Are you worring if your child performs bad in school?
By Crystalxdr
@Crystalxdr (443)
China
July 2, 2008 1:25am CST
My college has a 3 year old son who has been sent to kindergarton already.The little creature is regarded as a genius because of his extraordinary interest in maths. Everyone in the family loves him so much.However,he has been complained by teachers many times.he could not get along well with his schoolmates,he prefer to do his own instead of according to the teacher's instructions.
Just for example,before siesta time,teacher will call all kids together to the toilet so to avoid bed-wettings.Ok,he refused to go and made bed wet twice.In addition,he sliced bread into pretty tiny pieces and soaked them with soup instead of biting bread directly.Of course,the table was dirty by the bread pieces and spilled soup.Teacher feels annoyed at his behavior and complained to my college when she went to pick him up in the afternoon.
My college got upset.She was rather disappointed about her cute son,In her opinion, a child doesn't act upon the teacher's instruction must not be a promising kid.She feels so worried about her little kid.
I don't think so.I told her that your son may be unwilling to go to toilet in that situation,in the other hand,he would go there himself.While,it seems very creative for his bread-eating.That he didn't eat as others doesn't mean he is doing wrong.The little one has his own idea,in fact.
Well,I wonder if your children has been also complained by the teachers for his or her unintelligible behaviors in school?
What's your reaction on it? Do you worry about?
2 responses
@ebutterfly782 (36)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I believe in that case it could simply be the age of the child. At 3, the social maturity is not there yet. Children are sometimes still playing beside one another instead of with. Although he is regarded as a genius, did they consider his social skills at all? Those are very important too.
As far as my own son, he gets punished at home if he gets in trouble in school for misbehaviors. I do not expect him to be perfect by any means though. I understand that academically, some students are better than others. So far, knock on wood, he has only been in trouble once this year. He is going into first grade next school year. He got in trouble for pretend fighting in the bathroom (power rangers type stuff). Otherwise, I don't worry. If there is enough for a teacher to complain to me, then there is enough for him to lose a privilege at home. If there ever comes a time where a teacher seems to be singling my child out, I will discuss that with the individual teacher.
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
3 Jul 08
So nice for you to share your experience on foster childs.Yes,you are right.Even the 3 year old shows his excellence in academics,his social skills could be not as good as it should be.The god has his hands on it.One should not be perfect on everything.
The boy seems not like to play with other kids,instead,he would sit there and do homework--he called these countings as homework.It is very funny when he comes to our office,he always asks us to give him maths questions,then he write on paper and counts like an adult.
I advise my colleague forget about the teacher's complaints.She should have a conversation with her son ,let him know that is not right to get his teacher into trouble if he spilled soup over the table.He should ask teacher's help.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Hi there Crystalxdr, If I am the parent or teacher, I will try another strategy to convince the kid and if still it wont work, I will not worry but give him freedom as long as I will talk to him about not doing it in the bad and be careful not to make any mess. Teach him how to avoid those consequences.We can't expect all kids to follow what we instruct and we need not to worry also if they are acting like that, maybe they want to do it in a different way and we have to give them freedom!
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
3 Jul 08
I just had the same opinion like yours.Maybe it is good for teacher to change another way to convince him but not just complains.The teacher can tell the little one if you don't want to go toliet before getting on bed,you should promise no bed-wetting when you fall asleep.Well,if he likes eating bread in that way,show the messy table to him and tell him how great the trouble he would make to his teachers.
I think kids sometimes are much sensible out of our expection.There's no reason to worry it but try to think out how to guide them.
Thank you for sharing.
