My 16 year old is keeping me awake

United States
June 30, 2008 11:08pm CST
Man,she will be 17 next week,and the past month has been a world wind.I feel like I am living with Linda Blair,L.O.L. She has a cousin who has been in a lot of trouble over the years.I have kept them apart as much as possible.Now,however she thinks this cousins wonderful.Melissa has done some very mean things to her over the years and for the most part my daughter hasn't liked her much. Now suddenly I am keeping her from her family,I am not letting her grow up,and I am treating her like a ten year old.This cousin is 15 and pregnant,has headed for New York with the street gang the crips,has sold drugs,and her body for them.It has been an all out battle every day as to why I won't let her go anywhere with her cousin.All of a sudden she doesn't get it.We live in the same town,in fact only two streets away,so even though she doesn't necessarily defy and go out anywhere with Melissa,they just "happen " to run into each other.I am at the point where I am ready to move to a different town for my daughters safety and my sanity.I just don't think that is fair my daughter has always been an honors student and has gone through 11 years of school in this town.Her cousin on the other hand has been in at least 8 different schools before ending up here,and has quit school at this point.I don't think it will be fair for my daughter to spend her last year in a school full of strangers. In some ways I think maybe I should let her go some,I am just so afraid of the trouble that she could end up in with this kid.Melissa is street wise,My daughter doesn't have a clue,she has lived a very sheltered life. Any idea?
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5 responses
• United States
1 Jul 08
I'm sorry to hear this. I guess you should do what it takes to keep your daughter away from her cousin. If you know your daughter well enough, then you shouldn't have to worry. She sounds like a bright student and that will keep her mind occupied on her schoolwork. I really hope for the best for you and your daughter.
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• United States
1 Jul 08
Thank you,I will do what I have to do to keep her safe.Such a sad thing for my niece though because I love her to.The only reason she is still here at all is because I chased her all over.I built her computer and put a program on it so I could track her activity.This is how Iwas aware she was headed to New York and stopped her before she got far.I pray for her to but I have to think of my daughters safety 1st. Jas
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• United States
2 Jul 08
Oh my!!. umm i so wouldnt let my duaghter go ANYWERE with the girl. even if it is just outfront on the side walk to talk LMAO... no way no how... because even if your daughter is responsible and doesnt do anything this malissa girl would do. theres always guilty by association.. and this mellisa girl sure sounds like shes alot fo trouble so. i would just explain that to her as much as possible and let her know. no matter what you say to me. my mind is made up. your not going with her... i dont trust her. As for moving. it can go either way.. if you think it she may get side tracked by this meliisa and you really are the scared of these things happening. moving is in your daughters best intrest.. i wish i could say more. my little girl is only 3 so i have plenty of time to think what i would do in the future incsse of an incidence like this. and i havent thought about it yet. so this is just coming right off the top of my head... i wish ur family the best!:) keep ur girl safe... ~britt
@lingli_78 (12821)
• Australia
1 Jul 08
i'm sorry to hear that you have to face this dilemma now between your daughter and her cousin... i will have a talk with my daughter and explain to her what type of person her cousin is... she needs to know the truth... then she will understand why i keep her away from her cousin... if she is dilligent enough, she will stay way from her cousin herself because she will know that her cousin is not a good influence and she wouldn't want to ruin her life because of her cousin... good luck... hope everything will work out for you... take care and have a nice day...
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jul 08
I guess your daughter somehow sees this Melissa as sortof exotic and your not wanting your daughter to be with her probably makes Melissa seem even more intriguing. you need to sit your daughter down and throughly explain as you have to us why you do not want your daughter hanging out with her, show her what troubles being with a streetwise kid like Melissa could get her into. talk turkey to her, explain, explain, explain again if need be and make it graphic. you are doing right, she should not hang out with Melissa at all.
• United States
1 Jul 08
When i was around 15 i had a really hard time getting to sleep and my mom took me to the doctor and nothing was working. I tried reading, drinking warm milk and so on. Finally i learned that it is more than just not being tired sometimes their might be something in her life she is having issues with so it just might just be eating at her. I dont know if that helps but just sharing what happened