How do you forgive without hurting yourself?
By msedge
@msedge (4011)
United States
June 30, 2008 6:51pm CST
There are some ways how to forgive without hurting our own emotions.
1.Just be yourself-Find a place to focus on just yourself.Bathroom would be one of the best place because you could concentrate since no one will bother you there.
2.Once your there,ask yourself"What do i have to do today?"Then start a breathingf exercise.
3.Once you feel relax with the breathing, you can now focus on the next step.Ask these questions to yourself and honestly answer them.
-Who am i?
-What is my body?
-What is my thoughts?
-Where do my thoughts come from?
-Why do i feel this way?
Once you answered all honestly, you can now focus on forgiveness because when you aware of yourself you will know how to handle any given situation and you less likely emotional and hurt.You have to learn about yourself before you can forgive.
4.Free yourself by saying "i forgive you".By doing this you are free from stress.
5.With more breathing exercise and self awareness you can conquer everything and anything and you will be able to face any given situation with a great smile.Believe in yourself.You're worth it!
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8 responses
@koharukusumi (1539)
• Malaysia
1 Jul 08
Hey msedge, I am trying to forgive my friend and I tried to do what you wrote there but I could not forgive him since he had done really bad stuff to me. Do you think that if we had a traumatic experience from being with a betraying friend, we should forgive him/her or just ignore without feeling the need to forgive? Do we really need to forgive?
@goodmodel (25)
• Jamaica
1 Jul 08
There is nothing worst than my ex cheating on me and my best friend telling my acquaintances lies on me. But know what forgive is not easy to do, but try to make peace with your inner self and rise above the occasion.
@msedge (4011)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Hi koharukusumi!I know what you mean because i've been there.someone i thought a friend betrayed me and made up things against me.Its so hurt until now but i have to move on or else my life would be destroyed.I think we need to forgive in order for us to be successful and happy.We can't if we have hatred in our heart.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
1 Jul 08
i try to be a forgiveful person nowadays... especially to myself... i try to treasure myself more as i am God's Creation and i am really precious in His eyes... so i am a worthy person... there is no use being so hard on ourselves... it only makes life harder (which is already hard enough) and makes us suffer... take care and have a nice day...
@mikokre (132)
• Nigeria
1 Jul 08
Wow thats really along process.I never thought about it that way.Well i never take fights seriously.I dont get angry easilly and even if i do,in the next five minuites am over it.I go to you first as if there has never been a fight between us.Even if he acts funny i keep coming.I always wanted to hate someone real bad but no matter how hard i try i just cant.But here you are trying to learn how to forgive while am actually trying to hate.This life is really complicated.dont you think so.
@msedge (4011)
• United States
14 Jul 08
People just have different views and attitude.Sometimes there people that abused when you are too kind.No matter how kind we are still they can able to hurt us and its hard to forgive specially when they are close to us and we trusted them but they betrayed us.This happened to me and it hurts.Its hard for me to forgive but i keep trying.
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
1 Jul 08
Sometimes the best way with these things is to ease yourself into it.
Keep repeating, over and over, I forgive whoever and then put aside all the hatefull and resentfull thouughts that come into your head.
Once you get that down you can take a deep breath and go over and tell the person that you forgive them.
If you don't condition yourself you might not do it and remember that forgiveness is a decision, not a feeling.
@shadow7312 (20)
• Indonesia
1 Jul 08
I've met friends and foes, some hurted me and some I try to forget their name. So far I guess the best way to forgive is to learn to let go and accept the truth.
Accept the truth that he/she is now with somebody else. Accept the truth that your rival is smarter, luckier and richer.
Accept the truth that everybody has their own limit and perhaps you have reached yours?
Free your feeling.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
30 Jun 08
I forgie as far as I don't hold a grudge, but I do hold the person who wronged me at arms length so they can not hurt me again. I think of that as a way to move on without going to the one extreme of denial and leaving onesself open to be hurt again, and holding a grudge, where that person whould be shut out alltogether.
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
1 Jul 08
I think you HAVE to learn to forgive, because otherwise it eats you up inside. I bore a grudge towards someone for many years, but that person was unaware I was upset with them, so I was only hurting myself. I've now managed to let go of my resentment, and it's much better. Life is far too short for grudges and hatred.
