what's wrong with an athletic girlfriend?

I think you are right. Your boyfriend might be insecure because you are sporty and around guys all the time plus the fact that it IS expensive if there are no sponsors. If you are getting into debt because of the competitions, then I think there is a big problem. Even if it your passion, having it as one will not pay your debt. What's the use of being fulfilled if you cant even find the money to pay for the debt? More than anything, talk to your boyfriend. He should be supportive also and see it on a different angle too. I think you guys aren't just communicating as much. Goodluck and hope you do the right thing.

There is nothing wrong with being athletic. I think that your boyfriend is just trying to make up excuses as to why you shouldn't play because he feels insecure. Guys want to feel like they are the protector and provider and when you are going out there, doing your own thing and showing that you are physically strong and capable, it makes your boyfriend feel like you dont need him and therefore less of a man. And guys can be extremely jealous. My boyfriend hates for me to hang out with other guys unless they have girlfriends. But dont let these things stop you from doing what you enjoy. It may make him happy for a while, but if you give in he'll try to be even more controlling and stubborn. And in the end you will both be miserable. I think you should sit down and talk to him about it and let him know that he is important to you and show him that even though you are athletic and independent, you still need him. Guys are weird; don't let 'em worry you too much.

tell him it is your life and not his.

I believe that if you enjoy doing it and if you are good at it and you are willing to pay for it,then you should do it. I don't know if your boyfriend is jealous or what,but if you are paying for it and you want to do it,then I say he has no say in the matter. Explain to him, that this means a lot to you and that you want to do it and that you want him to be supportive.

Why should he be mad at you? I think a guy who considers you significant or valuable must support your interests, your crave for development and advancement, not only as a woman but as a person. Will he be paying your debt or help you at least? That's your money anyway so spend it the way you want to spend it and if sports is your passion and what makes you happy, then go for it! He must be insecure because if I were an athletic bf (which is also considered a celebrity in his own right) I would be very proud of him. Perhaps he is quite conservative and a bit insecure so if you love him, try to talk him out of this but you think you don't deserve him since he can't seem to understand and accept you as you are, then let him go and look for someone who loves you as you are.

I think he does that probably because he cares about you and handles money wisely.

Dump this guy as fast as you can…he is not your friend but an egomaniac who would only go on making life hell for you, once you are legally bound to him as his wife. If he is imposing restrictions on you from now on, just think what will happen post marriage. These types cant improve themselves and cant take somebody else overtaking them (specially girls) sportingly, too.

Do what you're passionate about, that's what makes you happy in life. Who cares what he thinks. It's your time, your money, and your business. Time to get a new boyfriend if that's what he gets mad about.

first of congrats for all your success. i wish you all the best for your champion ship and all. i think you are a nice sports person. there is nothing wring in being athletic. all can't do so. your Bf must be proud.

Hey red, in my opinion I think your boyfriend is right when it comes to putting yourself into debt unless you have means of getting out of that debt soonest. yes that sport is your passion but he also has feelings and he thinks he is going to loose you to some international guy or the guys who are around you. Balance your equation well before making a decision. If you think you are going to win the sport and bring home some money then you can go but if you wont then I think you can do your sport in your homecountry and spend less or if you have a sponsor then its ok.

redtmd800 my goodness he should be proud of you not upset with you. if he is that insecure he had better do some soul searching and grow up a bit.you sure do not want to thinkof marriage to a man who doesnt want you to be around people, specially guys. lots of wife abusers start out with being jealous and then become physically violent. they want to control the person they supposedly love. I would not let him push me around. go on and row, who knows you might one day be in the olympics. lol.

I think your boy friend may be scared that you will be greater than him, ,or scared that you will be courted by other guys. His mind is not healthy to think so, it's good for a girl to be active and meet a lot people. Having social life is better than non. Try to talk to your boy friend so that he understand about these.

Hello redtmd800, Please don't let anyone, I mean anyone stop you from your passion, if you do you will regret it for the frest of your life and will hate your boyfried too. Now what if you gave up on your sports for him and the six months down the line you break up with him for some petty reasons,the what, you hve lost your chances for your passion for your sport and your boyfriend. Left with nothing. !Take my advice Join the world champion in penang and good luck in the drangonboat rowing! "DON'T MISS OUT ON A CHANCE OF A LIFE TIME PLEASE! Regards Tamarafireheart.

I dont think there is anything wrong with an athletic girl. I love to exercise and I used to play sports until I went to college. My boyfriend doesn't mind. I believe the issue in your situation is just that your boyfriend is jealous, sad, and insecure that you are going away. He is just afraid that he will lose you and he's trying to make it seem that you joining this team is impractical in order for you to hopefully quit. He's just masking his real feelings since he isn't telling you why. I believe you should just talk to him. Tell him that this is your passion and if he loves you he will support you.

Well for an athletic girl then you must be able to explain to your BF that is your passion and you need that kind of activity to make you passion alive. There's nothing wrong with that but maybe your BF is just trying to tell you what about him? Where is he in your pursuit of your passion? Can you live without your passion for swimming for him? For sure feeling insecure is the right term in there but you have to put your foot in his shoe perhaps you might be able to understand where his concerns are.