Is this called true friend?

I used to have a friend just like that! He and I would travel and hang out together. On one of our trips I actually met the women that I would marry and he would be my best man. Since then he hardly ever answers my emails or is even available to take my calls. He is a very busy business person and has new grandchildren to hang with. Life changes, people change, and that is all ok. I think your friend will either get used the routine of being married and come back to you or she will just not.

I found this happen to many of my friends. Once they became married, they stopped being the happy go lucky fun gal and became serious and really busy. I even make bets on how long it takes for them to cut their pretty locks and sport an easy to manage bob cut. Not to mention the tight jeans turning into "active wear". Not all people are like this but I do find that married people hang more with married people and single people hang more with single people. Now whether or not that makes her a true friend or not I don't know. I would like to think I would stay the same if I married but then I don't know if it would happen to me too.

Hello yenwie84, Well that hapens when our friends gets married, they are not single and they don't have to hang around with single frien that much, she hasen't forgotten you its just hve spend her time her husband more and become a wife and run a home. My friend was always with untill she got married and now we might see one other every few months, but we do keep in touch by phone. Tamarafireheart.

I think you should give your friend time. It's quite unfair to doubt that she's a true friend . You have to face the fact that now she is married soon she'll be having a family and of course a lot of her time would be spent with them from then on. I think what you could do so you won't miss her is to visit her at her house and there you have your fun moments again as friends or better include her husband in your outings as friends. It's quite nice to have an addition to your friends right?

Unfortunately, true friend or not, people change and grow apart. I have a friend that has been very dear to me for 22 years now and although she lives less than a mile away, we have very different lives and rarely get to see each other. However, as my dear true friend, even if a year has passed since we have seen each other, we always pick up like we were just together yesterday. I know that I can call her if I need anything and I would do anything for her. That is a true friend. One that understands that you have different lives and goals, but is still there when they need to be.

Well, since your friend is a newlywed she is just adjusting to the marriage lifestyle. Unfortunately, it is natural to drift apart from your friends a bit after marriage. However, to resolve the distance maybe you should consider designating a night for your friends to spend time together. Your friend may not realize how you've grown apart because marriage is so exciting and this point, I say yes she is a true friend..just a little mindless of the situation.

well, i think most people changed after they got married, including me... i can't be as free as before when i didn't have a husband yet... now i have to divide my time between my hubby and my friends and i really hope that my friends will understand that... unfortunately, i have to say that family always comes first before friends and hence in your friend's case, i thing she is still trying to adapt to a married life and you just have to understand her... it is not that she is being selfish intentionally... but it is not easy to adapt to a married life especially at the beginning... i am almost in my third year of my marriage now and i am still struggling to adjust... so please understand her and give her space... once she is settled and get used to the married life, i believe she will spend time with you again... take care and have a nice day...

You don't need to worry yet. I still think it's too early to tell too. Your friend needs to adjust to her new life and she is now spending her time with her husband so you should give her some time that they could be in honeymoon period. Getting married was the biggest chapter in life, everything will be changed for better. I am sure she still remember you and she won't forget her best friend like you. She will have time in the future to hang out with you. Relax my friend you don't have to think too much about her since she just got married recently as you mentioned so therefore you just do what you gotta do. She is still there and she needs time to adjust herself. When I was getting married I did not see my best friend for a month because between us we were busy. We eventually got time to meet each other given that we are still best friends. My friend can truly understand that. Imagine yourself if you are just married, you don't want to make your husband disappointed by not spending your time with him? True friends are never separated for good reasons and trust me you'll be alright. Cheers and thanks for sharing your story. Keep smiling!

A true friend is somenoe who is always with you whether you are happy or sad.A friend should not change his attitude at any situations and be as friendly as possible.After the family members it is the friends whom we meet a lot.

After getting married she has a lot of the responsibilities on her and she has to take care of all her family and husband so i think she will be busy in that and adjusting to the situation as she is just married recently so you don't think that the friendship is over or you are going away from each other but it is the demand of the time only.The same thing can happen to you even so what i think is that a person comes under additional responsibilities towards the family after the marriage so same is going with her.Don't worry the thing will be as usual again with the time.

being married is not just a play that you may quit if you dont want the situation its a new beginning to build a family and about your friend she might be busy in her new career. in my experience i never had a friend or a close friend when i got married, my best friend is my husband and the old friend that i have i rarely talk through internet for she is also had a family.

just hang in there the new will wear off for her & she'll need u again.

Yenwie84...Hi there. I have to agree with Distant Dreamer! Very good guidance there. You are not alone. Alot of people men and women alike go through an"empty nest" syndrome of sorts when their good friends marry. Because the only constant is change, we can just go with the process and try to have a time when you meet for lunch or girls day out whenever possible. Best of Luck! Keep smiling!

hi dear... its good to hear that this problem is being faaced by people other than me. even a had a true friend and we were together since standard 1. now its been two years since she has been married and even i beleive she does not talk to me properly and does not respond to my messages. she talks to some other friends who are married now. once i have discussed this isssue at length and her reply was that you dont understand. she elaborated that since i am not married i can not understand her circumstances and what all she is going through. now even i maintain a distance from her and beleive that once i will be married then she will again come back to me. till then enjoy with your other friends and have fun in life!!!!

Once we are married, we move on to a new phase of life. It's not appropriate for a married person to continue to "hang out" with single friends like they used to. Friends grow away from one another; that's a fact of life. It doesn't mean she's not still a true friend, but she has different priorities now. Things will never be the same, so don't expect them to be.

How many year she's bestfriend? If she's you bestfriend since you were high school or college. You should now that this will happen. All of us here wants to have family and ofcourse to get married. So, in your case, you didn't understand you bestfriend. Remember she's your bestfriend and she has her own family already. She had her responsible now as wife and a mother. So, that means she have to protect her family and take care of her family that's why she doesn't have any time to hang out with you anymore. Why don't you just visit their home instead of hangingout in other place?

I would say this is a normal thing your friend is going through. I hope you get to see your friend more often.

I believe the reason she changed was the fact that she just got married and might even develop a family (which isn't very easy). Because she is now committed to her groom then she may not have enough time to hang with the girls. But if you want to spend time with her, you both can plan something together or even bring her and her groom over to your home for a get together of some sort. Over all i believe she is a true friend, just a busy true friend (:

well you just wrote it your self (family first)that dosen't mean she's not a true friend.