do you get affected whatever problem your friends have?

i love my friend and she is like my family because her boyfriend is my boyfriends cousin and we have been knowing each other from 8 years.so if she is hurting then i am too.

Yes, I'm always affected especially when they asked me to help them or give them some advice. As much as possible, I want to help them except if it's about "MONEY". I'm concern what happening to them and ofcourse I want to help and give some advice because I'm their friend. Friends should help each other no matter what happen.

it deoends. i am not saying i am so great that i always take the problem of all my freinds as mine. but it depends how much close I am and also how severe the problem is.

If the friend is really close to me, I get affected. Once, I had this two friends. We met here at the office in 2001. They fell in love and got married about 2 years ago. the three of us were so close that I even got both of them to be my godparents for my confirmation ceremony. Things did not work out between them and they had their marriage annulled. I was so flabbergasted by the whole thing. Until now, I still couldn't believe it actually happened. I also refused to get involve in any of the court proceedings as I was really affected.

Yes I do too! although i usually try to not be so affected by these things, cos I know that it is not something I can deal with or help with most of the time. I learnt something during a recent seminar that has been quite helpful to me - that I must differentiate between the things i can be responsible for and the things i can only influence instead of feeling like I should take it upon myself to change. So I will provide a listening ear, but I would try to sympathise and not try so hard to empathise, although most of the time there is a very fine line between the two.

I do get affected by my friend's problem. I can somehoe feel whatever it is that they feel. Somehow I am connected to my friends.

Obviously I get affected regarding happenings in my friends' life. I though do not have too many friends still whenever I see them in a distressed condition, I tend to get deeply involved in sorting out their difficulties. I feel like as if I am suffering from the same problem. It disturbs my already squeezed sleep as well. I have always wanted to see people around me happy and joyful.

well, it depends on how close i am with the person... if i am really really close, then i will definitely get affected as well and i will try my best to help him or her... but if the person is only my ordinary friend, then i won't be affected that much even though i will still try to help him/her as much as i can... take care and have a nice day...

Friendship is such a bond that friends sorrows and joys both become your own. But at the time of sorrows it is better to keep clear mind so that one is able to comfort and do the right thing for the friend who is in trouble.

i do get affected as well, but I know where I stand. If I can help then I would love to do anything withi my capabilities.I think that when we love our friends and if that friendship is so unique and special, you can do anything to help a friend. and feel sorry if riends arises in her/his way and you get afected as well.

yes most of the time I have a great deal of empathy for others, I wish that I could help my friends more but I can't and it is very hard when you know that it is impossible to help others as you would like to. Sometimes life is very hard.

I have some wonderful friends in my life that I love with my whole heart . I would and do do anything for them . It pains me when I see them suffer , or if i cat give them the help i need . I have always been one who can feel others pain . I have many friends who are far away and it is hard , because I always feel if I was there things might be better . like my best friend when she is having a day i can give her all the support on her or on the phone , but i wish i was there face to face so we can talk , and i ca hug her , and maybe then we could go out and have fun . We only get to see one another maybe 10 times a year , Then I have another dear person to me that lives in Ghana , now that is impossible.

Nope. I could only give them advice.

Friends used to be a big part of my life until they constantly let me down. Now I just have a few good ones. When they have problems, I used to always worry and I was constantly trying to figure out a way to help. But it never seems to come back around to me when I need help. Therefore, now I just do what I can. Their problems aren't on my mind night and day.

hi jhoen! i get affected with my friends' problems especially if i can't do nothing about it. it makes me feel helpless and useless as a friends. makes me feel i am not a good friend. my friend's problem would be bugging me, bugging my conscience. so i just do whatever i can to help my friend, even if its only through praying that i can help them.

Hi jHoEn! Yes, I usually get affected with the problems or whatever trials my friends are going through. I wouldn't let them see it most of the times because I don't want them feeling guilty of telling me their problems. I want them to know that I can be their shoulder to cry on and that they can draw strength from me. I know that they know I get affected but I don't really show them that I cry for them. And my friends do feel the same way towards me. I really don't get angry whenever they do something stupid, I just tell them the pros and cons of what they did but will always be there to hold their hand and be behind them all the way whether I agree or disagree with what they have decided to do in the end. Take care and God bless!

It really feels bad if you know your friend is in need. And you are right there, you cannot do something to help him. And that is really disappointing for me...

Yes, I do. For my friend, if they have some problem, they will tell me, and if I have I will tell them. We solve those problem together. That's really great to make friend like them.

..before, I was really attached to my friends.. If they have problems, it burdens me too.. If they are lonely, i'm lonely too and i'm happy when they're happy... later I realized maybe I was wrong.. I am suppose to uplift them when they are down and not to cry with them and feel sorry for them.. i got to be strong for my friend because she relies on me.. I further realized that I can't make good suggestions and sound advice to her when I feel the same way with her.. so I change.. I became aware of whats going on and I tried to laugh when she's crying.. I tried to look for other alternatives to divert her attention when she's being burdened.. because I want to help her move on.. I want to let her feel that life isn't sad at all.. instead, there are always two sides of the story.. we just have to discover the right time to sympathize and emphatize with our friends..

Me too!i want to share their sadness.If they don`t want to hold their problems back...especially i always feel their upset emotion...i became crasier and crasier...