Should children be banned from weddings?

I dont understand what the world is coming too. I mean is everybody forgetting that they were children once and the kind of noise and tantrums they used to throw as children. Are we grown ups becoming more intolerant to children. I am really ashamed that the church is thinking of barring children from attending weddings. What a shame!! Coming to the second point about why should not we clap for the newly weds. I mean why are people invited for the wedding is it not to share the happiness. Then why such a rule that you should not clap. Going forward I see the clergy men saying that nobody needs to attend the marriage except for the bride, groom and themselves. What a shame!!!

Maybe the answer is to ban clergymen (and women) from weddings. That way they'd not be annoyed by the youthful whoops and shrieks of joy as the "happy couple" begin their blissful life together and which for at least 30% of them will not reach its tenth anniversary. I thought that it was higher than that even. Other things that should be banned at wedding ceremonies are guests, families, especially those that weep, hymns (and hers), sermons or speeches of any kind. Music, order of service and white dresses. Birds should be scared away and the only sound should be a single, doleful bell tolling away to warn locals of the event. Oh, and not on Saturdays, especially in towns or cities as it interrupts the shopping. That just about covers it I think.

Hi ruby, I will not be supporting that. I believed children's presence add excitement and happiness in the ceremony.I have attended several wedding and never I had encounter that kids was noisy and unruly..There maybe times that you will hear a little noise and cry but parents will be able to control them! I also don't like the idea of being reserved when the announcement during the exchanging of vows..that is very hypocrite, we always want to show our happiness and support for the couple and we have to be transparent about the feeling!

NO, of course not. Basically I choose not to attend things if my daughter is 'not allowed'. There are certainly situations where I would likely get a babysitter because I don't think that she would have any fun but I usually tell people who invite me to things where 'children are frowned on' that they might as well not invite me, as that is very rude. I almost want to include a little something about events or parties *I* throw being only for 'child-friendly' folks, people who don't mind being around kids. People who dislike kids rub me the wrong way. They were kids once, and somebody had to put up with THEM, and somebody did or they never would have made it to adulthood. They should think about that and be grateful. I don't know about you but if I had a large wedding, I would definitely want some partying and noise going on! A wedding is a celebration, a celebration of the love and commitment of a couple, and usually you have friends and family there. Who in the world doesn't want to party on a day like that?!

I don't agree to banned the children during weddings.What if the couple have already children before they get married.This is a very special moment in their life they should share it with the kids so they should be there in the ceremony.Children normally are noisy because they are just kids they never understand whats hapening around but they can be told and behave.Clapping our hands after the wedding means to honor the newly we couple and share with their happiness.I don't think theres something wrong with that.We should all be happy do,its a moment to celebrate!

i would absolutely decline participating or attending a wedding if i were asked NOT to include or bring my child. I know that sometimes kids can make noise & stuff but you're also celebrating bringin someone new into the family. Children are our family too. they should be included.

As children are a natural part of life and marriage and many children do know how to behave at important events I think that parents should bring them.I think that if the children get unruly and loud that their parents should take them out and alleviate the interruption. But banning children from anything like this is a bad idea. What about people who are getting married who have small children?

Children are a part of a family. Personally I don't think it is a problem for them to be at the ceremony. It is a celebration that all can attend.

I have issues with ppl who dont want children involved ESPECIALLY if the couple getting married HAVE children of their own...I'll never understand that.. My kids were not at my wedding but my husband also said vows to them and put on them each a gold necklace (we all have one)

No, why should they ? Don't you remember with a certain happiness all the weddings you attended when you wrere a child ? Children are not in any way a nuisance once they are made to behave. So make sure your guests are aware that children are to behave properly when they attend and that will be it.

I've worked at quite a few churches in the past 40 years - as a paid worker and as a volunteer - and I have never met a clergyman/woman who didn't want children at the wedding. It's a celebration of the holy matrimony of two people. Of course children should be there! How else are they going to know how beautiful weddings are? That being said, I HAVE met a number of brides who wanted no part of any kids at their wedding ceremony or reception. That's been going on forever - just look at back copies of Dear Abby or Ann Landers. Perhaps it's mostly brides who don't want the young ones at the weddings and they're blaming clergy? That could be. I have never understood that attitude either. Sure, if the reception is some fancy shmancy affair, it might be best if the only kids there were in the wedding party. But for the ceremony and most receptions, I think kids add to the festivities. Hmmm. Perhaps that's it. Brides don't want to share the limelight?

No, they should not. Weddings are supposed to be happy, noisy, bustling affairs. I suppose they can control the interruptions by advising parents to discipline their children, or to bring crying kids out from the service, but to ban children totally is almost equivalent to denying them the joyful experience of a wedding.

no they shouldn't.. they too have their own rights...

I am sorry but if the children are close to the couple who are getting married, then it should not matter. Remember kids will be kids and if newly weds now them they will not care. It is not the clergymens wedding so he has no say! The round of applause should be loud and heard from where you sit. Doing this will show that the newly weds have made an excellent decition and be very happy knowing that every one else is happy too.

I really don't find children a bothersome at churches whether it be weddings or Sunday mass/worship. I think this clergy is too much of a strict person. I do believe that early on children should be exposed to churches activities so that they will learn eventually how he would behave inside the church. Applauding the couple is just but normal in a wedding and should be allowed.

Of course not. Children should never be banned from weddings. Weddings will never be the same without the whole family being present including the children. Whatever made these clergymen think that children should be banned from weddings? Who cares about the noise? If the bride and the groom do not mind the noise the children make during their wedding, the clergymen has not right complain about it either.

I think children should not be banned in wedding ceremonies. Why? Its just because, children adds color to the certain moment, that the couple will be more inspired in raising their future family having a good son and daughter if they got to see children around them...And, besides, children can be advised to behave in the said ceremony...

I see nothing wrong with children attending the wedding. I believe they should not be disallowed. If ever, maybe the parents will have to just look after them and see to it that they do not do any any noise. Only those children who are really unruly and disturbing the ceremony should perhaps be taken out by their own parents. Actually children adds joy and glitter when they are joining in the entourage. They are a beautiful sight to behold during the wedding march. Maybe the couple should not include too young children in the entourage but only those who can follow instructions already. Those clergymen should not consider children as nuisance and they must remember how Jesus himself regarded and loved the children as in the proceeding Bible verses: Mark 10:13-16 The Little Children and Jesus 13People were bringing little children to Jesus to have him touch them, but the disciples rebuked them. 14When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. 15I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it." 16And he took the children in his arms, put his hands on them and blessed them. On 2nd debatable issue. I again do not see anything wrong with giving round of applause to the couple after they having been pronounced as husband and wife. It is an expression of happiness on the part of loved ones and friends alike and cheering them is a sign of giving them the moral support for a new life they have just started.

I think that the entire family children included should be there to help celebrate the special day and I also feel that cheers should be loud and filled with love and jubilation for the happy couple.

hmmm i don't think there is a problem tagging along a child on a wedding..