Is it easy?

China
June 30, 2008 5:24am CST
Is it easy to forget or to forgive ? Can you figure it out
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@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
30 Jun 08
When I was a younger I used to think that I can forgive but can never forget things. But now I realise that the both are interdependent. How can I forgive without forgetting it! And if I don't forget the bitterness or whatever I can never actually forgive. So Both are interdependent and I must tell you - not easy at all. We are humans and we do have our hurts and sorrows to overcome grief and then only we can either forget or forgive. smiles..
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
1 Jul 08
How can I forgive without forgetting it! how can you forget something that has had such a huge impact on your life though? I was abused as a child and raped in my teens...how could I EVER "forget" that? See what I mean..they had MASSIVE impacts on my life to this very day...I'll never be able to "forget" them...its impossible...
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@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
For me, I think it is easy to forgive than to forget.. When someone hurt us, when he/she ask for a forgiveness sometimes we forgive him/her right away but then the pain still there; the bad memories is still in our mind and heart.. I believe that even though we forgive someone who had hurt us I know that deep inside there is still pain and that pain will always be there every time we see the person who had hurt us.. Sometimes, we just forgive that person for the sake that he/she asking for it but we all know that we are not yet ready to forgive him/her.. When we feel pain we can never forget it because it already mark in our heart and mind.. So, I think forgiveness in more easy to give and say but it is hard to forget the pain that they had cause..
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@baileycows (3668)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I think it is easier to forgive. I have been in situations where I have had to forgive someone and try to forget. I have found it much easier forgiving them and moving on than forgetting. It seems that it always lingers in the back of your mind and is waiting to lunge forward.
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• United States
1 Jul 08
me personally i usually will forgive someone the first time but after that i know the person wont stop so i just leave them even if i love them.
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
1 Jul 08
It would depend on the topic at hand as to whether or not I can forgive someone....AND how they are over it..if they have NO remorse then why woudl I waste time forgiving them..BUT forgetting something that has been done to you is IMO IMPOSSIBLE...especially when its a big thing becuase its most likely affected your life in a huge way. How could you forget something like that?? HOWEVER..One thing ppl should realize (IMO) is that just because someone hasnt forgiven a wrong doer and just because someone hasnt forgotten what was done DOES NOT MEAN they can't, don't and won't be able to move on..
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 08
It is easier to forgive than to forget, I think. You may not harbour anymore bitter feelings against that person, but you will not be able to forget the incident.
@diansinta (7550)
• Indonesia
30 Jun 08
Katherleen, It's never easy when the heart decided not to let go to forgive and forget. But once we make a choice to let go, in the mean time, we will forget it all the way and we will be ready to fill our live like empty blank white paper. OoXx`dian
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@TheCarter (370)
• United States
3 Jul 08
The pain can be hard to get over and I don't feel we are responsible for that. I do think that we are responsible for how we respond when we feel the pain. It seems easier for me to forgive a foe than a friend because of my expectation level, but I know in my heart I can't continue to be vengeful toward either one. I think release would be a better word than forget. I think we should learn to release because the heart does not often forget.