Who's the boss

@p1kef1sh (45696)
July 10, 2008 9:11am CST
I was asked recently who has the upper hand in our house. My wife or I. Well of course anyone that knows me will know that women always have the upper hand with me. That doesn't make me a pushover though. Oh well, yes it does. But who wears the trousers in your house. You or your partner?
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@nannacroc (4049)
10 Jul 08
We both wear trousers. Mr Croc is the boss and has my permission to say so. I hold the purse strings because he's no good with money. Major decisions we discuss and then he does what I think is right.
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
10 Jul 08
Mr Croc and I are so alike in many ways. We both know our place, at least where you are concerned!! May I get up now. My knees are beginning to hurt.
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@nannacroc (4049)
10 Jul 08
No you can't you haven't cleaned in the corners.
@p1kef1sh (45696)
10 Jul 08
Can;t reach them. Don't you have a better feather duster than this? The bird that donated these feather clearly preferred the crue cut look.
• Regina, Saskatchewan
10 Jul 08
I rather think this answers the question about me rather well! LOL So YOU decide who wears the pants in my family! "She's the kind of girl you bring home to your mother She looks good in blue jeans even better under covers She's a devil in bed between the sheets Ask her if she's a saint and she'll get down on her knees and pray Yeah yeah yeah" Courtesy of the 'Silvertones' musical group.
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
10 Jul 08
I'm sure that it does Sparky. Sounds just like you.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
10 Jul 08
I'm so cool people write songs about me! LOL And the group is Silvertide not Silvertones! LOL So many songs about me to keep track of.....*sigh*
@p1kef1sh (45696)
10 Jul 08
Such modesty in one so young Sparky! Silvertide? Sounds like the stage of life I'm at right now.
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@myklj999 (47879)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I'm lucky (?) in that I'm single (the world couldn't handle two of me) so I don't have to share my pants with anyone. Although if the right woman were to come along, she could have my pants and anything else she wanted!
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@myklj999 (47879)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I don't think I'm looking as much as just waiting to be found...
@p1kef1sh (45696)
10 Jul 08
Enjoy your freedom. LOL. She's there somewhere. You'll know her when you see her I've no doubt.
@myklj999 (47879)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Reminds me of a story I heard. A guy and his lady had just got married. He began informing her that he wore the pants, and he would make all the decisions. At which point she calmly handed him a pair of her pants and said "put these on". He looked at them and said "I can't get into these pants" to which she replied "and you never will if you don't change your attitude!"
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@littleowl (7157)
10 Jul 08
Hi p1kefish a lot of men let the women have the upper hand in the house-but being single now its still me who has the upper hand as only my son lives with me -your friend littleowl
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
10 Jul 08
Not in my house Littleowl. I definitely know my place. I am told and I pay. Works quite well in fact. Ask the poster above. She'll tell you.
@littleowl (7157)
10 Jul 08
Yeah nannacroc is right in her case and you in yours..its always been the other way round with me and being divorced its different in my case littleowl
@Vladilyich1 (1454)
• Canada
10 Jul 08
We are on an absolutely equal basis. If we reach an impasse on a decision, neither has priority. We flip a coin.
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
10 Jul 08
I love that idea. I must try it. If my wife lets me!!
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• Canada
11 Jul 08
That works for us. My husband and I can always reach an agreement.
@suehan1 (4345)
• Australia
11 Jul 08
well i am the one that wears the pants here as it is only me and the children.i am glad mrs pk1e has trained you well and you agree the woman always knows best or has the upper hand.lol.cheers sue
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
11 Jul 08
I know my place Sue. LOL.
@ruby222 (4848)
10 Jul 08
One leg each...how does that sound?,,but my leg is slightly longer!I know that isnt a terribly good explanation,but its the truth!I lull Mr Ruby into a false sense of security and then I go for the jugular lolol....No..he makes a decision,then I finalise it.
@p1kef1sh (45696)
10 Jul 08
That's what allotments were built for Ruby. So that he can go there and contemplate his next request, or occupy the dog house. You've missed the 7.10 by the way.
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10 Jul 08
Yes as I ran into Alfreton station it was pulling out,I waved frantically but they were stoking up at the time and didnt notice me there.The train left in a billow of smoke,and I was alone on the platform,weeping.Ohhhhh that was a good excuse!!lol...
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@ruby222 (4848)
10 Jul 08
I was running behind Denny and I stumbled!!..or she tripped me one or the other...anyway no worries theres always another day tomorrow.
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
The guys in everything tries to be dominant. Most men earns the most rather than women (I'm thinkin' bout Fortune magazine...lols), but you see a house without a woman is dull. I don't want it to look like a battle of the sexes, but the house is a woman's domain and we work well within it. Thinkin about budget management, kids, house rules and order, food, etc. these are best jobs for women. So if you're thinkin about the house, women rules! Other domains of course is another story...hahaha!
@p1kef1sh (45696)
12 Aug 08
I agree with you. In fact many women make good bosses too.
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
And more compassionate than men bosses. Oooooppsss...no offense guys!
@p1kef1sh (45696)
12 Aug 08
Usually. To men at least!
@SViswan (12065)
• India
12 Aug 08
hmmm...lol...neither of us. We both are having a tug of war with the pants. We once decided to get one leg for each of us....but we ended up going in different directions. If someone asks me the question you asked and my husband isn't around, I answer, 'I wear the pants of the house and I have my husband's permission to say so'. And if he is asked he says, 'I wear the pants of the house and I have my wife's permission to say so'. Now, who do YOU think should be wearing the pants in my family?
@p1kef1sh (45696)
12 Aug 08
Only you can answer that. But if I were your husband I would probably say that you do. LOL.
@SViswan (12065)
• India
12 Aug 08
lol...I think I should but I never get it to wear it.....even when he doesn't really need them, I find him wearing the pants!
@p1kef1sh (45696)
12 Aug 08
When you find him wearing a sari is the time to worry!! LOL.
@skinnychick (6906)
• United States
13 Jul 08
That would be me. I'm much too feisty to let someone else wear the pants. Most people can't fit into my pants anyway. :)
@p1kef1sh (45696)
13 Jul 08
I'd like to try getting into your pants. That doesn't sound right!! (Rude boy).
• United States
13 Jul 08
I went fishing and you bit!! LOL Thanks for the fabulously witty remark...You have to be pretty good to get into my pants, they are tight! LOL
@p1kef1sh (45696)
13 Jul 08
That's the THONG of my life Thiknny. Didn't know I had a lithp did you?
@moneyandgc (3429)
• United States
13 Aug 08
Well, my husband calls me "the boss" so I guess it's me. It is not that he is a pushover but that he likes to make me happy. I don't take advantage of it. I give as much as I take. I like to make him happy too so I am assuming that is why he does it for me. The real boss in our family is about 2 feet tall with brown ringlets and can get anything she wants by saying, "I bub you!"
@p1kef1sh (45696)
13 Aug 08
I used to have one of those (see photo on my profile page) but she's grown into the Incredible Hulk. Approach with care as "you won't like me when I'm angry"! LOL.
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
Okay, I bow unto that little bundle of joy. I too was guilty about who's the boss when that little bundle of joy smiles.
@mtdewgurl74 (18159)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Well, I feel that we both wear the pants so to speak. But He wears them about 55% and Me the other 45% of the time. He has to let me have upper hand sometimes...he would starve if he didn't..lol Nah just kidding..But I do take the upper hand sometimes if I didn't I would feel as though I have no say in my own home or marriage.Gotta put that foot down sometimes..
@p1kef1sh (45696)
23 Jul 08
That sounds very balanced. But I bet if I asked him the same question he would point at you!! LOL. We men know our place, especially when we have been married for a while!
@mtdewgurl74 (18159)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Nah, he is the type that will say he wears the pants about 75% of the time and me only a punny 25%.
@GreenMoo (11837)
11 Jul 08
I suppose it would be fairest to say that we wear a leg each!
@p1kef1sh (45696)
11 Jul 08
Just so long as you both walk in the same direction than you'll be alright!
@GreenMoo (11837)
11 Jul 08
I think that's where all our problems start to be honest. Perhaps we should take it in turns, though I'm not sure his undies are up to public strutiny.
@ellie333 (21018)
10 Jul 08
I just couldn't resist the lure of myLot now I'm back in from the garden and I am definitely wearing the trousers, covered in dirt having moved paving slabs and put turf down LOL. In a relationship I like there to be balance so equal really with both discussing and making decisions. In my most recent relationship though I believe I was the stronger but from an outsiders point of view looking in it may not have looked that way. I don't think it really matters as long as the couple are happy who is the boss, but Bruce Springstein certainly does it well eh! Ellie :D
@p1kef1sh (45696)
10 Jul 08
I got bored with being bored so started a discussion Ellie. Apart from Nova's birthday, my first this week. Bruce was "Born to Run" I think. Wonder how much use he'd be laying....... turf! Good for you. That's a job I've always thought that I could do, but never tried as I worked out is must be blooming hard work. Most best decisions are jointly agreed I think. That's what the Boss says anyway!!
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@ellie333 (21018)
10 Jul 08
LOL. It was hard work believe me, I ache in places I didn't even know I could ache in, I had a little helper bless and first thing in the morning have two tip runs to do, he has given up on his small slide and little tricycle bless and a few other bits, I also have my old freezer too that was an eccentric feature in the garden, most people have water fountains, I froze mine instead looked pretty good in amongst the pot plants LOL. I am glad the Boss agrees that you make your decisions jointly! When I start posting again I have a few ticklers! Got to get the garden sorted first though! Ellie :D
• United States
10 Jul 08
In my house its me because there is only me. LOL. But in my parents house my dad tries but everyone knows my mom wheres the pants in the family. I am not trying to be mean but when dad tries to he just looks funny. He is a soft hearted push over and my mom is the take charge get things done type.
@p1kef1sh (45696)
10 Jul 08
That's a familiar image. I'm the push over at home. Although I do try. I made chili, we ate it, I ate too much. Now I'm too bloated to clear! My wife will clear and I will suffer later. Where's the indigestion tablets?
• United States
11 Jul 08
Better than my dad, he thinks because he works all day he shouldn't have to cook although everyone else in the house works to. Maybe once a week he will cook.
10 Jul 08
I wouldnt dare think you were a pushover p1ke!! Just trying to imagine you in trousers since we have only seen you in a bra!! ha ha I would like to think that I wear the trousers in my house but not too sure. I think we #both wear them though not at the same time.
@p1kef1sh (45696)
10 Jul 08
That bra hangs over me like the sword of Damocles Cinders!! I am sure that you are the boss too.
10 Jul 08
I bet that bra is going to haunt you for the rest of your mylot life now!!! I think I am abit of a pushover aswell as I let my boyfriend get away with not doing things round the house but that is also a good thing as if I do it, I know its done and to the way I like it!! xx
@Dsraven (151)
• United States
12 Aug 08
my Dom/bf is wears the pants in this house...He listens to my opinions, etc. but He always has the last say..
@p1kef1sh (45696)
12 Aug 08
and you like it that way. It's the other way round here - without some of the additional items. LOL. Although I'm working on that.
13 Jul 08
You would be putty in my hands Fishy,its very rare that the man is the outright boss of the house.He maybe has an input,but all in all we females have our little ways you know.
@p1kef1sh (45696)
13 Jul 08
I know I know Ella. But I am putty in most women's hands!
@Mare73 (1335)
• United States
11 Jul 08
My fiance definitely wears the "pants" in the relationship. HOWEVER, we don't make any decisions big or small without consulting each other first and coming to a mutual agreement. When it comes to spending money, I pretty much get my way and but I always seeks his advice/guidance. I manage all the money but again, I keep him in the "loop". He wears the pants and proudly. He's the man in the relationship and he's the man of the house - and that's how it should be...IMO anyways.
@p1kef1sh (45696)
11 Jul 08
The main thing is that you have a say and that all major decisions are joint. Thank you Mare.
11 Jul 08
I think it goes both ways. But I am pretty sure my husband is the one who takes control. When I yell at the kids they stare at me, but when he yells they run like mad!!
@p1kef1sh (45696)
11 Jul 08
It's the opposite in our house. When I shout everyone bursts into tears. When my wife shouts we all jump about!