The "Choice" question.. I may have found some common ground.

ove gotta say you hit the nail on the head with this one.. who we are attracted to we do not control.. who we decide to act on that attraction is a choice.. did you choose to be gay? no.. do you choose to be true to yerself rather than be fake and sport an illusion for the delicate sensibilities of the masses? yep.. and it was the right choice to make ..;nods;..

Hi. I agree with you in this point. It isn't a choice, nature have his own ways and for me it is natural. We must be what we are. But I have responded some discussions about homosexuality and I have said that be a gay (assumed) is a option of love. Now this is my point: many gays don't accept what they are and try to change. They get marry and have kids and all the time their hearts are not in this. I knew two of this ones. But they had an option to be what they are and be happies. So it is an option. Not to be gay of course but to be free to feel and love as a gay. Why someone that is homosexual will marry with a woman and live sad and unhappy all the life? But some do this and you know this. So it is an option because they are frightened about what the society are thinking about homosexuality and don't have courage to fight for their rights. It is sad but they made an option between love and lie. Do you get my point? All of us need to make options along the life, and I think that the option for love is better than any other. In our days the homosexual people are fighting for their rights and it is wonderful because it open the doors and the mind of society. Gays are citizens too and are persons like any others and I hate when I hear people talking about them like sinners or abnormal persons. Who have the right to judge the others? Maybe it is why some homosexuals lie and hide what they are because is very hard to support the oppression of society and the false morality. But the times change and I hope that I can see fast all the persons, no matter their color or sexuality, having the same rights and respect from the society. I hope that you can understand what is my point. Cheers.

I agree with you 100%. Homosexuality is not a choice, it's the way you are born. No differnt than say a blonde or a redhead (and I'm talking natural, not the box colored). You are who you are when it comes to all of that. Yes, you can choose who you are with, but you don't choose who you are attracted to.

I can't agree. I am straight and I believe being gay is something that you are born with.Believing that your true feelings are bad is where the choice comes in.Not wanting to be with the one you love.

I think it is ridiculous that we even have to have this conversation. You are attracted to who you are attracted to...just like me, the neighbor, the pizza delivery person... Why is it anyone elses business? Sorry, I am irritable today. To answer your question; yes acting on anything is a choice I suppose. Just like I am about to drink this Coke when I should drink water instead. I don't want or like water. You are really revolted by a naked female? I like men too, but I don't feel revulsion when I see a naked woman. Just wondering.

I have always thought that someone being a homosexual was just nature. I didn't think that one would "choose" to have all the issues with hate mongrels and whatnot. I honestly do not know how people sit there and say being gay is a choice. Since I am not gay I would always debate the issue and compare it to being able to choose the color of eyes your child will have. Thank you for explaining this to all of the people that blinded by ignorance

Hi Tee, You do of course have a point, and I'm sure there are a lot of very unhappy people out there who have made that choice. I don't think your solution will be acceptable to most who oppose the gay lifestyle, because you are still saying that you were born with an attraction for those of the same gender. I agree that it would be good to find common ground, and who knows with some, you may. Blessings.

Well, that is the way it is with most human stuff like emotions! Not bad, not a choice only choice is how to act or react! I can understand that!

You present a good "meet me halfway" option here. But, being a person who believes in the science of attraction, I know that it isn't your "choice" which gender you are attracted to. So, no...you didn't decide to be attracted to the man without the shirt versus the woman without a shirt on. And, given that, why should you have to "choose" to be with who attracts you anymore than heteros do? I know that you aren't ashamed. I have seen enough of your discussions to know that you are proud of who you are and you should be. You're just another human to me with better qualities than a lot of other people that I have met throughout my life. I don't think that it is fair that people make others have to try to justify their gender preference. I don't have to justify that I like men. Why should you? But, for those people who can't get over it, I guess you presented a better way for them to open their minds and their hearts a little closer towards acceptance.

First of all, I am not gay, so take my opinion or leave it, it's up to you. I don't believe that homosexuality is a choice or an illness or anything else but a way of life. I get really sick of people saying that. I have many gay/lesbian friends and I don't ever see them as anything but my friends. And, yes, acting on any feeling is a choice. But, why would you choose to be anybody but who you really are?

I'm a straight guy, but I have to agree with you on this one. It's not a choice, it's natural selection. Why people think it's a choice to be gay, is beyond me. I know for a fact that I didn't choose to be straight, it's just how things are. I find girls attractive, not guys. So why is it hard for people to see it the other way around? If a man is gay, it's because he's attracted to men. He didn't choose to attract himself to other men, he just is. Simple as that. Not trying to be rude to all you other people out there who disagree with this discussion, I'm just saying that some of you need to get over yourselves.