IsIt bad 2 flirt with another guy even you and your Ex boyfriend are on a break?
By mariaglenda
@mariaglenda (482)
Philippines
July 2, 2008 9:41am CST
My Ex- boyfriend and I agreed to take a Break but understood that we wouldn't see other people. However, just recently I started to notice a guy friend that I knew I was flirting with and liking... Help Need Your Advice..
6 responses
@chej18 (915)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Hi mariaglenda,
I am not good w/ this kind of thing but in my opinion if you and your boyfriend is break already that means both of you agree to stop that relationship.So that means if you flirt and find somebody else there is nothing wrong in what your doing.You are not making any wrong or dishonest,unfaithful to him becouse it is over.Unless you are still inlove w/ hium and you are trying to flirt somebody to hurt him or find out what he is going to feel about it.Some people do things like that so they can find out if thier ex still love them and just making fun of hurting thier ex.For example thier ex did something wrong (hurt her,cheat on her, and etc) somegirl used this flirting to sombody so thier ex feel uncomfortable,and feel f*ck up.But in your case if you decise not to love him anymore and same way w/ him.YOu dont need to feel guilty.But for me out of respect i rather dont flirt to somebody else infront of him.I dont want my ex flirt also to some else infront of.It is not that i dont like him to flirt w/ somebody else, i dont like the idea that i am around i will feel strange..because we have also things happened at the fast and i want to remember that as a memory.have a nice day..Take care your self..
Greetings from Che!
@fortknox75 (842)
• Philippines
6 Jul 08
What's the purpose of taking a break and for how long? Just to give space with each other for quite some time? And what was the agreement of not seeing other people yet? maybe you haven't made closure to your relationship yet. I think it that will just be okay. This guy new is not courting you yet. And if you think you like this new guy now and he courts you, it's better that you need to end your current relationship first. Good luck to you!
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
2 Jul 08
If you are taking a break from each other, I don't see a problem... On the other hand, if you guys are in agreement that neither of you will be seeing other people, then I see a problem here... Weather I agree with the reasons for you guys taking a break from each other is not important... Weather it was "understood" or you guys agree that neither would "see" another person, then you should honor your agreement... If you see a potential with this new person, you should talk to your ex about it... Be clear to him that this "taking a break" phase will be permanent & you will be moving on to seeing other people... If you leave it at "giving each other a break" & pursue another relationship than it's almost like giving him a false hope & dangling him along with that false hope that may be you guys have a chance at getting back together... Just imagine how you'd feel if the situation is reversed... One day, your boyfriend comes to you & says, "Honey!!! I think we need to take some time away from each other (or take a break from each other)... We still won't be seeing other people..." Then 2 month later, you find out that he's flirting with someone else... You might be ok with it & I'm not trying to say it's wrong for you... If you're ok with you being in that situation, then go ahead... But I don't think it's fair for your ex if you don't lay it out honestly...
@marcroswell (473)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
If you're no longer committed, it's okay to meet new acquaintances...as long as your not hurting anybody's feelings.






