Who's to blame?

In my situation I placed all the blame on my cheating swine of a husband (ex husband now). he seeked out the other women and pursued them, no matter what thier ages (some as young as 17 when we were both 23 some as old as 45 when we were both 24). He knew what he was doing was wrong and he just didn't care. It was't like he wasn't gettin' it at home either he was just a cheatin' scum. So I say put the blame where it belongs on the spouse.

I blamed both when I found out what was going on, she had started the affair with my hubby in January of 06, by february she had wormed her way into my life posing as a best friend. She totally pulled the wool over my eyes, both of them. I am still with my hubby, if I told you the whole story you would say I was mad, maybe I am. I had my reasons though and I do love him. I did not get the chance to dump the friend as she had no intentions of being my friend it was all pretense on her part, she hated me, with a passion. I did not have a clue!

both parties share the blame. you have to decide how much you are willing to forgive.

Yeah, if she is a stranger, i defintely blame my husband, and yeah dump him then and there, but if she was a friend, then of course blame them both and dump them both, i dnt need such ppl in my life, who just cant seem to value a relationship, whom i cannot trust any more. So they r outta my life.

At the end of the day, it would have been my partner who'd betrayed me. No-one else has made promises to me! Yes I'd be furious with them both I'm sure, but my partner would be the one who had let me down. Fingers crossed I'm never put in this situation, but I expect that what someone says NOW and what might actually happen when they're put on the spot could be different things!

I would think you would blame both. It is just as much the other person's fault because they knew they were taken. You just don't mess around with someone else man or woman. It does not just affect the other person but their families to.