How long do we have to keep our discussions updated?

United States
June 30, 2008 3:56pm CST
Here's a question that I've always wondered about. Let's say that you have a discussion that you posted over a month ago. Or, maybe ten discussions. But people keep responding to those discussions. Now you've already resolved the discussion and picked a best response, but you are still getting responses. Should you feel obligated to keep responding to the people that come by that discussion, even though you have moved on to newer discussions? Just how long are you obligated to follow up on your own discussions and respond back? If you're still getting responses one year from now, would you need to respond back? Does anyone know the answer to this question?
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28 responses
• Canada
30 Jun 08
I think if it is an advice discussion where the situation has been soled, you can pick a best response and be done with it. If it's another discussio about a on-going topic, even if you've picked a best response, continue the discussion if you eel like it. I don't beliee in obligation, and I certainly do not believe that a best response means the end of a discussion. It doesn't have to.
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• United States
1 Jul 08
Sometimes it is nice to drag things out and chat for awhile. I love discussions like that. But as you say, if it were a discussion seeking advice or solution, then why keep it going.
@gemini_rose (16268)
30 Jun 08
I am not really sure about that one, I sometimes respond to those that still comment on the old discussions, not always but most of the time.
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• United States
1 Jul 08
I'm getting better at it!
@ellie333 (21018)
30 Jun 08
Hi Beautyqueen, good question, I havem't been here a year yet but if someone did respond to a discussion I had started that long ago I would still respond. In fact a few weeks ago I responded to one that old and it resulted in the person actually visiting me and staying at my home and I now have a lovely new friend in real life as well as on here. I do not feel that there is any obligation to but I feel that is it polite as sometimes these discussions get revived due to another posting that our old one appears under. Ellie :D
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• United States
30 Jun 08
It's so nice to meet new friends! I'm happy that you found a new friend. I think that I read about that in one of your other discussions. And the game? That was sweet of her.
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@ellie333 (21018)
30 Jun 08
Hi Beautyqueen, that was the same lady as sent the game for my son, well remembered. It was lovely eh! Ellie :D
• United States
1 Jul 08
Yes it was! I do remember reading all those posts. I smiled when I read who it was too. She is always such a sweet person and has the most delightful discussions, too. Very polite. I am sure your son enjoyed the game. And what a lovely surprise that was, too! So nice of her.
@katsmeow1213 (28895)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I never feel obligated to respond to every comment in my discussions. I only respond to the ones that I have something to add to or a reason to respond. So no, if someone responded to a discussion I started a year ago, unless it was an interesting response, I would not comment on it.
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• United States
1 Jul 08
Do what feels right for you!
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
1 Jul 08
it is friendly to respond the comment in our dicussion. at the beginning ,i didn't respond one of my comment. now sometimes i respond.because i want more money in mylot.
@lilybug (21145)
• United States
1 Jul 08
Well, in an attempt to mess with you I am currently going through the discussions that you started and replying to the ones that I do not remember replying to. No need to respond to my responses. I just had someone respond to a discussion I started 3 months ago. Last week I had one that was 7 months old pop up. I try to still respond to them if I have something to say that I have not already said in my other responses.
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• United States
1 Jul 08
So that was you? Wow! I think I saw the phenomenon as it happened. I was looking for the two discussions that I started earlier this morning, (think 3 am) and they were nowhere to be found. They were buried on page six of my discussions. I'm cool with that! Like I said, before, I'll to respond to friends, always. So look for a response as soon as I find your comment.
@agihcam (1915)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
It is depend on the OP. For me, as soon as I still have received good responses despite that I already have flagged the best response, then I can still provide comment on those new responses to give at least a simple credit to the response. But if you don't want to provide comments it is fine I guess. We could not force each other here to provide response, it is depend on us whether we respond or not. Have a good day.
• United States
30 Jun 08
I guess it's all personal choice, just depending on how one wants to do things. Sometimes I have lots of time on MyLot other times, not so much! Thanks for your post.
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I think this is purely a matter of personal choice, This is the reason that I try not to respond to older discussions. You never know if that is still the way they are thinking or if the author is still active. I would say that once you are done with a discussion you are done with it. I wouldn't feel obligated to keep coming back to it unless you see something you really want to respond to. Cheers, Tianna
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• United States
1 Jul 08
Good point! I try to avoid older discussions too.
• India
2 Jul 08
Yeah beautyqueen, hope you are doing good. Even am notsure about this. And do you know what are unresolved discussions?
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@moneyandgc (3429)
• United States
1 Jul 08
It's really all up to you. I try and get back to my old discussions and answer all of the responses but sometimes I don't. There are times when I would just be repeating myself again and again if I were to answer everyone in an old discussion.
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@williamjisir (22885)
• China
1 Jul 08
Hello dear beauty queen. I love my old discussion to be responded to as I have quite a few old discussions without many responses. That was the time when I first became a resident at mylot and did not have many friends. I would be very happy if my old ones are brought to the surface of the Pacific Ocean to breathe in some fresh air. lol
• United States
1 Jul 08
*giggles* I was just surfing through your older discussions the other day and found many that I had never seen. Now that I know you don't mind it, I will bring them up to see light of day. And then others will enjoy them as much as I did! Be well. Your friend, BeautyQueen P.S. Thanks for that wonderful tip about using eye drops to avoid eye strain. I suffer that too and your tip was most appreciated. I'm referring to the post you did a day or two ago. Very insightful and beneficial!
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• China
1 Jul 08
Smiling. I am so happy to read your response with great appreciation. Thank you so much for your being so nice and kind as to trying to bring my old discussions lying at the bottom of the ocean to enjoy sunshine on the surface. I am looking forward to them. P.S. You are so welcome and I am really very happy that the eye drops I mentioned in the topic is of some help to you. Happy posting, dear beauty queen.
• United States
1 Jul 08
You are a dear friend. Such a rare find. Thank you for making my day brighter. Be well. Your friend, BeautyQueen
• United States
2 Jul 08
i guess it just depends on the original poster. i still answer them,what the hey,it's a cent or two but i really don't think there's a time limit.i think most people ignore them after a couple of months though.
• United States
2 Jul 08
it's not so much on your postings,but if people keep posting new replies.so,i keep answering no matter how old it is.it goes back to the new list on discussions so it's bound to attract more people.
@twallace (2675)
• United States
1 Jul 08
That's great to know that your discussions are still getting responses. Thats a good thing wouldn't you think? Even if it was a month or so ago!!
• United States
2 Jul 08
Yes, it is! I do appreciate all the responses. But I wanted to bring up this issue so that everyone could have their voice heard. Thanks for your response. Very unique! Much appreciated.
@twallace (2675)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Have a good one!!
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
Hi beautyqueen. As for me, I tend to respond to those who still responds on my older discussions only if I have something to add. If it's a topic about advices, I thank them for taking time to read and give their opinions or what they have shared.
• United States
30 Jun 08
Your discussions are always so much fun. I had the opportunity to respond to some of your discussions today. Thank you for your comments. Be well.
@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Jun 08
beauty queen I think that its up to eachof us to do the best we can regarding answering responses to all our discussions. there are so many users here and all with different issues in their dailylives, some can answer all and every comment while most of us just do the best we can. we would like to be able to answer each and every comment but life can be so full and busy we cannot always do that. so we do the best we can.
• United States
30 Jun 08
I am happy that you understand the situation that I am talking about. Many of us do lead otherwise busy lives away from Mylot and have no bad intentions when we don't update older discussions. I guess it's all about personal preference. I do find it fascinating to go back and look at old discussions to see how the conversation has played out. I have found many new friends this way. Thanks for taking the time to respond. Be well! Have a bright and beautiful day.
• United States
30 Jun 08
I have not had an opportunity to keep my discussions updated because I've not had more than a handful of responses to any of them. But, if I would have any discussion that has many responses, I would respond to comments that I feel I could contribute to. If there are still comments after a month or so, sure, I would respond to it. It might be that after some time, general opinions may have taken a turn.
• United States
30 Jun 08
That's a very good point. If the person adds something substantial to the discussion, then most certainly I will respond. And of course, if I know the person who is responding, then I will always take time to chat with them, no matter how long ago the discussion was started. Of course, it might take me awhile to get back to the discussion as I don't use email notifications anymore. But I do go over my old discussions at least once a month looking for new responses.
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@Ldyjarhead (10241)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I don't think there is any set protocol, we each do what we feel works for us. I tend to answer as long as I have something worthwhile to say, but if it something that I've already had dozens of replies to and I've really nothing to add, I might not answer if it is beyond a few weeks old. All depends on how busy things are and what else is going on.
• United States
30 Jun 08
That's a good point! My schedule does dictate my time on MyLot. And I have found that the answers do tend to mimic one another after the fifth or sixth page of responses. While I do appreciate all the responses, I think that some of the people who hit the discussions a month later are just repeating what the earlier ones said. They are not adding anything new.
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@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
26 Aug 08
I would lovde to have this problem you are talking about. As long as people are responding to the discussion you are earning more money. So yes, I would continue to comment to the responses as it is earning me more money by my commenting also. I would not want a discussion to die as then it isn't making you any more money. Every once in awhile I perpursly go to my old discussions and do some more commenting to the responses just to activate the discussion again and get more views on it and hopefully more responses so that it makes me more money.
@eihdra (3116)
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
hey BQ.. Like right now, this discussion as it says is posted a month ago, but it's just now that I saw it.. In my case, I do respond if I get an email notification that somebody still posted on a topic that I discussed over a month or so ago, because they took time to respond and so i must make some time or effort too to comment, just so they wont get offended..Of course, maybe not all of us do this, but i would if Im informed. Some people might have found that topic interesting or to which they can relate or would like to offer their help or insights, so it's not that i feel obligated but I would very much like to comment. i just dont know if those who started the old discussion will be paid but maybe those who responded will.
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
Why not, as long as someone responded to it. Say thanks. They might be busy thats why they are answering late, the way I do. Thats why I dont also give the best response because for me everybodys comment is the best.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I'll just give them an update or the link to the updated discussion so they can see that things have changed for the better or for the worse. Either way, if you respond to them within a 24 hour period, you'll get credited for it too.