your boyfriend suffered from sickness,will you get ashamed of him?

Philippines
July 8, 2008 11:25am CST
What if your boyfriend confessed to you that he was diagnosed that he has a lung problem?will you treat him as the way you do before he told you about his health?My boyfriend got a work to Algeria.The visa was applied and all is set for him to go there.but he got a problem on his medical,the x-ray findings has gone negative because he was caught to have a lung problem.At first he was just quiet about this until i've noticed that everytim we talked he was just like going somewhere like he will not going back.He told me about his problem,i'm here to give him support.But his mind is set on this health problem,he pity 's himself.He always say that i might go away from him and leave him,it hurts me when he say that co'z i would do everything for him.But he kept on bothering me about that.
8 responses
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
9 Jul 08
may i know who's the guy? hahahahaha i cant remember him lol... anyway, if i would be in your shoes i would probably do the same, support him to the best that i can... but you cant blame him coz it usually happened to anybody there. he might be too scared that you'll leave him like what others do... but just stay beside him and show him that what he's thinking is wrong... cheez!
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
10 Jul 08
awwww. wish i will meet him this coming october.. ill be there in manila for a short vacation...
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
You have'nt got a chance to meet him because you've flown to Australia.Yahh!!friend your right about that,he's now making conclusions about what could happen in the end.Many what if's,and now i'm trying to understand how he feels now.And i feel bad that i could not make it to be in his side because his far from me.He is now in Bicol.It would be effective if i am on his side but I have a work now and so busy that i could'nt take a leave....Huuhuhuh!!!
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
hmmm..I've actually been in your situation. My boyfriend had hepatitis back then...to the worst level probably, like his skin turned yellowish and stuff like that. I never left his side. He was afraid to kiss me and stuff like that but I never changed how I treated him. I was there to support him and to take care of him. And thank God...his now well and healthy once again. Ü So, yeah, go girl...just support your bf. He would be better soon!
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
yeah, he really took care of himself...and i was there to support and take care of him as well. I'm sure you're boyfriend will be better. Ü
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
Really!!Good thing he got recovered.And all your persevirance got a good outcome.I would do all the support for him.He told me that he could not kiss me and hug me anymore cause he is afraid he might pass his virus to me.We can't blame sick person cause they've become very sensitive.But now i'm handling it slowly.Hope he gets well.Thanks donsky!!
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
9 Jul 08
If he is fully recovered, I will still kiss her without fear, ofcourse, if it was TB and she is still sick, kissing her would be unfair to oth of us, I wouldnt do that, but I will give her the support she needs unti she recovers
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
That's the thing i'll do for sure.I will make him feel that I am always here.We won't of course risk our health for that,but we still need to be there for our partner.Maybe i'll just make the most when he gets fully recovered.Thanks for your response.Have a great day ahead of you!!
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
I think you just to have more patience. Understand him more now. Love him more somehow he will realize that when he is alright. Just tell him your sickness is curable and you can wait for him to be better. At this time he feels the pain that is why his grouchy. Anyone doesn't want their love once to see them in pain. Just up lift his self esteem. That everything will work out fine. You will always be there for him it's like better and for worst. And be strong! Have a nice day!
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
Hi n30wing!!!Thank you,that really helps.Now he is not letting me to be near him.But i always keep on touch of him.You're right anyone does'nt want their love to see them in pain.I always understand his being self-pity.Now everytime we talk i just want him to feel happy,forget that he is sick.We just act normal.Thanks for your response!!!
• United States
8 Aug 08
If I were you I will stand by him and give him all the support he needed.If you love someone no matter what you do evrything to him.If you ashamed of you bf bcoz of his sick then thats not love.Anyway I hope and pray that its not a serious lung problem.
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
Hi baleleng,actually i've been very patience to him especially now.I can't blame him for being not so nice to me this past few days,maybe he's just being bothered by this sickness.Actually it's not that serious and can be treated for about 6 mos.,with continous medication he will be alright.Hope i could be a good inspiration to him.Thanks for your response
24 Jul 08
NO because anyone can suffer from a sickness i will just be by his side until i know he is ok.....make him feel good and do whatever i can to make him happy.....you cant be ashamed of him because if it was your mom you wouldnt be ashamed of her....jus let him know sit him down and tell him that unless he does something to hurt you personally that sickness cant mess up your realtionship because its just life
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
Hi sheree!!!thanks for that.Sickness would definately won't make me ashame with my boyfriend.You are right that his sickness could not hurt me personally.Now he is ok and i never left him until he became ok.He is now making up on his weight that he lost his weight so much.Thank God that we made it.And with that our relationship became very strong!!
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
8 Jul 08
What kind of lung problem does he have? The doctor must have told him what the condition is.
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
The doctor did'nt told him exactly what it is,maybe their not sure about it.They conduct another x-ray.But my boyfriend still kept on panicing even if its not been stated as a very serious illness.He was really bothered because his whole life he would never imagine to be in this kind of illness.Thinking that he is not a smoker.What about that,i'll tell you sooner as we get the final result.Thanks for your response!!
• China
8 Jul 08
Communication is important to you two.Make him know your love and worry.
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
Yes!!that's what i am doing now.I never missed a day talking to him,making him feel that i love him so much.That I would do anything for him.I am carefull for all my actions and words now that before.I don't want him to feel sad and angry at this moment.All i do is take care of him,and stay with him until he gets full recovered.Thanks for your thoughts.