how old should you stop having kids
By dix19on
@dix19on (118)
United States
July 7, 2008 7:05am CST
hi im 38 year of age.And i have three kids. i want to have more kids my oldest is 22 my twins daugther are 16.is this a stage.My hubby wants know more kids and he's getting old now saying he has no concern for baby right now .he want to live his life now all his kids are all grown up.do you think this is fare.
3 responses
@PearlGrace (3171)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Hello dix19on.
This is a very tough question, whether to have more children when you are 38 and already have 3 kids. I would say that this depends on many factors:
1--Do you currently live financially comfortably, thus adding another child will not stress your finances. This is the most important because, as you know, kids require a lot of stuff, and cost a lot. If money is no option, then, that's cool.
2--Are you up to the challenge of going through a pregnancy, being up all night with the baby, diapers, bottles, the whole tamale?
3--Having a baby now means you will be 56 when the child is 17 or 18. (I can tell you that I am now in my mid50s and would sooner have all my teeth pulled without novacaine than be dealing with a teenager, but that's just me).
4--Do you and your husband agree on having another one? This is important because it's best for the kids to have 2 active, caring, somewhat energetic parents.
5--What else do you want to do with your time and your life? Are there other avenues you haven't explored but wanted to and couldn't afford the money or time because you were raising kids?
6--How do you and hubby feel about raising one child alone, as it sounds like the others will be mostly gone by the time the little one is growing up? For some people, that's no problem, for others, it is.
7--Make sure your reason to have another child is not just fears that you will not be needed or important to others. I mention this because as a counselor, I have actually seen this occur when people begin to fear the "empty nest syndrome" (i.e. their kids will all be gone and they won't know what to do with themselves).
It is a very personal choice, dix29on. I am sure there are many other factors to consider in your own case. Take care.
@PearlGrace (3171)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Well, I hope that doesn't upset you too much (about your husband not wanting more kids).
Maybe this is a good time to make a list of lots of new, fun, interesting things you would like to do, try, or experiment with.
That way, you can be brave and do some very different activities.
Who knows, you may find some other hobbies and activities that you absolutely love, as much as you love myLot, that is.
Hang in there, dix19on. You never know what is around the next corner...
@luvstochat (6907)
• United States
7 Jul 08
My mother was 41 years old when she had me. I am normal I don't have down syndrome. I don't know if would want anymore kids after my oldest was all the way grown up I would be ready for grandkids but everyone is different.
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Well, they normally tell you that after 35 years of age, you increase your risk for Down's Syndrome with your child.. But then again, this may not be so true.. I have seen many women go past this age in giving birth.. The baby comes out very healthy as well.. With me, I would want to stop having children at 40. I am now 29.. If God desires me to have them up to that age, then, I have nothing to say..




