Have you ever loved a married woman/man?

Philippines
July 4, 2008 5:27pm CST
I always love Whitney Houston's "Saving All My Love For You". It's a woman's song for a man who isn't hers and can't be hers because the man is already married. No, I have not been involved with a married guy. I just love the song, first for its rhythm, second for its raw emotion, third because I'm a Whitney fan and lastly because I'm a married woman myself (though I've been separated for almost four years now) and I found myself wondering if the men whom I was involved with for the last 3 years felt the same as the woman in that song. I remember one ex-boyfriend who never wanted to let go of me even if the truth is plain, I can never be free. I urged him to find someone else and love someone else instead, start a family with her, but he wouldn't budge. He loved me and wanted to spend his life with me. It broke my heart. From the start of the relationship I was honest with him. I told him we can't be too serious like forever because I cannot divorce my husband (church issue, I cannot discuss it here). It's like I have to live alone forever... Sigh. I know I broke his heart, my heart has already been torn into pieces and I have nothing to worry about it anymore. How about you? Have you ever loved a married woman/man? Have you found yourself doing just anything or everything for a married person? Or were you just like me? Have you ever broke someone's heart because you can't promise forever with him/her?
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@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
You are a cruel woman mapleYou prefer to broke the man heart rather than didn't go into something with him. Well I was in love with a married man once. He was a nice man and presently we are friends. It was when I was young and was working as a secretary. It was fun while it last. After leaving that establishment and went to college I realized that his wife left him because of his wild attitude. I would never talk with a married man again because there is nothing in it for you if you are looking for a husband yourself.
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• Philippines
4 Jul 08
Oh gosh! Now I'm cruel. I don't really want to defend myself so I'm letting you have that opinion on me. All I know is that I let him go for his own sake... Oh well, there are two sides in every story though... Thanks for dropping by.
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@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
5 Jul 08
I meant it as a joke Maple. Well maybe you didn't see it that way. I am sorry.
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
hehehe! cool! sorry for not reading between the lines...
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
4 Jul 08
I have not fallen in love with a married woman. Although I must admit I have been mesmerized by some but not to the point of loving her.:)
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• Philippines
4 Jul 08
Good for you, you just saved yourself from a future heartbreak.
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• Malaysia
5 Jul 08
You are so lucky. That guy really makes you feel good. Can't blame you. Love cannot be forced. Timing and situations also count. Sometimes you may not like a person initially. However, with his persistence, you might just slowly and surely fall for him. There is love at first sight. In some cases without physical attraction, it may take a longer time to develop the relationship.
• Malaysia
5 Jul 08
Which do you prefer? Somebody you love or somebody who loves you. It hurts more with somebody you love. Don't you think so?
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
I think both choices are difficult to handle. I mean, I never loved a married person guy before and I have no intention of doing so, but in my situation wherein guys tend to fall for me even if I'm already married, it's hard as well... I mean, I'm not a hard woman, people see me as sweet and loving and its because I don't go around hurting people. It's more difficult when I also feel something for the person because I know that I cannot be happy with any man anymore...
@calajane (1004)
• Poland
5 Jul 08
I try not to break relationships of people I meet and am in contact with. Mostly because I wouldn't want anyone to try to break my relationship. Fair's fair, karma, and all that, you know? I can't imagine how I would feel if I knew I was a reason someone had their heart broken. I know from experience that that is not the most pleasant experience and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
6 Jul 08
from your article,i found that you are quite pleasant and kind. i also don't wish to be the reason that someone had their heart broken too.beacuse i had ever to be that ones. you say' i wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy' .now i don't have the real enemy. if i have a enemy that he is a worset,i will follow the act with you have said.
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
Shucks! Now I feel like a real bad person, like I did a real evil thing. I envy you guys for being such good individuals who never caused anyone heartbreak ever.... I had no excuse really for my behavior, I did something inevitable and I cannot take it back.. Shucks! I feel so bad...
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
5 Jul 08
Not actually loved but gotten close. When I do is to break it off before it becomes impossible. I had an affair with a married woman once and left because I saw where it was going. Its always best, with things like this, to catch it in the making rather than let it grow and become unmanageable. A few tears is better than a murderous trauma.
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
That was a real wise decision. I'm glad you were clever enough to get out while you can. I just hope the "woman" took it easy as well.. You're right, better a few tears, than a murderous trauma...
@metschica25 (5405)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Hello, I just heard that song last night and was singing along to it . Good song indeed ! No , I have never been inlove with a married man , but was many years ago to someone who had a girfriend . Well , it wasnt inlove , but a crush . I have a male friend who has always wanted to be more , and can't let the idea of maybe an us one day , and I know I have and keep breaking his heart . He just cant be happy with anyone , and it pains me because he has much to offer a lady . I have had my hear broken in the past and i know what it feels like to love , or wanna be with someone you cant have . But when I met my fiance i just knew that was it , and that we would be happy , and the heart ache from the past was easy to let go , and I know now there are awesome men out there . I know that was random , but sometimes when I write I get that way . Have a great saturday
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
That was random alright, hehhe :D But I'm glad though that you're happy and contented right now... God bless...
@djmarion (4900)
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
i am not yet married and never did i involve myself to a married man but once in my life i also fell to a man that is "not free". i never know his real status like if he is married or not and sadly he really did not admit the fact. what i know is that he has a child, i just don't know about the mother. he keep on saying that he is not married and he just accidentally got the girl pregnant and has nothing to do with her, that time i want to believe him ( in fact i almost did) but call it woman instinct - i doubt him, there's something in him that wakes my doubt, no matter how he keep on saying that he doesn't love her and its me he really loves, my instinct tells otherwise. we parted ways few months after - i made sure he can't reach me anymore. i change my number and keep my way out of his. its hard to be involve to a person who can't tell you everything, a person who hides so many things from you.
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
Yes, it was hard for you I'm sure to believe him when there are doubts in your mind. I never hid my real status with my "ex". From the very start he knew that I'm marries; separated yes, but not legally. I already told him the consequences of falling in love with me and warned him not to but still, he did... Sigh... I wish he's happy now...
• United States
5 Jul 08
No never been fully inlove with a married man, Or woman in that case lol. though i was dating one guy, who never told me he weas engaged. i did have veary many feelings for him..and then when i found out. it was so hard to let go.
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
yeah, that's what my "ex" told me so, it was hard to let go... yet, I pushed him hard.. He has to let go for his own good...
• Singapore
5 Jul 08
wel it sounds so weird i mean how can you just love a person who is already engaged with someone so deeply that's y they got married naa... and it also not nice to love a married male or female..... yes if they are interested in you thats really a opposite case then...
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
Yup, it isn't nice to love a married person alright, maybe I should go on living alone then, I wouldn't want anybody to commit a big mistake by having a relationship with me.
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
4 Jul 08
yes , i have & it's a terrible situation to get yourself in. it's one situation you need to stay away from. it will break your heart.
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
Yeah, I can dig that feeling...
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
ofcourse you can get attracted, but control come on. you know what's right or wrong, don't force it if it's wrong.
5 Jul 08
yes my wife
@successlog (3172)
• China
5 Jul 08
hello my friend I am a mature young man.I have not married with a girl.and i have my own girlfriend before.she is also a cute and smart girl i met in my life.I am older than her.But later,we were apart due to different characters.I really loved her before. For this topic i discuss. I never loved a married girl unless we love each other seriously and genuine in heart ,but she didn't marry before.Thus, I think it is woeth to love her.and in this condition, I think it will not hurt the third party. I hope it is helpful to you.thanks
• India
5 Jul 08
For me love means caring each other with full attention. Yes, I have loved married woman who have lost her husband. As she needs a male and I need also her beauty, we involved with each other. Almost 2 years we are intensed love making. Almost every alternate day we meet each other and explore each other's body. I have really a nice experience with a married and experienced lady like her. Now I am staying at different place but still we talk to each other. I have great respect for her. We still love each other and believe each other. But can't meet as earlier times.