Steamy emails

June 30, 2008 2:18pm CST
A work colleague and me have been emailing each other for a while,things have been getting pretty steamy and hes getting very graphic ,as to what he would like to do with me.So ive been afool and beleived him,but now he is saying that he has to be careful as he has a wife and two kids to think of ,so he cant afford to get involved with me.Has he been playing me for a fool?or have I just been stupid in listening to what he has been saying in his emails and getting a bit carried away?
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10 responses
@p1kef1sh (45638)
30 Jun 08
I'm not sure that he's been playing you for a fool. Have you been responding in a similar way? It's easy to get carried away in e mails. You aren't alone. However, as others have said, employers can be very funny about such activity and you may want to consider stopping the "raunchiness" and maybe cooling the whole thing off anyway. Put it down to experience and get on with your life.
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30 Jun 08
Well it was a two way thing of course!!ut he is doomed now,and as ive pointed out in the post above he is going into the file marked `shredder`,it was someting hot that went cool and has now turnd to ice,I hope that you are shedding a few tears for me.Im moving on as suggested.
@p1kef1sh (45638)
30 Jun 08
If you are moving on then my tears are tears of joy.
30 Jun 08
Dont overdo it Piky my dear!
@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
1 Jul 08
Oh, dear - this colleague of yours hasn't been a very nice man. It was very unfair of him not to have told you about his family circumstances before flirting with you in emails - and the worry is that if you have been using the computers at work, the boss might see the emails and you might both be embarrassed. I think you should be firm with this man and tell him you are no longer interested in emailing him because he has a wife and children. It might be uncomfortable if you are working in the same place, but you sound far more mature and sensible than he is, so you will have to be firm. Good luck!
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1 Jul 08
This just goes to prove that we are all vulnerable in our own little way and im no different,but you see its the trusting people that always seem to get drawn into these things.We initially feel flattered and then the flattery turns to lust and then off we go,we are on that roundabout.But yes I agree he wasnt being too kind in hiding his family,but there are a lot of affairs and liasons that are carried on like that and the shame is that the one party remains in the dark about it all.The mails will all be destroyed so ever hopefully they wont be traced,but thats life ,we all make mistakes,and we have to learn by them.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
30 Jun 08
First off, I would have been scared to be carrying on a fling over email, especially in the office. This is a reason to get fired. Most offices monitor emails and don't allow private emails within the office. Sounds like this guy was just having what he thought might be an 'innocent fling' and nobody would ever be the wiser. And now he's scared that his wife and kids might find out. Did you not know this guy was married at the onset? I do think he's been using you for his own fantasies. And now that he has you interested, he's wanting to bow out. First, I'd print out these messages for my own records in case something comes up.Then, I'd ignore anymore emails I got from this guy and steer clear of him. He is certainly not good news.
30 Jun 08
No he is bad news most definately and now ive come to my senses and thought it through and ive realised he has just used me through and through.Im not into the hurting game and im just putting him in the file marked `shredder`.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I love the shredder bit.We usually say it's going in File 13, meaning the trash.
1 Jul 08
LOL so a file 13 there and a shredder here!!!
• Philippines
1 Jul 08
Be advised that using your work computer is like having a spy 24/7 behind your back. The admin gets to read your letter. Its not only the guy who knows whats happening but the admin as well. You have been very foolish. You failed to consider whether or not the guy was really serious. You should have confronted him early on before you fell so deep into his trap. But all has been said and done. What you need to do is forget all about him and move on. Think that you deserve better than him.
10 Jul 08
Yes I need to move on now and just forget all about him and his dirty dealing.
@djhybrid (94)
1 Jul 08
I think you were foolish for trying to get with a married man. By the sounds of things he was trying to get some extra action on the side or he may even have just been pulling your leg as a joke. Either way you should just let it go and get on with your life. Maybe find yourself someone who does not have a wife and two kids.
10 Jul 08
Foolish very definately,and to get caught again like that,no way,he was a King Rat.
• United States
1 Jul 08
Wow, it always sucks when this sorta thing happends.. Did you know he was married? and had kids?. if you did that was veary wrong on your part. and on his part. he was totaly out of line. he shouldnt have been tlaking to you like that at all. lusting over another woman is stil cheating. if you didnt know he was marired then it was a normal thing. when people express certin feelings for you.and it is thoes feeling behind close doors you long for. its so much easier to believe what they say because you really want it to be true. i WAS the same way...but now i have became cold hearted in that sence. tell me you want to do this and be that to me.. we for now i dont beleive you.prove it to me and then mabey ill take it into concideration. im not like to to hirt others feelings, im just like that to keep from getting mine hurt. and believe me. its worked:")
1 Jul 08
It was a bad time to go through and he didnt let on to being married ,nope,so he made a total fool out of me,but hey thats men for you,like you im getting harder hearted as time goes on.
• United States
1 Jul 08
oooh nooo! getting involved with a married PIGGY! Very sucky! You got carried away for sure! Did you not know he was married? Just forget all about it and avoid him.
1 Jul 08
LOL he was a wolf in sheeps clothing!,and he got the big E a long time ago!
@risris24 (712)
• United States
30 Jun 08
He is looking for a quick fling but nothing serious. Tell him if he was so concerned in thinking about his wife and children he shouldn't be so concerned with wantingto do anything with you. He wants his cake and to eat it too and is looking to make you a fling on the side while he goes home to his wife and children and pretends you don't even exist. I am not being harsh but it is just a reality that many women unfortunatley experience withh married men, and unfortunatley it may be tempting but it never turns out good.
30 Jun 08
You are so right ,theres no good can come from this,only hurt,and im just sure he was after what he thought he maybe could get,but he is in for a big suprise ,as he is never going to get anything from me,not even the time of day.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
30 Jun 08
You are unwise to believe what this person is saying. You also should be careful if these emails are being sent and received via your work computers. Big brother is watching, and they may come back to bite you. To this person, it was probably a game, and when he realized that you were getting serious, he decided to back down. You were not stupid, but your actions were not thought through.
30 Jun 08
True so true and Im sure he is a bit of a rat really and I should have known better than to trust him ,but it takes all sorts to make a world.
• United States
10 Jul 08
Stick to single men, and don't date colleagues. It is just a bad idea, and, at many companies, grounds for firing. You are lucky to still have a job. Consider this a lesson and move forward-- and onward to a better class of man.