do it their way and be nasty like what they do..

I don't think your being a cynic so much as your just being careful. Sometimes you have to watch out and be careful on who you actually trust, and people who change over night are a real eye opener. I would definitely be a little suspicious and keep my distance from them but I wouldn't ignore them or refuse to hang out with them. It's easier to observe a person if your around them, and sometimes it takes several hours to really get a good feel on how they really are now. For instance, My fiance "brother" used to be a liar, we stopped associating with him and he changed. We were skeptical, but he really did change for the better. My friends on the other hand changed for the worse, and sadly, we're not friends anymore because of it. Just be careful who you trust, but don't let your distrust get in the way of how you trust everyone. Have a Great day.

Good question. I would be nice back, but very, very cautious. I would be listening all the time for a clue as to the reason for the change of heart. Much as I'd like to think of myself as forgiving, I don't think I'd ever really trust someone like that again. I've been fortunate in my life that if anyone has been hateful and nasty, I have been able to politely break contact with them quite quickly. I'm glad it's hypothetical in your case, as it's not a pleasant experience to have someone like that in your life.

Cj, I do not think I would trust anyone who did an about face like that... I mean I would trust the person more in not changing than I would if they changed attitudes so fast. I mean I would always be looking over my shoulder and searching out the "real" reason for the change!

It would be very difficult to trust anyone in this situation. Especially if it had been years of abusive behavior, who would trust them?

I would be very leary! I have an older sister that I haven't always seen eye to eye with....and when you least expect it she attacks in an unusual way. It's sad to say that for a year we didn't speak to each other....we have made up but I don't go out of my way to be with her...she might be very nice to me...but the old ways she used to use on me I see her exhibit to others....so I won't turn my back or take her for face value!

yes I really would be a bit skeptical but would give them a chance to prove they have c hanged. I would let them explain to me why they had changed and wait for it to be proved to me thatthey really had changed.

Change is inevitable. People do change, in return do trust but not fully until such time they have proven that they have changed fro the better.

At first I would be stunned, then suspicious, then wary if the behavior continued. I would never leave myself open for them. The only way they could get that close to me is if they came to me and apologized for their ugly behavior over the years and explained why they had changed. I believe if someone has been horrible, and they change, it's usually something God has done in them, and nine times out of ten, they have to go back and make restitution even if it's an apology and an explanation. Then I'd have to forgive them and move on. Which wouldn't be easy, and it doesn't mean I'd have to be close to them.

I'd never really believe someone that did that, no matter how they tried to prove or explain it. Just call it SUPER-MONDO-BECKY-CYNIC. -Lol-

Generally virtues and vices of a person does not leave him.They both ( Person and his charactar) survive toigethjer but sometimes only sometimes people change, due to their selfish motives or your neceesity to him, or due to realistion.But be cautious,test him before you trust him.Do not take things for garnted just becauise someone says he has changed. Think why he has changed, what are the reasons.If you are fully convinced than only trust him. It is better to be cautiuous than to be fooled.

I would be very suspicious too and I would be the same as you and would want to know why the change and see if they stuck with it. I would still have my shield up until something was proven.

I can't say as I would want to turn my back to them either. I would have difficulty believing their sincerity. I do believe that such change is possible though because I have seen it, but from what I have seen that type of person usually has to work to gain the trust of others.

I would be suspicious. I do believe people can change, but people also need to prove it. Usually something happens that brings a change in people. People don't change for no reason. It takes something to make them want to change their ways.

Not at all infact, I like such people