Depression and how much is there in todays' society?

@caramello (4377)
Australia
July 2, 2008 12:18am CST
Most of us have our "bad" days and then tomorrow can be so much different. But with the happenings in todays' society and there is so much and a lot of it quite bad, how to deal with depression and nice thoughts of the future! Do we force ourselves to put ongoing madness in the world today aside and live our own lives? Can we switch off and take on the things that we enjoy most? This to me can be a hard task as each day there is something that may catch the "ear" or "eye" and if it is bad, (which a lot of the times is) how would you turn yourself off and concentrate on what makes YOU happy? The brain is an amazing thing as sometimes we need to try hard to keep it under control! Can you switch off and how?
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@mummymo (23706)
4 Jul 08
I find it very difficult to switch it off at anytime Caramello but I suffer from clinical depression ( lack of a chemical in the brain) and when that is bad it is impossible to turn it off! I just keep on keeping on and try to get myself through it - you guys have no idea how much you help with that! Hugs xxx
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
4 Jul 08
I have never been actually diagnosed mummymo but have had bouts of severe depression over the years and most times usually caused through grief of some kind. But do find I still have to fight it on a day to day basis, and this is where turning oneself off to the outside "craziness in some cases" makes it more of a challenge. I think there are quite a few in here that do get something out of those who take the time and listen to what one is saying (myself being one of them) so what better way to help each other my friend. xx
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
6 Jul 08
Thank-you mummymo and yes it is better to talk things out as I used to bottle things up and then would just explode with emotion to the point of not being able to stop crying. It is not healthy to be like that and maybe now talk a little too much! lol xx
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@mummymo (23706)
4 Jul 08
Oh honey i can understand that! I know you probably already know this but talking about it helps - bottling it up will just make things 20 times worse I know as I used to bottle things up and I ended up in such a state that I couldn't balance enough to walk or talk properly - my doctor says it is like trying to run a car on an empty tank - your brain just doesn't have the energy to make your body work properly. Any time you want to talk I am here! Hugs xxx
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@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
3 Jul 08
Unless it is happening to me personally... I do switch off quite easily. You cannot take on all the problems in the world personally... or you would go mad in 7 days. I read the news and I get angry. I come on myLot and I give my opinion about the way I see things. As a result... people call me negative and pessimistic. They tell me that I am an unhappy person. People tell me that it is the will of God and that eventually... he will fix everything and I should not worry about it. So I don't. If 6.5 billion people don't worry about it... why should I? I switch off mylot and go play... and I don't think about it anymore.
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
4 Jul 08
This is a good thing to be able to do Aussie as to be able to switch off! Much easier to say "it does not involve me personally" than to take it all on-board and this is a skill I have yet to aquire but am working hard on it! Good to know you can take what is said about you and leave it with them, that is another skill I have yet to get right...once again working on it!
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
while i am not clinically depressed, i live with constant pain so it is easy to jump over to depression and what i do is i have a lot of interests and the like to keep me busy; as for the world, i tend to shut it out and do my own thing.
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
3 Jul 08
Having interests that you enjoy is one of the best ways to fight depression as hard as it may be. Living with pain does seem to be one thing that can drag you down and I feel for you!
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
The human person is a wonderful thing, a complete system in itself; it can interact with the larger system and derive benefit from that interaction. We have an inner life as well as an external life. A balance between the two must have to be developed in order to maintain a healthy life. A life which is too concentrated on the external aspects is like a leaf in the wind; it is a life devoid of reason and one has no control over it. A life that is too concentrated on the internal is also not desirable as it becomes disconnected from the rest of reality. Life is like watching tv. You have the power to change channels and to turn it off completely and have a relaxing drink of coffee outside in the patio when the tv does not bring any more enjoyment, just an endless parade of grief. You can turn off going to meet people who are constantly bringing news of pain and unhappiness, and go to a quiet park where children play. Life is great, it is how you see it that is tricky.
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
4 Jul 08
What you have written underdogtoo all makes perfect sense as to how we deal with things that may tend to get us down! And to practise these ways no matter how slow at first would be a good way to do it. Thank-you for sharing your thoughts....and how right you are "life is tricky!"
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I take as much as I can and then I start reminiscing about the good old days.. I enjoyed all of my growing up years and now there are certain memories that I can recall when I am feeling down.. I try to remember them and accept the fact that life is what it is and I also realize that things are not going to get any better for us.. So, my brain takes over and I remember better times and hope things will get better again.. I also know that after all of this madness is over, I have a better place to go..
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
3 Jul 08
I think that is the problem that we wish for days gone by and remember the good ones mostly. Certainly things happened but nothing compared to today and this is what makes it harder to switch off as some things heard are unbelievable. You are right in saying things are not going to get better but as we live our own lives we know we do our best!
@cbreeze (1205)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I don't think you can totally switch it off, but I think that if we want to retrain our brains to avoid depression, we have to monitor what we allow in. If you are constantly looking at the news or reading the paper, you're going to receive the most negative events that are happening right now. If you watch a lot of drama, murder, mayhem type movies and tv programs, even though it's interesting and enjoyable, that's what is going to stick in your mind. We actually are programming our minds for sadness, hopelessness and depression. And just like we program our minds for depression, we can program our minds for optimism, solutions, hope. Limit the negativity coming in. Spend more time on those things that bring you joy, such as hobbies, time with family, prayer, meditation, inspirational reading etc. I also, think we have to learn to let go of some of our materialism to get past the bad stuff. I think we associate our credit scores, jobs, careers, salaries, material possessions with our self worth. When those things start to erode in a tough economy, we feel like failures. We get caught up on how other people may view us if we go from having more to having less. Again, even though its easier said than done. If we lose that car, job or home, look for solutions. Bus line, moving in with relatives and pooling resources, taking on odd jobs, etc. and look for the things we can still be thankful for like health, family, love, faith, community or whatever else you can think of. It's not easy but it can be done. Falling into depression only worsens an already bad situation. I'm saying this because I've been there.
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
4 Jul 08
I think a lot of people have fallen into Depression including myself, and for those who can pull through it all the good but stopping the negativity does take some skill and some can do it easier than others'. (if it can be classed as easy) I feel the world around us today is a huge challenge and as much as most like to just not think about it there are some of us that find it more of a challenge. Thank-you for your great response and may you stay well!
@suehan1 (4344)
• Australia
2 Jul 08
i have found lately that life throws us many challenges and as depressing as some of them may be ,we have to find the strength within us to cope.i tend to try and switch off now,or try not to dwell on things that depress me,so i can get on with it.if i dwell too long that is when i get depressed.so switching off does tend to help me.cheers sue
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
2 Jul 08
There does seem to be more depression in today's world than there used to be ... but maybe people talk about it more. I think our parents and grandparents probably bottled things up and soldiered on - that was the way through the war years. I also think we are eating a lot of chemicals through food these days, and quite possibly some of these could be causing levels of hormones to fluctuate, making us feel artificially high or low. It IS depressing to watch the news or open a paper and see so much sadness. Maybe it seems worse now because we have access to so much news.
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
3 Jul 08
I think people do talk about it a lot more these days than in the past years but there seems to be a lot more for people to deal with and the chemicals through food could have an affect also. It is worse now as the crimes committed are horrific and ones' no-one could imagine anyone doing but it seems to be every day!
@Asavari (55)
• India
2 Jul 08
Happiness and misery are passing stages of life like the seasons of the year.If we accept that they are temporary and pass with the time ,only one has to divert the mind in another direction,music work etc.It is only the mind which can be a friend of us if we teach it .There is no body to this mind but it is so strong ! It goes with the soul when we die ! If we surrender to God and behave in our best way there will be no problem ! Always ask to the God who is there in ur heart and u will get the answer -right one too .
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@cbreeze (1205)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I appeciate your comment. Depression is very serious and can be quite debilitating. You are absolutely right, we have to control our mind and understand and believe bad situations are only temporary. I recently found out how helpful meditation is. It allows us to get in touch with the "GOD who is there in our heart".
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@besthope44 (12123)
• India
9 Oct 10
depression is overloading the mind with multiple thoughts or pressures, that the mind or brain cannot able to withstand..so we burst out in depression and tension.