will you help ur father?

@joyines (239)
Singapore
July 8, 2008 8:42pm CST
will u help ur father if he is now staying wt other girl.and not only the girl ur father will feed that includes the girl's son, girls'bother and all of them are not working.if ur father is the only 1 to work of course he will b having a hard time and ask ur support.(say u hav a good job) do u think its ok if not to help him since he is already old enough to b responsible on his action?
2 responses
@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 08
Hi Joyines, I'm going to be unkind and say I won't. After all, it's not like he's alone or sick. My duty is to my parents, family and siblings; but not his girlfriend and her family. If he wants the fun of having a girlfriend, then he should pay for that fun.
@joyines (239)
• Singapore
9 Jul 08
thanks.i really feel the same way.but actually last time he ask me money he said he dont feel well.i think its not that serious sickness. i told him that i really wanted to help him even my brothers too but we feel so upset knowing his situation.since im workig overseas i always think of my parents and whats best for them in the future.but based on my younger brothe whos staying wt my dad, he said that the girl really controls everythng even the money i sent b4, she even always answer my dads fon everytime i called.now i heard they are always having an argument cos my father dont earn much lately
9 Jul 08
I agree to some extent but this woman is being a bit unfair. Don't you think?
@RastamanG (385)
9 Jul 08
If you can afford it you should help him, he is your dad and without him you wouldn't be here and you only ever get one dad, im sure he would be very grateful if you helped out, but you should tell him the others need to work aswell and make themselves some money so it is not up to him to pay for everything.
@joyines (239)
• Singapore
9 Jul 08
thanks for ur responce.i really appreciate it.actually i did already help my da b4. but lately i feel so feed up of everythng.im woking overseas and its not really that easy to work and save money.what just made me feel fraustated is that is seems those people that is not my family or even relative is also benefited to my hard work.they are very stubborn and they make as an excuse that they havnt finish school.my dad is a very hardworking man.but everything now is very expensive.when i talk to him he said never mind if u cant help me i need her and i cant leave her. im so sad abt what he said.coz i love him so much and wanted to help him...but i thnk i should also giv him a lesson.its too obvious that the girl is just using my dad
9 Jul 08
Yeah i feel for you, that is very upsetting, that woman that he is in love with and that is in his house spending his money and making her look after her kids that aint even his should be working to and balance out the bills between them. Even the kids could get jobs, hell... i was looking for a job whilst i was still at school, I WANTED to earn money so i could buy the things i like in life they should do the same and find themselves a job. I myself am at college now and have a part time job, my dad lives with just me in a big house (nothing fancy just a big house) and i dont need his support although he is there for me if i ever need it and we have a very close relationsip. I hope things work out well for you and your dad, its a pleasure to help you out.